My son is a good boy. He's good in school, sports and music. He's sweet are caring. But in the past few months he has started to develope a sassy mouth. Any suggestions?
2006-08-04 10:26:28 · 27 answers · asked by Drea 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Silence is Golden, so I recommend telling him he can't talk for a few hours. Nope not a word. Maybe make him stand in the corner and not speak. I wouldn't take anything away from him or punish him bad. The bar of soap in the mouth works to. You only need to do it one. Just make him hold a bar of glycerin (natural)soap in his mouth. That would make him think twice before he talks back. The threat of it may just work as well. Show him the Christmas Story with Ralphy. He had to be punished with a bar of soap.
2006-08-04 11:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by shelbsyd 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can relate, Drea. I have an 8 year old girl with the same problem. I used to think spanking was the answer, but it really didn't seem to be helping in the long run and turned out house into constant drama. I now have a posted list of rules and a "graduated" punishment chart. I picked three things my daughter hates doing without. In our particular case, its her CD player, the computer and the television. She loses them for a week. If she is currently under a week without the CD Player and smart mouths me, she loses the computer as well, etc. etc. I also reserve the right to spank in addition if she is really horrible. I went over the new rules with her and had her sign her name that she understood the consequences. I haven't had to ban her from anything since. All I have to do is remind her she's one step away from losing a privelege and the smart mouth stops.
It's worth a try, but it does take a lot of effort. I think its worth it.
2006-08-04 17:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you say that your son is generally well-behaved and you don't generally have problems with his behavior... perhaps you might be open to some of the more gentle yet effective discipline suggestions offered on Dr. Sears website. It's full of helpful information... mostly geared towards younger children but there is some great info on how to discipline/talk to your older children as well.
I also found some information on "sassing" from older children at doityourself.com
Most of the suggestions from other parents that I read included taking away privileges if the behavior doesn't change after a warning.
See the links (sources) below for detailed info. --
Hope this helps.
Best wishes!
2006-08-04 17:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with this issue right away! I was a very good kids- hardly ever in trouble, top of my class skipped a grade....but I yelled at my parents all the time. They just let me do it. I knew I shouldn't but if I wasn't gonna get in trouble when they irritated me off why not? I still yell at my mom, it is like a sickness i can't help even though I want to!
I don't know what you should do. All discipline choices depend on your child. My best suggestion is take a way something that means a lot to him.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 17:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by turtle43761 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I've learned is from that Nanny 911. It was awesome how she got the kids to stop being sassy or using bad language. She had a special roll of toilet paper and sent them to the bathroom for a timeout with a sheet of the toilet paper. I really don't know what the tp is for...but anyway...she told them that the potty mouths had to go sit on the potty. I really liked that idea and it did work.
2006-08-04 18:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical force is never the right way to go. Each time he gets sassy or mouthy as I call it. Take away something thats important to him. Figure out his currency so to speak - Either a priveledge or a toy or activity that he enjoys.
2006-08-04 17:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Carolyn T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take away his toys. That is too drastic a punishment. The best and worst punishment for a pre-teen is to make him learn. That's right, I said it. Get a book, something with a lot of big words in it ( big for him ) and make him learn what they mean. Not only are you expanding his vocabulary, you're teaching him to accept the consequences of his actions. Instilling this in him now will hopefully help him second guess being flippant as he gets older.
2006-08-04 17:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Purple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
negative punishment is not the solution, don;t smack him or ground him from TV or friends etc..
positive discipline is better, example, push-ups, they will be an exercise as well as a punishment, washing dishes, cleaning the house, running, things that are productive and that will help him more than just sending hm to his room and not watching TV etc.. they learn to be lazy and they somehow always find a way to entertain them selves and at times it might make them so angry that you will have an even harder time with them, but if you focus on positive punishment they will always feel better after wards and it still learn their lesson, I mean I know cleaning is no fun for a child and push-ups can be hard but I KNOW it work better than time out and hitting...
don;t make it easy but make it productive !!
GOOD LUCK !
2006-08-04 17:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by lisvad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing with my son when he was around 9 or 10. The thing that worked best for us was sending him to the kitchen table where he had to read something for whatever time we felt was appropriate. Obviously this wont work if he loves to read, but maybe he could be sent to do whatever he doesn't like.
2006-08-04 17:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restrict his TV viewing. So that 1 lot of cheek equals 15 mins missed of his favourite TV shows 2 lots of cheek means 30 mins and so on.
2006-08-04 17:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by CHARLOTTE B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋