what do i do when my 11 year old child thinks she too fat to wear a bathing suit and wont go out?

Answer 1

TURN OFF THE TELEVISION!! BURN YOUR BEAUTY MAGS!!

Now do you see what our society is doing to our kids?
This is really sad!!

My neice went through the same thing. Her mother was really concerned about it, so they stopped watching television and didn't allow beauty mags in the house.
My neice was able to grow out of it fairly quickly..but her friends still influenced her self-image as well.

Answer 2

If you can't convince her that she's not to fat, tell her that she needs to not care what the other girls think. She probably won't listen, she 11, and you need to go up to the next step. Show her some really skinny super model out of a magazine and tell her that she used to be 200 pounds when she was 11, and that she made a stunning come back, and that it dosen't matter what you look like now, but what you grow into that's what you should care about. Give out all her good qualities, and make sure that she knows how special she is, even if she doesn't think her body is supermodel material.

Answer 3

This is sad at 11 she should just want to have fun,if this is bothering her so much than you really need to help her get started on a life plan of healthy eating and diet.Not just a diet but a whole change in life style,help her to increase her exercise and start taking the fat filled junk food out of the house,limit take out food and soda give her several healthy choices available in the fridge for snacking and make sure she is eating good balanced meals,she really needs help.being over weight at 11 and the way kids tease can effect her into adulthood.Start today do not put it off,she really needs help to get on the right track of healthy living.

Answer 4

You should try to be patient with her and help guide her into a healthier life style. Try to make it positive by going to the park or taking a walk. Now, if she doesn't want to leave the house...then try to do some fun, but workout type activites, like learning how to dance salsa or yoga. For the bathing suit thing...try to get her a cover-up or like a dress/shorts to go on top. Good luck!

Answer 5

get her a one piece with a cute sarong or somthing so that she doesn't feel like shes showing too much. See what things will make it look like shes slimmer. Also sit her down and tell her strait out she is not fat, shes georgeous and give her a plate of healthy food and go for a walk or somthing. Also ask her what happened that she suddenly thinks shes fat, whether she got made fun of at school or her friends are all toothpicks or what.

Answer 6

You should take her out to let her find out for herself that there is more to a person than the way they look in a bathing suit. Maybe take her to the craft store and let her paint or sculpt something she can be proud of. She will gain confidence with her creative soul and at her age, she will most likely realize that looks aren't everything and that she is a beautiful person inside and out. :) Good Luck!

Answer 7

Is she really fat? If so, help her to lose the weight. If not, help her to realize that her body is perfectly fine. Try not to force her to wear that bathing suit. Until she accepts the way she looks in it, it'll just be torment to make her do it.

Answer 8

You do not give her control over these anxieties! If she is allowed to behave like this it will tell her she is right. If you insist that she participate she will accept and overcome this. Buy her the most flattering suit , by your standard not hers, and sign her up for swimming class. If she refuses then she will have consequences
for her actions and loose valuable privileges. Trust me she will overcome her fears and learn to accept the blessings God gave her!

Answer 9

What you should do is tell her she is beautiful. Tell her that what is in magazines portrays the image of women who actually care about what people think. I am Hispanic and i love my curves. It is something to be proud of. Not to be ashamed. But with peer pressure she might not care. Just let her know that having curves are a beautiful thing. She won't always have to be that way. She just has to learn to love herself first.

Answer 10

Trust me when i tell u this, she will feel this way for a long time! So take her in front of a mirror tell her that no matter what she is beautiful inside and out. She's your daughter tell her u love her and tell her stories of when u were younger. (That only works if you went through a phase like that)