Today I got really mad at this ***** of a co-worker, and I threw a small bottle of water at her head but didnt hit her. I need a way to succesfully reduce stress and anger but counting to 10 doesnt work, breathing doesnt work, and smoking doesnt work. What works for you?
2006-08-04 10:52:04 · 20 answers · asked by Rae 4 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I have taught them in the past.
My favorite is a meditation/ prayer. First I will give a little bit of a history. Documented by Father Thomas Keating of the Benedictine Monks in Colorado. Actually created by St. Thomas Merton who made many trips to the Orient, and discovered something wonderful. When Catholics and Buddhists talked religion, they argued. When they discussed spirituality, they even used the same language.
This prayer form was meant as a way to listen to God. See, we are very good at talking to Creator, but not very good at listening.
However, I have had many clients (atheists) use it as well with good results, so apparently it works either way.
So, (to practice) first you sit in a comfortable place with your eyes closed. You come up with a sacred word. one or two syllables. No real limits, as long as it inspires peace.
Any way picture yourself on a river bank, watching the boats go by. Each boat is a thought, and we are going to watch our thoughts go by. (I think it is impossible to stop thinking, but we can detach ourselves from our thoughts.) Simple thoughts are small boats. Emotionally charged boats can be as big as cruise ships.
When we find that we jumped onto a boat, we repeat our sacred word while we engage in deep breathing. That is our clue to get back on the river bank.
When you are done praying/ meditating, say a simple closing. I usually recommend to Christians to say the Our Father, but you can choose something special to you.
Now with practice, you can be in the situation, take a deep breath, imagine the river bank, and that peace just washes over you.
A funny note: one of my clients came back to me after a while and told she had had a problem with someone, and then thought of my meditation. Then she thought to herself, "You are just one huge cruise ship, and I am going to let you go by." She was able to go on with her day.
God Bless,
Vic
P.S. If anger is really a problem for you, then maybe an anger management group/ class might not be a bad idea.
2006-08-04 11:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Vic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've taken an anger management class. What works for me is to realize I'm angry because I can't control some situation. The root of anger is generally frustration observe most 2 year olds, a rather frustrated lot.
If you're really feeling prone to violence, it is best to remove yourself from the situation (this is sometimes very diffacult). Anger management focuses on trying to understand why you've become angry. You can't really not ever get angry (unless you live in a monestary) but you can certainly find ways to understand it. Its probably worth the experience before you destroy a wedding cake or actually peg someone with a water bottle.
2006-08-04 18:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Mickey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rae,,,, wow , your my kind of girl !!! I think i am in love.....
Anyway,,, I have the same problem,,, quick hot temper,, and a water bottle would be the (least) thing I would throw if in the right situation.....
I went to my doctor and told him how i was so angry,,, mainly at my boss,,, and he started me on prozac and buspar..... it does Not make the anger quit... but it makes it manageable......
I highly recommed you do something like this.... My company has these "attitude adjustment" programs... but I dont think somehow they are really designed for the people more than they are for the company,,, so that when someone goes (Postal) they cant be sued in court for doing nothing about preventing ahead of time..... trouble is,, most of those that do go (Full Auto) are not necessarily, high tempered.... they just Pop a Fuse.... and a cap......
Good Luck.....
2006-08-04 18:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been threw anger management 4 times. Each time after a deployment in the military. It doesnt help. I think youneed to get laid. You sound a little sexually frustrated. Just rub one out in the breakroom or something.
2006-08-04 17:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by j@mE$ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get rid of the problem by beating the s h i t out of them. Wear a mask so they can`t prove it`s you!! Ball bat works ,Axe handle, Tire iron, Brick,etc. I know a little harsh but the gratification feels so f king good!!! Cave her head in!!! Ummmmm I didnt tell you this though!!! Never mind!!!
2006-08-04 17:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I haven't, but have known plenty of people who need it. Sounds like you do too...better get on it...throwing things at coworkers is going to cause you a huge problem. How old are you???
2006-08-04 17:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by Special Ethel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do kickboxing and beat the tar out of the punching bag. It helps a lot for me
2006-08-04 17:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by BeC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had to take them once and they kept telling me to put everything in a bubble and blow it away. it just made things worse. i wanted to hit the guy teaching the class. at least you know you need to relax a little. youll be fine.
2006-08-04 17:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by eight beers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think anger management should be taught in school, it really does help alot
2006-08-04 17:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by mt_lil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i HAD to take the class. it did not help. i now do kick boxing. it is helping. i even took the girl that was hitting on my husband with me. she didnt know i knew then, but she does now.
2006-08-04 17:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by kris s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋