I told my wife that his brother in law had to go. He has been living here for 2 yrs and I made a lot of sacrifices for my wife. Their mom died 2 yrs ago and that is why we took custody. But the boy is 15 and does not respect her when she punishes him. I try to ignore this but when I want to put my foot down my wife does not back me up. I told her to take the cables away from the tv but she did not do it and now I hear the tv on at his room. She just wants things to work out by themselves but it aint possible. I feel bad for the boy for loosing his mom 2 yrs ago but I have my family to worry about. My wife and 7 month baby girl are special to me and I am afraid my wife will choose her brother over me. I hate the feeling of loosing them so that is why I took the brother in and have accepted thistype of condition. I dont want my baby growing up this way but I fear loosing her anyways by giving her the choice of me or the brother. What to do?
2006-08-04 11:44:18 · 3 answers · asked by superdude 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your life change, irrovably, when you took custody. Life happens. You are now the guardian of a teen. It's a challenge on good days, especially with one that lost his mother.
You need family counseling, and you need to try and make him feel unconditionally part of the family.
If you and your wife don't find ways to work this out, you will never survive the teen years of your little girl, as she will be a challenge, too.
Don't abandon him, then your baby girl will know you "punt" when the situation gets hard.
2006-08-04 11:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray!!! Then ask your wife if she would seek counseling with you Your Pastor or Priest will not charge for this,or you can opt to go to a therapist but you need some one to mediate here you can not do this alone If she will not go with you at least give it a try for yourself,It sounds like you really love your family.As a Mother of 2 boys 20 and 23 I am going to tell you that the teenage years are hell!!!no way around it so you have a double whammy really my best advice is to get a third party involved and encourage your entire family to go.Good Luck,God Bless
2006-08-04 11:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why u didn't talk to the brother..u know as a friend maybe he is doing all these noise cuz he feel that he is not one of the family maye her don't feel with love and protection....my friend don't make things so difficult at ur nice wife..who know maybe he brother spend all the night crying for the things that he is doing and don't feel satisfaction with what all he is doing ..most of us hate the things that we r doing however we still do it cuz we feel that nobody care about us...talk to him as afriend and tell him that he is one of the family and tell him with showing him love that u care about him and wanna ur daughter be proud of her uncle ...tell him that he is not the only one who lost someone precious 4 him but he must thank god cuz there's ppl care about him..u,his new family....trust me it will work cuz all of ppl at these age,teen age need to feel with love and careness more than anything else..he need to feel that he is an important part of these family.....u can change him and make things going better rather than make ur poor nice wife who love u and love her brother in these difficult and bad situation she don't deserve that but she deserve the help and u who is gonna to give her that...good luck
2006-08-04 12:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by batt00ta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋