how do you cope with the brutal death of a family member?

Question

my cousin was found shot 2 days ago...

Answer 1

Jeez, usually I run around this site saying rude things, but I really hope you are going to be OK. I don't know what to say except if you are religious, talk to the church. Read a book by Dr. Brian Weiss. Talk with others who are hurt by this. Sometimes when I feel hurt, I go do something special for someone else. I donate time and teach children sports and art. It makes me feel great to joke with the kids and see the happiness they have. But there are many other ways to help people.

Answer 2

First my condolences to you and your family. Such a tragic death is never easy to cope with. You will have to take life day by day. It is times like this that even though you are surrounded by well-intentioned friends, sometimes you can feel so alone. You're not. Let those friends and other family members hold you up when you need it. Let them be your strength. Use their shoulders to cry on. And remember the good things about your cousin. The days ahead will be an emotional time for you, but you will be ok. (((Hugs)))

Answer 3

It's Rough,But Ya Gotta Keep On Gettin On,I Don't Pretend To Know What Cuz Was Up To Or Anything,But Be Careful Till They Catch The One That Shot Em,Too Bad

Answer 4

It is hard to deal with the death of a close family member. Only time will heal the pain. Each and every day it will get easier, I know that is hard to believe at this time but it will.
Stay close to your family and talk about your feelings.
God Bless you and your family.

Answer 5

First of all You and yours have my sincere condolences.There is a normal grieving process that you will go through.It will take time.Please seek out a Pastor or Priest to help you get through this time in your life.It just does not seem fair and you can seek and receive guidance trough a Pastor or Priest who know the right things to say and thing to have you do to get on with your life in a healthy way.God Bless.

Answer 6

I am so sorry for your loss! Grieving is a process with several stages, but everyone deals with it differently. You are probably numb right now, and this is what you can expect:

Shock/Denial:
A feeling of numbness can last hours to weeks. It is a period often described as "unreal", (i.e. being amazed to have made it through a euthanasia). Some reactions people experince during this stage are: having disorganized thoughts, feeling unaffected, thinking about suicide, feeling numb, being euphoric or hysterical, feeling outside their body, or being talkative, hyper or passive. Other people will feel in denial of the loss. (i.e. "I can't believe he is really gone...it just doesn't seem real.)

Searching/Yearning:
People will often find themselves acutely missing the pet that is gone. Individuals in this phase can be pre-occupied with thoughts of the deceased; they may have dreams about the pet who is gone. Reactions experienced may also include sensing that one sees or hears the pet outside their home. Feelings commonly experienced are intense pining, sadness, fear, anger, relief, irritability, guilt and yearning. Sometimes anger is not directed at the loss, but instead towards a family member, veterinarian, self or God. During this period individuals may find themselves bursting into tears at unexpected times. People may also experience physical illness, pain, weight change, fatigue and change in appetite.

Disorganization:
During this phase individuals are beginning to live their lives without their animal companion and learning new skills. This commonly leads to feeling disorganized, as well as needing to evaluate and learn different ways of managing life (i.e. how to fill that empty spot when coming home without someone to greet you).

Reorganization:
People in grief forget that grief is a process and that through this process, new coping skills are learned. The pet who is gone is usually never forgotten. In the case of death, most individuals never "get over" the loss. However, survivors learn to live with loss. The intensity of the loss changes, and a survivor can rejoin life. One finds that they can eat and sleep. Individuals may establish new relationships with pets. Sadness and crying still occur at times, while simultaneously increased happiness will be experienced.

There are support groups to help the families of crime victims. My two nephews were murdered in Mesa, along with their girlfriends and one girlfriends son - their former boss broke in their house and shot them all to death at point blank range because they'd turned him in for burning his own house down. I understand what you are going through, you have my sympathy.
God Bless You!

Answer 7

All I can say is take it one day at a time, and try to spend as much time with family and good friends.

Answer 8

Remember everything good about them, and IF they did any wrong, throw that thought out the window, and just remember, they are in a better place now. Jesus and God will not let any harm come to them, and they are in their own paradise.

Answer 9

I'm so very sorry for you loss.
I think if your insurance covers therapy then that would be a good option.
Only time will heal all.
Again I'm sorry for your loss. Best wishes.

Answer 10

I have no idea. I can't pretend to know how you are feeling at the moment. All I can say is, I'm really sorry for your loss.