This girl name vanessa became friends with me but I found her very attractive though. Plus she approached me first, so after a couple of months I told her I liked her. She said she loved her boyfriend and that I was a great guy. I few months later I asked her if she didn't have a boyfriend could we be lovers. She told me we can't because we started out has friends. So I ended our friendship soon afterwards. It was really wierd because in the begining she came to me, so figured she liked me.
2006-08-04 09:07:37 · 8 answers · asked by Vesdog! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello Lornett V,
You can pick and chose who your friends are and who aren't. Women don't like to think that you have that power, but you do. You are the 50 in a 50-50 relationship, and you are free to stop it at any time, just as she is.
She may have been coming onto you to get her boy friend jealous, or maybe to see if she still had sex appeal, or maybe she's an attention whore. Once she saw you dance for her, she decided to put you back in your place. So you see, it might not have been just you being an ******, or immature.
On the other hand having a friend that's a girl is great and if you wanted to keep her as a friend and go after other girls, what's wrong with that? But, if you were attracted to her that way and seeing her with her boyfriend wasn't doing it for you, I can understand that. It's good that you stopped being with her. Good for you, her, and for her boy friend too.
Don't feel bad. I think that you did the right thing. Happy hunting.
--Rick
2006-08-04 09:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well that is very wierd of her. Honestly, don't think that making friends first is a bad idea. In fact it's the best idea. You have to find a common ground and see how well you get along in a friendship before you see how it goes romantically. So don't lose faith in that.
The only thing I can think of in her defense is that maybe you guys became such good friends that it was wierd for her to think of you as anything more. That does happen, but honestly, she doesn't sound like someone you want to be after. You'll find someone much better. Good luck.
2006-08-04 09:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by nintendofreak91788 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you were wrong or not but it sounds like the only reason you were friends with her was for the possibility of being lovers. In that way then you were right to end it. But don't forget that things could have developed in the future into a wonderful relationship whether just friends or lovers.
2006-08-04 09:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bogie Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're immature. She told you that she had a man and loved him and you still were hoping for something else? You became friends. Thats it. If you wanted more then you should have realized in the first week that she had a man and left then and there. Totally selfish to leave a friendship because you couldnt be lovers with her. You knew that before.
2006-08-04 09:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were definitely immature - how can you say that you were ever really friends with this girl - it looks like you were only ever interested in going to bed with her. To be honest it's a bit pathetic and if you get a reputation for doing that sort of thing then decent girls will steer clear of you.
2006-08-04 09:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by bertha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so sad, you jerk! if you did that to me, id be extremely angry. how could you do that? end a friendship because she doesn't like you that way? man, you seem stupid! i mean, she still liked you, but as friends. if you liked her as much as you say you did, her being happy should've satisfied you. now, you ruined everything. i don't even want to type to you anymore!!!
2006-08-04 09:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by colesprouselover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya, there's more fish in the sea
2006-08-04 09:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋