My boyfriend cheated on me and we were in the process of wedding talk. Well I am totally devastated. I have made it through the anger part and now i'm just hurt. Can someone please give me some advice on how to make it through this, I love him so much!
2006-08-04 09:03:57 · 12 answers · asked by BamaBelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First... allow yourself to indulge in that pint of Ben & Jerry's.
Second, try to come to terms with this - even though you loved him, he lied to you about his feelings for you. He's NOT the person you loved. Someone else out there is looking for you, so please don't spend your time obsessing over someone who obviously wasn't being truthful with his feelings about you.
Third, remove all evidence of him from your life. Any stuff he bought you, pictures, etc... delete his number from your cell phone and his email from your inbox. Cleaning up that clutter will make room for people in your life who will treat you right, and keeps you from seeing constant reminders of your pain throughout the day.
Fourth, start dating again. Nothing serious, but you need to be reminded that there are other guys out there who are interested in you. Honestly, you'll probably kiss a LOT more frogs, but eventually you'll find a Prince, and he'll treat you right.
Good luck.
2006-08-04 09:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Ali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Hi. I am sorry to hear that it happen with you... well I can suggest you one thing if you could follow it... well first of all you think that u havnt had such releationship with any one and try to move with ur friends and family and make ur self busy dnt try to him about your boyfriend if you thinks it u will get more hurted.. I know thats easy to say as you u are facing it.. but I have gone through this situtation... u know some times GOD will do for over the best and we think that he did wrong.. but some thing will be there in furture for which he made it right now.. dont worry keep faith in Almighty he is tooo goood he wount make his childrens upset and very soon u will be happy more than ur previous life its my challange.. but you have to try yourself to get it out from this okay.. till then take care and cheers on your cute face okay good luck to your forth comming furture.. have a good day
2006-08-04 16:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Saif 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not the question you can still love someone but can't live with them i wouldn' go on with the wedding yea your in so much love but evertime you get angry everytime ya in a argument your going to bring tthis incicdent up and ya argument is going to become worse its sumthin you will nevver be able to forget, its sumthin that'll you'll think of at work and it'll just ruin the rest of the day. If it was me I would beat the **** out of the girland leave him then he wold be hurting like you are because he messed up sumthin good for the rest of his life
2006-08-04 16:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by !!yentruoc!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me with my fiancee and like a week later i went and met the perfect girl and she did the same thing so i met another girl and just made her think everything was alright when she was about to do the same thing the others did and i gave her the broken ,it made me feel a little better but i still wasn't comepletely over the first one so ,i started paying attention to a girl in a few of my classes and we started talking and then i realized i don't need to let myself get down on this ,because there are more people out there who do care about you and will love you until the day you die!!!
2006-08-04 16:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by evantiner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can listen 2 sad songs like me. My Bf cheated 2. He lied about it until my friend took a picture of him doing some girl. She din't have anything 2 do wit it but she just took the pic so I could know. If u need some suggestions on songs, just email me @ picesgotgoodies148@yahoo.com or funntime45@aol.com
2006-08-04 16:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by snoopyluver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it probably hurts to hear this, but you should be happy he didn't wait until you were married. That hurts even worse! But hey, it wasn't meant to be. There's a perfect guy out there for you, you just have to be patient. Spend time with your girlfriends, have a drink or two, and break out the cookie dough ice cream. You'll make it, I promise !!!
2006-08-04 16:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by angel23amy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write it out...everything...don't stop writing until you have it sorted out. In the mean time, the things you write will help you understand, you, him, everything and may even have value to others. If that doesn't work...find someone to talk it out with...someone trustworthy and wise. When I went through hard times I started writing and poems happened...I mean they just ... happened.
Like this:
Night of My Despair
Though all be dark, I sit and wait,
Echoes of words spewing hate,
Night now calm, there is no debate,
Reclining, tranquil, brief escape,
The dark where passion once arose.
Thunder rumbles in distant sky
Hints of my stormy house this night,
All quiet now to my delight
Has she gone, or is she nearby?
She sleeps, eyes and heart to me closed.
Cold reigns this night of my despair,
Dread grows as comes the dawning flare,
Day brings to me contempt laid bare,
Words that lovers should never share,
Scornful dreams not fair to disclose.
The dark offers to me respect
Which from my love I can't expect.
Hid in dark, my life to inspect,
Find what bought esteem's reject,
Despising the partner she chose
I am honored where none speaks,
Nor sound of love or hate leaks,
Place where no critic's eye peeks,
Not but chill to kiss my cheeks,
Cheer the cold dark, My heart's repose.
just david 1999
2006-08-04 16:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Just David 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel...same thing happened to me...it's not easy but you have to ask yourself if you could ever be with someone who would cheat on you...i went back to my ex and know what...he did it again...move on you will be so much better off..and the pain does go away,good luck!!
2006-08-04 16:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by sugar_n_spice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are probably going through the depression stage so do wat all the ovas have said wich is have some ice cream but not to much lol an have a good time wid the girls dont worry youll find someone else
2006-08-04 16:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by alice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful you found out what a prick he is now BEFORE you married him! And if that thought doesnt help... just cry a river... build a bridge and get over it...
2006-08-04 16:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋