How do i get my 3 year old to use the potty to go #2??

Question

She wear real underware all day and nigh .. till she has to go #2. Then she tell me she needs a diaper. She refuses to try to go #2 in the potty, she thinks it will hurt and cries till i put a diaper on her. what should i do??

Answer 1

I think it's pretty normal that some children have a fear of doing #2 and it just takes some time to work through the fear. My personal experience has been to be very casual and non chalant about it and remain positive.

I had the same problem with my daughter - did great with going on the potty for #1, but wanted a diaper for #2. I decided to take a real low key, casual approach. When she asked for a diaper I casually tried to distract her with something else to get her mind of the diaper, sing a song, put on a favorite show, whatever I think will work to get her mind off the diaper. It took some time but it did work. I also gently remind her that big girls go #2 on the potty. When she does go #2 on potty I made a BIG deal out of it -we do high fives, which she gets a real kick out of.

I personally don't think it's a big deal if sometimes you do put the diaper on when she asks - as long as you are working towards getting her to go on the potty. And I do not think threatening to take favorite things away will work. If she doesn't want to go don't force it, but when she does go make a big deal.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

I hear of a lot of little girls having problems with this. I wonder why? Humm (seeing as I only have boys) I would maybe try a potty chair (even though I think they are really gross and personally never used them) or offer her a big reward. I know, all the books tell us not to bribe our kids but heck...it works really well usually. Perhaps something more than the typical stickers. Maybe a new baby to sit on a shelf (or tacked out of her reach but within sight in the bathroom) and just tell her that if she goes just once...she'll get the doll. The next day, offer up a bottle (or something smaller but still very desireable) and gradually make the rewards smaller until she no longer needs them.

Answer 3

Does she think sitting on the potty will hurt or the actual act of defecation hurt. Probably not the latter since she already defecates in her diaper, I'm assuming.

Did something traumatic happen on the potty in the past to make her fear it? In any event, I would look for a video that deals with potty training and both of you watch it together. Perhaps something like that could alleviate her fears if she sees other kids sitting on the potty with no problems.

Answer 4

This is fairly common when it comes to potty training. My daughter did this, and my friend is going through this with her daughter right now. We got a baby doll and put it on a potty chair, and we snuck some raisins into the baby doll's potty. Then when my daughter checked to see if the doll went, she saw the raisins and we told her Yay, the baby went, and we made a big fuss over the baby doll and how "proud" we were of her. That might work for you, but if not, this will work itself out in time. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Well, there's so many things you can try. With my daughter, we have a sticker reward thing going on. Everytime she pees or poops in the potty she gets a sticker (if you want, give your child two stickers for poops) that she places on her calendar - it's taped to the wall in the bathroom. This is going to sound gross, but I would let my daughter follow me into the bathroom when I had to poop. Children love to imitate their parents. I would pretend like it was no big deal and then let her see inside the toilet and also flush it for me. Then we sing songs (usually the alphabet or the potty song) and wash our hands. Also, anytime my daughter pooped in her pullups, I would tell her "no-no. no poo-poo in pullups." and put the poop into her potty. I would tell her that poo-poo is supposed to go into potty now that she's a big girl. I repeated this every day. One day she looked at me and said she had to potty. She sat on her potty for 5 minutes and pooped. I made such a big deal out of it. We sang the "potty song", she helped me empty her potty and flush the toilet, and we washed our hands. I gave her a sticker for poo-poo'ing in the potty and she loved it! Also, some children need privacy to poop. My daughter was one of those kids. I would tell her that I would be right back and when I got back there would be something in the potty. If you choose this option, be sure to go back every minute or two, or talk to them while you're away. Don't leave them alone for too long or they'll end up playing in it! Good luck!

Answer 6

Kids are funny and hard to figure aren't they?

No easy answers, but find out where they like to go. My oldest only wanted to go on the actual toilet with a toddler ring on it. Our 21 m.o. seems to like the little play potty. Maybe a change of scenery, so to speak, would help. Go to Target, Wal-mart etc. and see if there is a particular potty toilet they respond automatically to. We got one that is like a throne and makes lots of happy noises when they potty.

Many people recommend the rather voluminous "Potty Training in a Day" book (amazing there's all that text just for teaching potty training), but it's always trial-and-error. Some kids respond to treats, some to discipline, some to both. Bribery, if sparsely used of course, is sometimes a very helpful teaching tool.

We had the most success--almost instantaneous (save the occasional accident, of course)--when we got our oldest a "Potty Dotty" doll. She loved it and played with it all the time and would always urgently put it on its little "toilet" every time she needed to "go." Of course, this was only for #1, but it may drive home the point for yours yet still combine it with some fun time.

Answer 7

I have the same problem.Told her pediatrician we are concerned about this since she is 3 going 4 next year..He said not to worry about it and that she will go when she is ready.She has a 1 y/r old brother and pediatrician said it it's an attention behavior.
Needless to say,I am still concerned...There is always a pressure for kids to do something at a certain age.

Now to answer your question...I have been asking from people I know how they potty trained their kids and they basically said the same thing...Just let her/him ran around without diaper all day with or withour clothes on(it's summer time)Then if she feels like going she/he will tell you.(Doesn't work with my daughter.I guess what works for them doesn't work for me.)

Hope your daughter will go soon.As the saying goes,"just try and try until you succeed."

Take care!

Answer 8

keep trying. try to discourarge the diaper as much as possible. reward her when she does go on the potty. we had a bowl of m&m's, nad she got one every time she used the potty #1 or #2. and make a big deal when she does go. my wife had me go outside and act like barney calling her to say how great it was. it really worked. good luck.

Answer 9

I used to let my son poop in his pull up then put the poop in the potty and make a big deal out of it like it was a party and he wanted the same praise so he starting sitting on the potty.

Answer 10

Give her a reward type of incentive for even thinking about trying to use the potty.Keep rewarding until she is finally using the potty.