How would you feel if you the man fell in love with and who said he loved you, told you he thought it was alright to be in a relationship, and still date other women and be romantic with them, kissing them romantically? Even though he said he stopped just before meeting you. Would it bother you or would you have any thoughts or wonder if he was still doing it.Especially if you hadn't met him yet and had only known him a few months, and you had been cheated on before.
2006-08-04 11:09:20 · 19 answers · asked by nativeamericantay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would not be comfortable with this. The problem is you are already in love. You have not met him yet. Give him a chance. After you meet him and your feelings stay the same or grow, discuss this with him. Openly and honestly let him know how you feel about his relationship with other women. Under no circumstances should you have unprotected sex with him. You can't base your past relationships on future ones, however, they are a sure guide as to how you handle things going forward. Don't put yourself out there and become a floor mat for him to walk on your feelings. Be strong and you CAN make the best decisions for YOURSELF. If you don't trust him, move on. You know the warning signs. Especially if he tells you it is alright. If he is okay with you seeing other men, maybe he is not that into you or his plans for the future are not the same as yours. I am 37 and never had boyfriend that was okay with me having any male friends. Some they had to deal with but they did not like it. If you have something special with guy you will know.
2006-08-12 03:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by pretty_brown_eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be comfortable with this. The problem is you are already in love. You have not met him yet. Give him a chance. After you meet him and your feelings stay the same or grow, discuss this with him. Openly and honestly let him know how you feel about his relationship with other women. Under no circumstances should you have unprotected sex with him. You can't base your past relationships on future ones, however, they are a sure guide as to how you handle things going forward. Don't put yourself out there and become a floor mat for him to walk on your feelings. Be strong and you CAN make the best decisions for YOURSELF. If you don't trust him, move on. You know the warning signs. Especially if he tells you it is alright. If he is okay with you seeing other men, maybe he is not that into you or his plans for the future are not the same as yours.
2006-08-12 06:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I would not be comfortable in that situation. I honestly do not know if I would date that guy. Anyone who thinks it is ok to be with other people I think does not have the moral I have. I know you have stated that he stopped what he was doing but it would still bother me. If I was cheated on before I do not think I could take the risk of dating this guy. The thing is with life and love so many times we have to take risks. If you are willing to take a risk like this I suggest being VERY CAREFUL with this guy. I do not want to see you on here saying your bf is cheating on you.
2006-08-04 11:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What man in his right mind would want to date anyone else when he has someone as beautiful as you. I'm confused about one thing; you said you had not yet met him but you have known him a few months; if you have not met him, you do not know him at all; people can pretend to be all kinds of things over the internet and on the phone. I think you should be very cautious and don't give up the goodies until he has proven himself worthy of you and able to be committed.
2006-08-04 11:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by nuclear_science 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I understand the question completely. If your current new love is saying to you that he feels he can be completely in love with you and still wants the freedom to date other woman along with you, then he's not in love with you and you need to end the relationship now before your heart gets in too deep. If on the other hand, he's saying that is the way he used to feel before he met you but now he only wants to be with you (that's your enough and has no desire for other woman) then go forward in the relationship but do keep your eyes open
2006-08-12 03:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by micheller0116 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run girl run! If he's truly in love with you he would never want to be with anyone else and even if he thought about it, he would never say it or act on it. The majority of guys will cheat, but not if you're the one. Go find someone who will appreciate you and treat you the way you deserve. Once a cheater always a cheater
2006-08-11 11:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by lacopperphx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could not love you, and you could not truly love him. Love is something that is only real when you have spent time together, been through bad times and good times together and truly know each other,and still want to be together. True love never wants anyone else. True love works together for making one another happy, not hurting. Get rid of the jerk! and find someone who is capable of really loving and being with one person.....YOU!
2006-08-12 10:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your old enough to already know the answer your asking,however you need to have assurance from others that you are making a good decision ,but your the one living this life you need to be the one to make the decision if you and your children can live happily with your decision every one here is backing you
2006-08-12 10:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by spinininthemud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM SO SORRY ,,BECAUSE MY MAN IS IN IRAN ,,HE IS GOOD ARTIST ..I CANT SEE HIM HE IS FAR FROM ME ..UNFORTUNATELY HIM PASSPORT IS IRANIAN ..AND HIM FATHER WAS INTO SECURITY AIRPORT ..F4 F5 F14 ..AND HIM FATHER WAS A BOSS ..TOTHIS REASON MY CONNECT IS HARD IM AFRAID ...HE IS A FREE MAN ..HE TOLD ..OH HIM SENTENCE WAS A BIG ORGASM FOR ME ,,I CAN CALL HIM ..
HIM MOBILE IS 0098 912 40 11 799 ..I DONT KNOW WHAT CAN I DO ,,,ALTHOUGHT HIM FATHER WAS UNTILL 17 YEARS EGO BUT ..BECAUSE HIM FATHE WAS A TEACHER FOR JUDO AND KARATE ..LIKE A GUARD ,,,HIM NAME IS MOHSEN ROSTAMBAKHSH ...OH MY EMAIL IS HORSEMELANCHOLIC@YAHOO.COM ..ALSO RUSSIAN SPY WANTED KILL MY LOVE ..BECAUSE THEY WANTED A PLANE FROM F 4 ...
2006-08-04 11:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by JACK RABBIT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't want to do, what is ok for him bc he is in love with you. says much to his love for you, and how much you obviously affect him in the heart and the head. but atleast you know what he thinks is "ok" (or not) upfront. and you can deal with it anyway you choose.
2006-08-05 21:02:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Spock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋