what would you do when your christian parents are fighting, and there relationship is getting worse??

Question

Please help

Answer 1

mind my own business.

Answer 2

I might sit them down individually, and speak to them non-judgmentally about their behavior - how it's effecting those around them. Then I might share with them printouts (or you could email them these links ... the articles on-line offer the added benefit of live-scripture-links) of one or more of the following applicable articles:

The Family Under Threat--Will It Survive? :
- The Family--An Emergency Case!
- The Family--A Human Necessity!
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/1998/4/1/article_01.htm

Where Should You Go For Counsel? :
- Is Good Counsel Needed?
- Finding the Most Beneficial Counsel
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2004/8/15/article_01.htm

When Marital Disagreements Arise
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/6/1/article_01.htm

Wholesome Communication - A Key to a Good Marriage
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/1999/7/15a/article_01.htm

Why Is It So Hard to Apologize?
... Apologizing--A Key to Making Peace
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/11/1/article_01.htm

How Can You Make Peace With Others? :
- Wars With Words--Why Are They Hurtful?
- The Benefits of Making Peace
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/3/1/article_01.htm

Empathy--Key To Kindness and Compassion
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/4/15/article_01.htm

Children Deserve to Be Wanted and Loved
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/8/article_02.htm

Rights of the Child
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/8/diagram_01.htm

Some Helpful Bible Principles
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/2/15/diagram_01.htm

Answer 3

Of course your first action should be to pray: lift them and the problem up to Heaven. Pray as well for yourself- for wisdom, guidence, and strength to know what to do, and where to turn. If you are not comfortable with talking to a minister at your church because of being afraid to "spill the beans," call another. Within the religous community in your area there are people that will listen to the things that you need to say, and offer additional prayers for a solution. I shall some some prayers for this to work out for you as well!

Answer 4

i'm going to do my very best to answer this question because it is important. my husband answered this question and then told me about it, and asked me if i would answer it, so i'm going to try.

i went through this about 3 years ago. there are a few things that i can say, and the first one is, there may be some things that you dont know about. not that it makes it ok for them to fight, but there may be something that they are trying to "protect" you from by not telling you. when i say this i mean (in my case) my dad was having an affair, and thought that nobody knew. he still thinks that nobody knows. but my mom and i both knew, and as a result, there was a lot of fighting and a lot of coldness. i pray that this is not your situation. all you can do is pray.

pray for peace in your household, and pray that one of them will see, that they have to deal with this in christian love. my mom
did, she forgave my dad, and he still thinks that nobody knows,
because we have both chosen to forgive him. i'm not saying that it wont be hard, because it will, but what i'm saying is you have to pray. pray and when you DO, pray with FAITH, that God will do what He promised. you could also try to hold them accountable to the relationship that they hold with God. my husband and i got married a month ago, and i remember whats in those vows. for better or worse. but, i dont know how bad your situation is, so you'll have to judge that for yourself on whether or not thats a wise decision. but dont worry. everything will be just fine. nothing happens that does not first pass through his hands. you will be ok, and so will your family. no matter what happens. i know that probably doesnt make you feel any better, but...know that God will take care of you no matter what. He loves ya girl. i'll be praying . love.

Answer 5

First of all, I'm sorry that you're going through this. Children should not have to see their parents fight. Ask to talk to them about it. Tell them how it makes you feel. Make sure that your words are honorable and respectful. Ask them to seek Godly counsel at their church or any church. Pray for them and their relationship...that they be more selfless, putting each other before themselves. Pray that God delivers them of the troubles they're having now...as a couple gets closer to GOD, they get closer to one another...

Answer 6

Pray. Pray continuously, and pray BOLDLY.
One parable Jesus taught was about a man who goes to his friend's house in the middle of the night asking for some bread to feed his guest. He knocked and knocked and knocked on the door until finally the door was answered. Jesus said that he didn't give the man bread because he was his friend. He gave him bread because of his boldness. Depending on which translation of the Bible you read "boldness" may be written as "shamelessness." Don't be afraid to ask God boldly and realistically. You CAN fully express yourself and your feelings to God.
I will ask my wife to answer this question as well, as she may have some more insight into this situation, but I think you might also want to simply remind them (maybe not have them together, but one on one WHEN THINGS ARE PEACEFUL AND CALM)... remind them that when they fight it really hurts you. Just be honest with them. Maybe suggest to them (in a loving way) that there are churches (maybe yours) that offer free marital counseling. My wife and I are going through some counseling right now. Not because we have real problems.. it's just sort of preventive maintenance, if you will, but it's sort of the same thing.
There are options...
Don't give up.
If your parents are reasonable they will listen to you.

Answer 7

Pray

Answer 8

When things are calm. Go to them and let them know that you love them both but their fighting is disturbing to you and that you wish they would get the help they need.

Your position is to let them know your feelings. and make a recommendation. Anything after that is inappropriate as they are your elders. But pray before you speak to them for favor to be heard really heard. Then pray afterward that they will have the humility to get help.

I will pray too, for you and them.

Answer 9

Mind your own business when anyone is fighting (unless it involves physical violence that may be life threatening).

Some people fight to get attention, or to add drama to their relationships. Fighting is not necessarily bad, and you getting involved will do nothing to help.

If it makes you feel better, pray. But, whatever is supposed to happen, will, regardless what you do or don't do.

Answer 10

Just because they are Christian doesn't mean that they are not going to face the challenges that other people don't face. If they have faith in their pastor, I would suggest some counselling from him.

Answer 11

Sweetie the best thing that you should do is tell them that there fighting is causing you distress and suggest that they go see their pastor for family counseling