My Dad's girlfriend is so awesome (i know they will get married), but i have only met her two daughters once, i dont know that much about either of them. one is a year younger and the other is two years older, im 14. they are 13, and 16. tomarrow i am going to the mall to shop; get our nails done; andd eat at a resturant, with my dads girlfriend and her 16 yr old daughter, last time i had hung out with her i didnt know what to say, it was really awkward and tomarrow it might be even more!!! HELP! i wanna B good friends with her (she'll soon be my step sister & i never even had a sister b4), are there any thing i can talk about with her? if so then wut? please i need help FAST!
(please dont write anything corny, i.e.; if u dont have anything to talk about then why waste ur time)
thnx!
-coacoachannel (i know i spelled chanel wrong)
2006-08-04 08:53:03 · 17 answers · asked by channel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ask her about her life, interests, what she does on her spare time..etc...and just act interested. Find out if you have anything in common with her from asking her questions. If you do, then you can talk about that! Be open and nice :D
2006-08-04 08:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by xxjoanna_maexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, first of all you need to learn to be more relaxed around them. I figure that your problems communicating with them is because you are nervous that they won't like you or that you'll say something bad, no? So I'd build up some confidence and keep in mind that they very well could become your step-sisters!
Secondly, ask them about their interests. Are they Aeropostale or Hot Topic gals? What activities are they into? What do they aspire to be when they get older? Are they into sports, and if so, which ones? Find out some stuff about them by asking questions such as these, and perhaps you can communicate back and forth with ease! I hope that I helped. :)
2006-08-04 15:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Slippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm REAL glad you like dad's girlfriend1
Tell your dad how you feel. And then level with the girl. Tell her you want to be friends.
Not only is this an awkward situation for you, it's an awkward age for you both as well. You don't know what's going on in her head. She may be at a loss the same as you. All you can do is be open & honest & let the relationship blossom.
2006-08-04 16:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I am 25 and just 2 yrs ago my dad got remarried. I now have a 14 yr old stepsister and never know what to say to her. So I just ask her hows it going and about school and boring stuff. But being so close in age, and being at the mall, I'm sure you two will be chitchatting like best friends in no time!! So don't worry, just be yourself and let the conversation flow:)
2006-08-04 15:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by siropson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I jus answered a question like this 2 days ago and i got the best answer. It was the same situation just with a girl and this boy she likes. Here a few ytopics yall could talk about. Switch it up thoe cuz I did send this for a girl and a boy to talk about .
What grade are they in?
Talk about teachers...
Have a job? Where does she work? Does she like working? How long has she been working?
Ready for school to start?
Got any pets? If so what they names? What are they? How many does he have?
What did they do for the summer?
Gotta boyfriend?
Whats their favorite TV show?
Whats their Favorite Colors?
When their birthday?
Where are they from?
If they wasnt born in ya state ask them when they moved here.
What is it like in the state they came from?
Do they get homesick?
Whats their nationality?
What did they think of you before he met you or when they first saw you?
2006-08-04 16:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start asking her questions, it will make talking easier. Favorite subjects, classes, teachers, music, sports, tv shows. The names of her friends, boyfriends, pets, etc. Once a question or two is asked, usually a few more will follow, and before you know it you will have both learned things about each other and can start to build a friendship. Good luck!
2006-08-04 16:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by mixemup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to find out more about her. That shouldnt leev 2 much silence surely if you have so much 2 find ou. Also she probably doesnt know about you and wants 2 know more so she is probably fretting just as much as u r about getin it right. My advice is just ask about her and she will ask about you also as the adult your step mum (2 be) shud help with the situation and ease up the tension should there be any which i doubt. Anywayz gd luk youve met before so insted of worse it can onli get better ;)
2006-08-04 16:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lipzyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! i'm so happy for you that your dad found someone that is good to him and you too =)...I understand the nervousness as I got that way when I first met my cousin's half-sister....she is about 10 years older then me....I wanted to be nice, but I didn't know what to say to her...now, we are good friends and we talk every once in a while....
why don't you just ask her questions you would with your friends? Like talk about school, shopping, what are her interests, does she like to read, what kind of books, does she like this or that, ask her opinions, etc....ask her some of your hobbies...like if you like to run, does she like it? if not what does she like to do and you can develop a conversation from there....and i'm sure she has questions for you too....and one topic can lead to another different one....
its so sweet that you want to be close to her...i'm sure you'll make great sisters and best of friends =)
2006-08-04 15:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest that you ask questions like what are their likes and dislikes on a lot of topics that you may be interested in. Also answer their questions politely and with candour.
When you do this you will start to build relationships, and it will help all three of you to get to know each other.
2006-08-04 16:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by ijcoffin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it easy, try to get comfortable like how u do when ur around your friends. Find something that you have in common by asking them about their interest. Don't sweat it, just be your self. Good luck
2006-08-04 15:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by hunniebun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋