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ok, so my husbands brother and his wife have 3 little girls. 2 of the little girls have head lice, and when I say that I mean they have it REALLY bad, and have had it since January, (thats when they first noticed it) I am NOT exagerating. I wish i was.
Well the mom will not do anything about it, wont buy treatments, wont wash the bedding, you know, all of the stuff you need to do.
The middle daughter has a severe case, open sores etc....
I want to call the state and report them, because they are not being taken care of (the kids)
The grandmother is the only one to do a treatment on the girls, so far
one of the girls is 8 and will not be able to start school. and the other is 4, and in pre school,
Another thing thats really gross, is their mother works at a resteraunt as a server, and we KNOW she has them, but she will not let anyone check her.
Now I am really mad because my 2 daughters were around their grandmother for like 10 min, and now my youngest has it

2006-08-04 09:35:06 · 43 answers · asked by pink girlie 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

I found 1 lice and several nits.
My question is should I turn her in? She has been turned in before for her filthy house.
I am so mad about my daughter getting them that i don't know if i can make the decision.
I don't feel she should be working in the resteraunt, and I feel she is wrong for not helping her poor kids.
Am I wrong to be so mad? Would it be wrong to turn her in? Or would it be wrong not to?

2006-08-04 09:37:52 · update #1

MY HUSBAND AND HIS OTHER BROTHER AND SISTER HAVE ALL TALKED TO THEM. IT DOES NO GOOD

2006-08-04 09:41:54 · update #2

43 answers

You need to call Social Services. That's child neglect. If you don't want to call, give me the information and I'll call for you. I'm not kidding, I'll do it. If you don't, you're going to live with a guilty conscience! You don't need to tell anyone that you've called either - just do it and keep it to yourself. Anyone could call. I'd call the school, too. That's just gross and sick that she won't take care of her children. I'd call the Health Department, too, so they can go to the restaurant. It's pointless to treat the girls if the mom's got it and won't take care of it. They'll just get it again and be back to square 1.

If my kid had lice, I'd freak! You must be so mad!!!

2006-08-04 09:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by Answers to Nurse 3 · 2 0

I think that it would be wrong not to turn her in. Head-lice is a very serious problem that can lead to hair loss and scalp infections. Those little girls need someone to stick up for them if their parents will not. I understand how you feel about your daughter getting them. The best you can do about that is to keep her away from them and from her grandmothers house. You may try to talk to the mother and just tell her that your daughter is not allowed to be near her, her children, or her grandmother until she takes care of the problem. Something else you could think about, make an anonymous call to the restaurant that she works at. Its a little drastic, but I really would not want to eat there.

2006-08-04 09:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by ams0996 1 · 0 0

I know it seems mean, but those poor children! They deserve the right to be loved and cared for. They deserve the right to not have open sores and who knows what else just because their mother won't care for them. They deserve to live in a clean house where they will be healthy and safe. You would not let your children live like that, neither would I, and they shouldn't. It is possible the children will not be removed from the home. They could stay and be monitored to be sure that everything gets cleaned up. That is what happened with my neighbor, though I am about to call for neglect of her 4 year old. Mother has a coke habit and will leave her daughter home alone while she runs around with her "boyfriends". The mother assumes the neighbors will keep an eye on the little girl since she is playing with our children.

2006-08-04 12:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Brooke 4 · 0 0

As a Christian, i'd pray about it and see if I got peace before calling. If you don't believe in that option, I would say call without second thought or guilt. Becuase if this mom is neglecting them in this way, there's no telling what other ways they're being neglected. It sounds silly, but it's pretty traumatic for a little girl to have to shave her head to get rid of lice, but I've seen it happen. Incidentally, filth doesn't cause lice, though it makes it harder to get rid of them. As for her job, I wouldn't attempt to do anything about that one until the kids were squared away, b/c if she loses her job (which needs to happen if she's not going to be clean around food) the kids will suffer for it. With open sores on their heads, the kids could end up with bad infections, too. And it wreaks havoc on their self worth to be 'those kids' at school, you know what I mean?
Good luck,

2006-08-04 09:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 0 0

SAD!!!!!!!! Tell your husband to go kick his brother's ***! What is wrong with those people? That's just sick and very neglectful. Not only are these poor children suffering, but because of their parents, other kids and people are suffering too. That's not fair to those little girls. Perhaps you could offer to come over and treat the girls. If they won't do it, someone has to! If you've exhausted all options, then call their school or social services. There is NO need for those girls to be suffering that way!

2006-08-04 09:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Call the department of health and human resources immediatly. This is a form of child neglect and ANYONE who suspects or knows of child abuse/neglect is obligated to report it. If you don't who else will help these poor kids. Be a hero even if you have to do it annonomously . No one else is speaking up for them what is wrong with your husbands brother that he would allow this to go on? You may want to also (without giving your name) let the health department know where your sister in law is waitressing. This is a health hazzard to her customers and coworkers. Call ASAP and you will feel much better knowing you did the right thing.

2006-08-04 10:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think you should tell the mother that she needs to do something about the lice. If that wont work then maybe you should consider treating the girls yourself. The part about the mom in the diner, well that's sick! You should Tell her boss and have her be treated or she can't work there. I know the opinions of a 12 year old are very good, but you should consider it. I know one other option, pray. Pray that God will take the situation into his hands.
Good Luck! I know God will hear your prayers.

2006-08-04 09:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by Reeses' 2 · 0 0

If I were you I would Definitely turn her in. The state will ask you who you are but can not give out any info to anyone. It is all confidental. That is not how children should be raised, a filthy house and head lice will get those kids out of the situation. You would be doing the right thing!!

2006-08-04 09:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 0 0

I think first you should sit down and talk to your brother and sister-in-law, and if that does not work I would turn them in. It is not right for a child to suffer when the parents are not responsible. If the grandmother is willing to take the children, I would recommend this to her. If this problem is not taking care of the children are the only ones who will suffer. Eventually someone will do it anyway.

2006-08-04 09:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by luckymom43 2 · 0 0

dang something has to be done short of going over there and bleaching the house i am not sure what else you can do but report them. My friend ws like that and didn't tell me next thing I knew me and my girls were infested with them. Luckily I caught them quickly and next thing there was laundry, vinegar and nix going every which way to get rid of those things. Just as I get rid of them i took my girls to the pool ( a week later ) they come home with a couple in their hair and I have to do the whole thing over again. Those bugs are hard to get rid of but if the 8 year old has open sores because of it talk to your doctor too see if he can recommend anything. For now I suggest you keep the kids away as difficult as that is to say

2006-08-04 09:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by christina s 3 · 0 0

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