How to act when someone is talking bad about you when it;s not true waht they say?

Question

My own relative is talking bad about me and family stuff that doesn't even exist. I got a brand new car after that she totally change attitude wise. And tells second people that we are talking bad about them when we don't even say anything. My mom has high blood sugar and it makes her feel very bad. What can we do

Answer 1

You can do three things as far as I can tell:

1. You can let it go. Be yourself - in the end you will prove to all that you are nice and that this is not true. It will be hard hanging in there, but in the end - justice will do you right.

2. You can go to those people this relative talks to and tell them how it really was - how it really happened; what it feels like when you know that this relative does this. If you do this, alternative number 1 will come true much faster. Tell them that you have heard and that you are sorry about it and also angry - because it leaves you helpless. What can you do.

3. You can go directly to this relative and talk to him/her. Tell what you have observed. What you have heard, what you know, what you suspect. Ask what it is that makes him/her do this. What did you do? is there something you can do to stop this? is there something he/she can do to stop this?

If this relative objects and say he/she never did such a thing; you must say where you found out. Even if you have to tell on someone. Maybe this someone will be there to support you as well, that would really be nice. It is important that this conversation does not end up with you feeling even more "out of it." Make sure you reach a conclusion - that this talk behind you back is going to stop. That is your main issue (no matter how you reach it...)...

Good luck and best wishes to you!

Answer 2

Don't be affected. When someone tells you or asks you if its true, tell them it isn't and that anyone who listens to that is stupid. You want to know why?

*What word is used to describe a person who goes around telling things that are complete nonsense? = stupid

*And what do you call someone who listens to what a stupid person says = even more stupid

Don't be stupider than the one spreading the rumours, you know the truth, so don't let it get to you. The moment you react, it will just get the attacker more motivated on attacking you and people will wonder even more if its true. If you don't give the reaction that that backbiter wants, he/she might just give up and if other people don't see you worrying about it, they'll start thinking that if you don't care, why should they care?

Good luck!

Answer 3

I'd suggest letting it go. Those that know you should know whether it's true or not. If you can't let it go, confront the one spreading the lies but in front of those they are telling them to.

Answer 4

find a flaw in the perpetrator's lies and expose them in front of everyone or someone who gossips then everyone will question everything else she said automatically