How can i get over my shyness? I am going to lunch with a guy that im friends with but im so nervous???

Question

what can i talk to him about??? I really like him

Answer 1

ask him what he likes, find out as much as possible about him. Tell him your likes and dislikes

Answer 2

first off if you're already friends, just consider into your calculations that you're both human beings who need some sustenance which in this case is food. How do you chill with your other friends when your getting your grindage on. (grindage meaning that of the teeth just so there's no confusion) Plus if you're nervous for some reason there's also a very good chance he's nervous about some of the same things. I mean you must feel comfortable with him enough to be a friend, can't be that much of a stranger right? Just talk about anything and everything doesn't make much of a difference. Depending on where you go and what you get you can start off with like this is good but have you ever been to ______? they have the most delicious _______ ! you should go sometime, I could show you where it's at...you see how this works? I do hope by now you're either slapping your forehead or kicking your behind for how simple and silly you are for wigging out. good luck with it!

Answer 3

When I was younger. I was shy, skinny and wore glasses. What a combination, huh. I realized one day while I was watching others having fun and being envious of girls that seemed so together and at ease. I didn't want to be like them. I wanted to be myself. I chose at that moment to do just that. Be myself.
At first joining in, starting a conversation. Your stomach has that feeling like when you almost miss a step.
So big deal. Those girls that seem so secure are either just as nervous as you. Or have had more practice and are over their shyness. It's like riding a bike. The first time you screw up, you just got back on. It may be mortifying if you stutter, or no one laughs or worse they do laugh. But hey ask them three weeks or less no one will remember.

Answer 4

I would feed you the whole go there and be yourself line, but that usually does not work.. So if he is your friend, sometimes the hardest thing to do which would probably make everything alot better would be to let him know that you are nervous and after you admit that. A good ice breaker would probably be to talk about your fears, cuz then you will find out that you are prolly more alike than you know...GO IN THERE READY TO HAVE FUN. and i promise you will be alright.

Answer 5

Hey, don't underate shyness. Guys find it really cute. They love the whole nervous thing - makes them think they're having an effect on you. So don't change, and don't listen to people who say -don't be shy, 'cause it's not going to go away overnight. Guys are NOT attracted to girls who are loud and obnoxious. Trust me, I'm shy and although I get really nervous before,during and after a date, that's never put a guy off. Au contraire...

Answer 6

don't be shy.. i used to be shy too. the thing u need to remember is, u are a great person. :) i'm sure u have a good personality when u hang out w/ friends and are *comfortable*. the key is to be confident and comfortable w/ yourself.. take care of ur appearance, take care of ur mind, ur knowledge, ur ability to maintain friends and relationships w/ family.... the more confident you are in urself, the easier it is to portray yourself in a positive way to other people, even strangers!! it may not happen overnight, but just work on it slowly. trust me, i was mostly shy cuz i felt ugly and that people wouldn't want to listen to what i had to say. now, after i made myself work out and buy some flattering clothes, i started caring about my makeup and hair, and i felt and looked better!! then it was easier for me to talk more, and not care so much what people think...u know what, if they don't like u or judge u, they are not worth it. remember, as long as u know u are great, u want to hang out w/ great people. so if someone u meets has attitude or acts like u are dumb, who cares?? u, ur friends and family already know u are awesome, so it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. go into the meeting being urself, happy, confident and Open Minded. don't worry if he'll think ur stupid or kick urself for acting 'lame'...it doesn't matter, if he is nice, he will be ur friend no matter what. and if u are confident and positive and fun to be around, then there's more of a chance that he'll ask u out. if u are shy and too scared, the chances are slimmer. be happy, confident and you are already cool! :)

Answer 7

Everyone has social anxiety to some degree or other. Remember that the way people treat others is a reflection of how they feel about themselves.
Quit worrying about looking stupid or saying something dumb. If you worry about yourself too much, he will think you're self-absorbed. You will be too busy with that to pay much attention to him.
Ask him about his opinion on different topics, his thoughts, how he feels about stuff, what would he do in a situation, etc. It shows genuine interest in him. Open up at his pace, don't talk about yourself the whole time.
Listen to his answers. Guys with a great deal of empathy are very attractive (to me) and act more sincerely than guys who are just trying to make you like them.
Think of a 5 question survey in your mind; thought-provoking questions (how would you spend a million dollars? which is more important, a fun job or a high paying one? etc.)
Listening shows respect, and spending time with people shows sincerity. Get him talking and contributing to the conversation.
All people alive want to to feel important, worthy, validated, admired, needed, useful, good at things, special, and saught after. Those are the hot buttons....
You can't make him like you but you can inspire his consideration in that direction. You can be nice to be around if he feels good about himself with you.
Be honest and genuine, and your wonderful, redeeming qualities will shine through.
So don't be nervous about yourself, you are fine. Hopefully he is as cool as you think he is, and doesn't disappoint you. That is more worth being worried about....

Answer 8

He will probably be a little nervous, too. It helps to smile, it puts the other person at ease plus it actually makes you feel better. Try to be positive in whatever topic comes up, whether its the restaurant or the food or work. Feel free to laugh, a sense of humor is about the best thing you can have on a date.

Answer 9

Ask questions about him, don't focus so much on you...just as you love when people as you questions about YOU and you like to talk about you, other people do as well. Ask if he's seen any good movies lately, if he's gone on any summer vacations or has any planned in the near future. What's his favorite sport to watch and ask what his favorite team is. If he's going to school find out what classes he is taking (considering you are out of highschool). After you get the ball rolling you will forget about being nervous :o) go get em tiger!

Answer 10

Focus on what you like about him: look at him, and see what about his features you like: this will give your thoughts a positive direction, and also take your attention off yourself! Now, talking about positive events, or challenges in life might be a good place to start re what to talk about!
And one more thing: don't forget that if he's taking you out; then he must like you too!
All the best with your date!

Answer 11

Just be yourself. Don't over analyze anything. Talk to him as you would normally talk to a friend. If he doesn't know already that you're interested in him, you can always drop subtle hints while conversating at lunch. Don't pretend to be someone you're not just so that he'll like you.