im verbally abuse my x gf and i regret at that time and that moment i didnt realize i had a problem so the relationship ended after the relationship i sought anger management counseling and have been and activly going to them. i have improve so much.
now i do keep in contact with my x gf and have been trying to get back with her. she has admited to me she is emotianally scare because of everythin and i feel so bad about it because i never meant for it to happen like this. she said she has a difficult time opening up to anyone. i want her happy even if it not with me.
so she and i are friends now, but she sends me miz messages, i tried not to be in her life too much but when she hears i having fun she gets my attention like giving a dog a bone
if she doesnt want to be with me like this why does she sends me mix message that she wants me, is like she wants me one day and doesnt want me the other
why is that???????????????
2006-08-04 08:56:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she sends pics of her n her family
why?????? after i came back from trip
many of my friends say that she did this t o lure back like a puppet cuz she fears u may found somone out there
but why??
any suggestions
2006-08-04 08:57:27 · update #1
Sounds like she still has feelings for you, but I don't know it's too late or not to get back together.
Only you know whether you've truly changed and whether you can move past all the baggage of the past.
My advice is to let things happen naturally. If she's sending you pictures and things, don't dig too much into it just yet. Wait for a more concrete sign that she may want to rekindle the relationship.
Right now, just be her friend. Since you guys have history, if it's meant that you should be together, you will.
And kudos on your maturity in getting help for your anger issues.
Good luck.
2006-08-04 09:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends. Not close, close friends, but I think you have to let go of the relationship for now and focus on your new found calmness. AND she'll also be able to SEE it and know its genuine and not just because you want to get back together with her.
And the pics. She's probably confused also.
2006-08-04 16:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you messed her up. You broke her heart. She loved you and likely has some codependency problems.
Leave her alone. She probably needs a lot of counseling after what you did to her. Encourage her to do so and to move on with her life.
2006-08-04 16:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. You've hurt her and this emotional roller coaster you two are on will not end. She wants to string you along because you hurt her and she wants you to feel bad. Just tell her you dont think this friendship is gonna work. Then remove all contact with her. Block her if necessary.
2006-08-04 16:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not sure could be 1 reason, but if she's only doing it when she thinks you having fun then it's revenge. if you guys got back together, she'd probably dog the hell out of you as pay back, consciously or subconsciously she's going to make you pay, i say get over her. enjoy you new anger management skills with a new girl that is not biased against you.
2006-08-04 16:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by The Key Master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now u feel her pain shes probably in the revenge state and even though it sounds like a good idea it only hurts her its something people call the three R's its : resentment, resistant, then revenge they all lead up to self destruction so dont let it get to you because then the only person shes hurting is her self ok well need any more advice my email is imstillcountry@yahoo.com
2006-08-04 16:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by natrual flirt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of congrats on getting help for the problem that cause you this girl you care for, and 2nd of all she'll need some help herself. what does she want? of course still cares for you , but like she said she's scare and it'll take time to build a trust and alot of work to get back together if that what you want.
2006-08-04 16:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by sexydiabla592 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the situation with my ex that he wanted me today..didnt want me tommorrow and then was confues about what he wanted the day after that..why do you want to keep chasing something that doesnt know what they want? she sounds like she is confused and dont know what to do but yet shes scared..she wants you but she doesnt want you..she wants to give you a chance but she doesnt want to give u a chance..see what im saying? have you told her how you felt? have you told her you are sorry and you wont do these things to her? say it only if you REALLY mean it in your heart..have you 2 talked about these things? well if so ...honey..its time to move on..let her be another chapter in your past..know you did what you can do..and move on..you cant keep trying..you cant keep working on soemthing that will never be...you have to learn from this and move on..and make the next situation different her sending you mix signals..take this from a females point of view..shes confused..or either shes playing games..thats the only 2 options..i would think i would do if i would put myself in her shoes why shes doing these things..let her go.."if you love them..let them go..if they come back..they are yours forever".maybe its time to give eachother space..only time will tell..block her emails if thats helps..get a new phone number..try to live without here and if you can live without her then it wasnt mean to be..but if she comes back..then thats good..maybe she just needs some time and space..tell her how you feel and then get the space thats needed..with me and my ex i told him how i felt and left the ball in his court..i left him alone..and then like a month later he came back to me..saying lets let bigons be bigons..so see..whatever works..good luck! hope i helped
2006-08-04 16:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by Calendar_Model 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and leave her alone. Let her come to you if she wants to... But, if she does, don't be surprised if there are repercussions from your previous abuse. You will be "digging yourself out of a hole" with this relationship... You will have to prove yourself to her... Rightfully so.
2006-08-04 16:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by snape4good 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is probably because she still does have feelings for you but she is scared that you will hurt her again i think you should ask her back out, but make sure to be romantic about it (flowers chocolate ect.) and promise her you will never hurt her again
2006-08-04 16:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋