cause i lost a friend dear to me and he died sept,5,2005 and i cant get over him sos plz help
2006-08-04 11:40:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
I'm so, so sorry. I wish I could help, but I really don't think there is any way I can. I will be praying for you though. God bless.
2006-08-04 11:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 3⤋
Sorry to hear that, dear.
September last year isn't a very long time ago. It is pretty normal to grieve for some time if you lose a dear one. So I don't think that this is an abnormal thing. I have lost a girlfriend myself, which blew more or less my life away at the time. Although it is a few years ago and I picked up my life very well by now, I don't think I'll ever forget her entirely.
There is a little bit of good news, time will definitely improve things for you, although it could be slower then you want and you may expect a relapse from time to time.
Personally I believe that forcing it aside doesn't help because that may extend the period it will take to really grow over it. I realize that my answer doesn't really help you at this moment, that's the bad side of it. Sorry !
2006-08-04 19:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Vage Centurian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, and you have my deepest sympathy. I've lost several close friends, but the worst was nearly seven (OMG!) years ago. He was killed in a car accident in October '99. He was only eighteen.
What has helped me is talking about him. I remember all the good times I had with him, how much partying and joking around we did, how cool he was about my boyfriends, how supportive and sweet he was, how he came to my rescue lots of times. He was my teddy bear.
You will never get over it, ever. But the pain does lessen somewhat over time. Though some days...it really hurts.
Know when I really missed my Tyler? On my wedding day. I wish he could have been there. He and my husband would have liked each other.
There are only three people that are worse to lose:
Parents, because they're the only ones you'll ever have.
Children, because they're a part of you.
And your spouse, because they become your dominant hand, figuratively speaking.
The time will come, several years from now, where you'll find old pictures of your friend. You'll look at him, smile sadly, and maybe brush a couple tears from your eyes. You'll remember the good times you had. And you'll also very dimly recall how RAW your pain was at first. It'll leave you with just a slight throbbing.
2006-08-04 18:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my brother several years ago and also a very dear friend a few years later. It is very hard, but time is the only thing that can heal it. You will NEVER forget, the pain will just begin to go away.
Talking to people also helps, if you need, see a phsciatrist, there is nothing to be ashamed of. They really do help.
2006-08-04 18:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by oxosasoxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sadly you won't, he will always be a part of you. I know how you are feeling. I lost a boyfriend in a car accident, and I was in the car with him, I seriously watched him die. And I also lost my best friend, who was like my brother. Even though you try to forget, the littlest things will bring back a memory. And it's not wrong to want to forget, but in a weird sort of way...why would you want to? I know it hurts to think about him, but hunny, trust me when I say this, it hurts more to let go, than it does to hold on.
2006-08-04 18:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you mean you want to forget him, cuz that is impossible. While time heals all wounds, you need to keep busy. Maybe volunteer in your community or take a second job or work to acheive a goal or even consume your time with a hobby. If you are ready for it, try meeting someone. That is what will help the most. I'm very sorry for your loss.
2006-08-04 18:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY DO YOU WANT TO FORGET! I lost my friend in 03 and i think about him everyday. I dont wish to forget him i wish he was here with all his friends like it used to be. Just remember the good times you had and that will help.
2006-08-04 18:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lar-Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to forget some body if they were important to you dont think about what has happened just think about all the good times you had i'm sure you dont want to forget him just forget about wot happened not wot happened with you 2
2006-08-04 19:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are not supposed to "get over" people dying. We are supposed to respect their memory and be grateful that they are at peace now. If you are having problems dealing with saddness and greif, you should speak to a counselor so you can talk it out and you 'll feel better. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, honey.
2006-08-04 18:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion, buy a furry companion such as a dog or cat to take your mind off you dearly departed friend
2006-08-04 18:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by The Raging Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omgsh i know exactly wat your going through and ya it hurts alot. some people say to forget and move on with your life but ask them if they know what ur going through..cause guess wat they will say no....dont remember the bad times remeber the good times and what kind of impact that he had on ur life remember the memories...shead a few tears and bal some nights away u will never forget the ones we lose. talk to friends write down ur feelings. it will get better trust me!!!
2006-08-04 18:50:40 · answer #11 · answered by Lexi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋