I mean I am a really attractive guy(from what I am told) and I am nice. Most of my friends are jerks to their girls, and they like that. I can't force myself to be like that. I am also shy when it comes to approaching a girl I like. Also, I hear ladies like for their guy to be aggressive. Any suggestions on how to be aggressive?
2006-08-04 10:31:53 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
where the heck are you guys hiding?!?!?! Youre the exact kind of guy that i want!!! Women with low self esteem want dogs, men who treat them like crap, because they feel they have to work to get his love, Loving someone should be easy, not a battle. SInce their self esteem is so low, they feel like guys like you are geeks because subconciously they think that a great man like you must be a wierdo if he's interested in her.
Now a woman like me, that knows what she wants won't take nuthin less than a good man, that respects me, b/c thats what i deserve and thats what the kind of treatment i give towards ppl in return. She's out there, don't even trip. If dating online wasn't so scary, lots of girls would be getting at u, (some probably already have)
2006-08-04 10:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by Muchacha Mala 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
some girls are stupid and cant see through the "nice act" that those a**holes put up. but i'd much rather a shy, nice guy than a jerk. trust me jerks are too painful to deal with. i love my nice guy though. ummmm well dont let her make all of the first moves. you have to at least let her know you're interested in her. if there's a girl you like then find out what she likes and try to talk to her about it. say music or movies for example. then just go from there.
have fun
Aaron's Angel
2006-08-04 10:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate aggressive guys! The only reason why they get girls is because they bring attention to themselves, anywhere they go. Therefore girls will notice them. these guys also tend to be very confident and probably ask out girls more. they get told no, too! just remember that. girls generally wait around for the guy to ask them out, so if you don't do it, that aggressive loud guy will. i don't suggest you be aggressive.. i suggest you stand out from the crowd as being witty, intelligent, and caring. that will really give a girl a good impression
2006-08-04 10:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I feel your pain. You just described me. Nice guys are too often boring. Mostly it's young girls who like the "bad boys." Find a mature women who's been there, done that, and she'll likely prefer a nice guy. Also, being nice doesn't have to mean being a wimp. How's the girls gonna know you're feeling her if you don't approach her? Tell her straight up you're a good person and don't have time for childish games! Go for it!
2006-08-04 11:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by El 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like shy, nice guys. Trouble is, its hard to find them because they're so shy!
You SHOULD work on being assertive in bed though. A woman likes a man who makes her feel taken care of. Don't be a push-over.
P.S. Women like bad boys until they've been screwed over enough times that they change their thinking. It's a mistake many women make when they are young because they think the bad boys are "exciting". Well, they're also a raging pain in the azz.
2006-08-04 10:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do that because those girls are easier to approach cause they are all flirting with us. But in the long run they will want to be with the shy nice girl, which i pick over the loud ones in the first place. You just need to find the right guy.
2016-03-26 23:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because shy guys are not confident. You don't have to be a jerk my friend, just be confident. The women love a confident man. Don't be the "attractive guy because someone told me." You should already know you are an attractive guy.
And women love nice guys. It just happens to be that nice guys are push-overs. Don't be a push-over. Speak your mind, be a man, and be confident. Oh, and you can be nice.
2006-08-04 10:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by pinomic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right, us girls are very confusing! We do like the aggressiveness, but also the niceness! Guys that are shy tend to get over shadowed by the aggressive types. They just shine more is all. You need to find your shine! :)
2006-08-04 10:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u should be aggressive. Be urself. Many girls are attracted to guys like u. I'd rather have a guy like u than one like those jerk friends of urs.
2006-08-04 10:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be too aggressive! I don't like that myself. Be a gentleman and a nice girl will come along. A lot of girls get swayed away by a guys looks.
Be yourself, don't try to be anything you are not!
2006-08-04 10:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by redirishactress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋