what would u do if ur 19 years old GF gets pregnant...and so...u r not sure about the dad,maybe yourself,maybe...
2006-08-04 11:30:41 · 23 answers · asked by lazylover234567 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find out if you r the dad and if you are stand up to the plate and take your responsibility like a man and be the best dad you can be
2006-08-04 12:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by sparks2228 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) If you cannot trust her with something as big as this, then why the heck were you BF/GF?
2) If you have serious doublts, get a paternity test done
3) If the baby is indeed yours, apologize to her for your mistrust for the next 100 years and bear every single insult she rightfully should throw your way.
4) If you are not the dad, but you do love her....accept the child as yours
4) If you are not the dad, and are angry at the lady, run away from her.
2006-08-04 18:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by blah_in_az 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if the baby is even yours...i don't think that can be done until the baby is born, but i could be wrong. If the baby is yours take responsibility for it, you don't have to be in a relationship with the mom, but be there for the baby as a father and financially. Kids need their dads in their life, i didn't have mine, but it was for the better. If it's not yours, i hope you learned your lesson and you'll wrap that boy up next time you use him.
my mom always told me "if you're old enough to make the decision to spread your legs, you're old enough to take care of that baby on your own." perfect birth control right there (I know you're not a girl, but just saying.)
2006-08-04 18:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe in abortion so have the child get a blood test if the baby's not yours ask her if the father would take care of the baby and leave it up to them to make sure it is raised right if the father won't take care of the baby you take care of the kid like he was your own but when the kid is old enough let him no what went on . and if your the dad be the best father you can be....... pretty much make sure the child has a mother and a father will take care of him!
2006-08-04 18:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Gorilla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, get a DNA testing to make sure you are the father. Don't waste your time on a kid that's not yours. Don't marry her if you don't really love her. It almost always ends up in divorce when someone marries someone else that they don't truly love. But, you could give her a little help. Get a job, and help pay for some of the child's expenses if the kid's yours. You'll also need to spend some quallity time with the kid to make him/her feel that you accept them.
2006-08-04 18:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Britney♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do a bloodtest. if you dont have the money aply for dr. phil! if it's yours, be happy. your a dad! and it's your fault any way for having sex! now your a dad, your child ia a little miracle, a blessing! no longer is it your life. now it's your GF's, your kid's and your's. It's a family problem. and don't send him/her to an orphanage. my friend growing up said he's an orphan and when your seven and not a dopted your head gets chopped off. if it's not your's move to another state, maybe even a different country!
2006-08-04 18:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by soijanaladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's keeping the baby it'll be easy to find out if you're the father - they have paternity tests for this. if you are the father then it is now you purpose in life to be there for that child and give them love and care. whether you're 19, or 40 when you have a child you've given up the right to follow your own dreams and happiness for responsibility for someone else's life. sorry this happened to you, but you've got to be a grown up about it now.
2006-08-04 18:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by hg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is yours please show your full support. Back her up if she decides to keep and back her up if she wants to abort it. Don't push her either way. If ya'll have trust problems make sure its yours. But if she never showed a sign of cheating then dont front like you didnt hit it raw. My ex girlfriend is pregnant with my baby and she wont let me have any say about it. So please if you truly love her treat her even better now becuz everyone else is going to stigmatize her.
2006-08-04 18:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by its me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a perternty test if your take care of the child and be a dad to the child. you dont have to marry her just be a responcible loving dad
2006-08-04 18:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by silver_princess16_03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? Take responsibility for the child if it's yours. If it's not yours, think of yourself as lucky and stop getting with loose women.
2006-08-04 18:35:03 · answer #10 · answered by six.pack.abs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋