i dont like how my daughter dresses plz help?

Question

she dresses like shes goin to a party and shes really goin to shcool plz someone give some advice to talk to my little girl shes 14 and plz some help me :-(

Answer 1

arent you the one who buys the clothes? Buy her something that you think is appropriate. Show her that you can be "sexy" but yet casual at the same time...let her keep a lil of the flair that she likes but put some class in it.

Answer 2

She's 14. You're the parent. Who buys her clothes? Why does she own clothes that look like she's going to a party? If you are buying clothes that are not appropriate for school, why wouldn't she dress in the clothes you are providing for her?

Go shopping for her and get her a couple of outfits that you want her to wear to school. She's only 14. You and her father are the adults in the home. Take out of her closet and her drawers the clothes you do not want her to wear.

There will be some "gnashing of teeth" on both your parts initially. But after a few weeks, when your daughter knows who the parents are and that she will be wearing clothes that are appropriate, the fighting will stop-----all but the occasionally little "dig" now and then about how she isn't able to wear what the other kids wear.

Set the standards for you children and they will abide by those standards.

Answer 3

First and foremost SET THE RULES YOUR MOM! Don't buy here clothes you don't approve of and don't let her out of the house until she meets your standards. You can still dress cool with out looking like your walking the streets. It really hits a nerve when parents Ask that question how can I get my daughter to stop dressing like a tramp, or like she is going to a party well you purchased the clothes and if you didn't then where is she getting them. Let her know it is unacceptable yeah yeah yeah you will get the you don't understand mom this is whats cool, I hate you why can't I just wear what I want. But if your a good parent you will NOT let your daughter dress in anything that may draw the WRONG attention!

Answer 4

Your "little girl" is becoming a young lady. At 14 she wants to dress like her peers. If how she dresses is the only thing she's doing that concerns you, then you are blessed! Some 14 yr olds (and younger) are doing drugs, having sex and pregnant! Choose your battles, and give her some space to make choices for herself. Controlling every move she makes will only cause her to reject you. Enjoy these years with her...she is still your daughter, and still needs your guidance. You can do this by keeping lines of communication open and realizing she is growing up.

Answer 5

Everyone reaches an age where they WANT to look as attractive as possible for guys. Take her on a shopping trip and help her pick out something sexy yet conservative. Don't be too controlling though, she is only human! Be a cool mom and don't be extremely hard on her..instead, act as a friend, and talk to her about stuff. The closer you both are, the more likely it is she will take your advice.

Good luck ~ Elle

Answer 6

kids of this age have their own individual style. They like to make a statement who they are. Shes growing up becoming a teenager they like to feel grown up. Talk to her tell her its better to dress conservative for school and its okay to party dress on days off. Who is buying her these clothes if you may be you should change the style you buy her. If that doesnt work speak to the school its their responsiblilty to make sure students afre dresed appropriate. May be they can inform her that her dress state is not suitable for school. My daughter dresses way out but classy it worries me but its her own individual style an makes her happy.

Answer 7

Dont buy her the clothes or if she buys them then go with her and if you don't think it is appropriate then tell her. Or when she dresses inapropriately tell her that she won't be allowed do something she wants to because of how she is dressed and have her go change but make sure she has no extra clothes in her bag or clothes under her better clothes.

Answer 8

I had the some problem with my daughter. We had a talk about what's appropriate for school and what's not. One morning, I put on a halter top before school and made it like I was going to wear it to work, and she was shocked. I compared this scenario with what I feel when she over-dresses. Eventually, she understood my feelings and started dressing appropriately. hope this helps.

Answer 9

This is your fault. Who is in charge here? (Your daughter) Where is she getting the money? From you? Don't buy it. You need to go shopping with her or for her. And when she shows up with something she isn't suppose to have. Throw it away. And if she gets it back cut it up. And explain to her (Not yelling) she will dress like a 14 year old and not a floozy.

Answer 10

Try not to have a fit. I dressed like a moron when I was 14 too, I turned out fine though, an honor student w/ 2 university degrees. Don't make too much out of her dressing if you don't have to it will just alienate her from you.

Answer 11

She is at that age where she wants to look sexy for the guys. Happens to all of us. What you do is show her how to dress sexy but conservatively. Sexy but with style is what I call it. Show her that she can still be sexy without showing too much. Make a day of it and go shoping if finances will allow. It will give you some quality time together and you will be able to show her a sophisticated chick style that she will thank you for.