In February my husband and I were married (alone) in a Vegas drive-thru chapel. While it was fun at the time, it upset a lot of people, including myself. I have no regrets really, but I do wish I had traditional wedding photos to look back on. I had started planning a "real" wedding in March but then decided to cancel because my guest list was full of people that I didn't really care about. I still want to have some sort of wedding for family and close friends to attend, but it would have to be something very small and intimate. It is hard to find a venue other than hotels and country clubs. Does anyone have any ideas of where to have one other than some place trashy like a public park? I live in AZ so I don't have a beach or anything. My parents suggested just having a reception but I want the white dress and everything.
2006-08-04 09:50:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just plan a nice anniversary dinner party or something like that. Please don't repeat your ceremony. That is a tacky and ill-mannered idea. You get one wedding per marriage.
You can't have it both ways. Wedding ceremonies are sacred moments. You chose to do it alone in Vegas.
Having a re-run wedding means that you are considering your wedding ceremonies entertainment, rather than a once in a lifetime experience.
2006-08-04 10:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To answer your questions: Can you do a vow renewal? Yes. It's a very quick and informal ceremony. Make all decisions about this and any party to follow as a wife and not as a bride. You were a bride 3 years ago and now you're an old married couple. It could hurt you socially and professionally to have a dress up party to pretend any different. A second ceremony? No. You had a wedding the day you married your best friend, and that was your choice. Regret does not erase that. You can invite your family and you can wear any dress you like, though bridal lace would be weird and you could not have a veil or train. You could choose a color and cut that's actually flattering on you. You can have a beautiful cake and a party limited only by your budget and imagination. You just would not expect gifts nor have any of the bridal things like tossing the bouquet. No first dance or dance with dad, and no one is giving you away. You don't have attendants or pre-vow parties or anything like that. It's more like an anniversary party really. No one has to administer the vows, and since there are no official papers to sign, anyone could do it or you don't need anyone. Just read or recite whatever vows you want to each other.. Best wishes.
2016-03-26 23:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always renew your vows in front of very special and close friends and family. I'm from CA so I don't know what kind of venues there may be in AZ, but I'm sure you can find a nice, elegant place to hold your event. I've noticed that some of the most beautiful places to hold weddings are limited on how many guests you can have, so that might work out perfect for you. I know some hotels, restaurants, golf courses and other venues offer beautiful places to have a ceremony and reception. I got married in an old brick packing house and everyone loved it because of it's charm. You can even check new community centers or something along those lines being newly remodeled or built. My brother is going to get married next month at a community center (yeah it sounds kind of cheesy) but it's a beautiful place. Good luck! You can also try bridal shows or any type of wedding vendor (photographers, bakeries, DJ's) they know whats out there and whats nice.
2006-08-04 10:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by maldmb03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister went thru the same experience and she ended up having a big church ceremony and reception. If it's something that you really want, you need to do it. I never really had a wedding when I got married and I really regret it. Regardless of the costs, it's an experience that you must have, b/c hopefully most people only get married once! Also, please make sure that when you have a wedding (big or small) that you make sure that all of arrangements are taken care of. In other words that you don't have to clean the wedding hall in your wedding dress. (I've seen it happen) Good luck!
2006-08-04 10:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A reception is nice, my sister did that we rented out a place that had a bar and invited the family and some friends did the whole cake thing we put disposable cameras on all the tables with a note for everyone to have fun and take some pictures, they ended
up with some butts and lots of good memories, I think its a great idea.
2006-08-04 10:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by T agent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always do a symbolic ceremony, followed by a reception. You could opt for a church first, but there is always the option to have the ceremony at the reception hall. Many restaurants have rooms set aside for wedding receptions/business meetings/etc.
2006-08-04 10:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did this. I hired a JP so family and friends could watch us exchange vows. You can also rent a hall, or if you know someone who has a nice back yard, use this as the site for vows and reception. This way you can still have the dress, photographer, dj, cake, food, etc.
2006-08-04 10:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not a church? Some churches are very nice about letting you have weddings in their facilities even if you are not a member. What you might want to do is wait until your first anniversary and call it a recommitment ceremony.
2006-08-04 10:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very approprate to do a renewal of the vows...Then you can do up the wedding and everyone can enjoy but make sure it is what you want or you won't have fun if you need help email me I am a consaltant
2006-08-04 11:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by devans042503 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you already gave up your "white dress" wedding. You can, however, have a small reception.
2006-08-05 01:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋