This girl I met a couple of weeks ago who has gotten pretty serious as far as relationship goes but no sex. She is going on a vacation with her ex and his family to Vegas in a week and she wants me to believe she is going to to do anything. The reason I believe otherwise is because the friend I met her through used to hook up with every few months or so and they would have sex. She seems totally sprung on me but how will I know if she really did something with this guy when she gets back from Vegas or should I just look at it as a lost cause and move on?
2006-08-04 11:20:51 · 24 answers · asked by 1authority 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
typo, "she is not going to do anything"
2006-08-04 11:21:43 · update #1
shes getting laid write it up as a total loss.
2006-08-04 11:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by link7506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tab bit odd unless she made these commitments before she met you and she can't bail out on them. Is she sharing a room with the ex or she's getting her own? Not that makes a difference, but just wondering. Yeah you just have to trust her and when she gets back, talk to her openly and be honest. Tell her how you feel and that it just seems a bit odd. Put her in your shoes, if you were to go Vegas with your ex and her family. How would she feel about it?
2006-08-04 12:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by jeann1220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this will be hard to accept, but she is not going with him for no reason. Even if it is not sexual, there are is an ulterior motive behind her leaving with him. Just a sidebar, but her leaving you to go on a trip with him is in the very least disrespectful to you and shows, to me at least, that she thinks it is acceptable behavior to disregard how you might feel, whether or not you admit it. In short, you care for her allot more than she cares for you and she is exploring other options. So should you. Good luck.
P.S. If you still stay with her and let her go, you should have the time of your life while she is gone. Leave yourself open to other women. She may just be testing you to see how much she can walk all over you before you man up and put your foot down. I know it is stupid, but all women do it. Since it MIGHT still be too early for you to go around issuing ultimatums, you can at the very least show her that if she does things like this in the future, you might not still be there when she gets back. But really man, run for your life. There are billions of women out there, don't feed her ego and lay down and take this, if you do you will probably never have any respect from her.
2006-08-04 11:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by jinxed_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether she is "hooking up" with her ex or not, the entire idea of her going on this trip with his family and him is completely inappropriate... however, you can't really say anything at this point since you've only been dating a couple weeks - it's not in your place to tell her what she should or shouldn't do... you just have to choose whether you're okay with this type of thing or not.
also, put yourself in the ex's shoes (because you might really be there someday): he probably doesn't know she's dating you and he's taking her to vegas with obvious intentions of reconciliation... who's really getting the shaft here? do you want this to happen to you? stay with this woman and (chances are) it will.
2006-08-04 11:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by hg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've only known her for a couple of weeks, look at it as a lost and move on.
sorry, but chic's don't go on vacation with an ex and his family unless theres a reason behind it. i'm not saying she's going just to have sex but she obviously still has something for the ex or she wouldn't be going.
you'll find someone else to date.
2006-08-04 11:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by str8tupgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes on in Vegas stays in Vegas. It sounds like you both are just getting started. At this point you really don't have much say so in what she does either way. Just take it easy and see what happens. Good Luck!
2006-08-04 11:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by Bogie Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That one is really hard, cuz what happens in Vegas so stays in Vegas! If she is going with her ex, not a good sign. Even if she is acting like she really likes you, she wouldn't go to Vegas with her ex and his family! Maybe you should surprise her in Vegas and see how she responds!
2006-08-04 11:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't really know if she did something in Vegas. There is a reason Vegas has the saying "What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas!" Find another girl....this one is bad news!
2006-08-04 11:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by nvone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she plan the trip before or after she got serious with you? I think that is something to consider. It also depends what you want from a relationship. If you are after a commited long term relationship then trust is a must.
2006-08-04 11:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by C.K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lost cause, move onto the next one. If she was over the ex there's no way they'd be going to Vegas.
2006-08-04 11:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry....I don't buy her story. If you two were in a "pretty" serious relationship, there is no reason on earth she should go on vacation with her ex and his family. PERIOD!!! She would be considering your feelings, not just hers! It's time to move on!!!
2006-08-04 11:25:48 · answer #11 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋