How well do you handle people, when you know they have some sort of issue with you?

Answer 1

First of all I would say "Sorry" ( apology) pretending that I admit my mistakes if I've ever hurt that person and listen to his words until I am sure what exactly made him mad at me.Then I would approach that person in a friendly manner and try my best to clarify all the misunderstandings between us in a calm manner. I may get equally angry on the same issue but it's not gonna help either of us if we both burn like fire from the both sides. If I have really done something wrong accidentally or intentionally, I will still admit my mistakes and explain everything how it all happened and say Sorry at the end. Remember, saying "Sorry" doesn't make anybody small or wrong. It's just a polite manner to admit one's mistake. Misundersatndings usually occurs when second person is in different moods due to stress or anyother reasons so we must understand those situations around us as well. As far as my personal experience with people or co-workers is concerned, I've always admitted my mistakes and was the first person to say sorry to them and also made them realize that I am a kind of person who win's love of others by love and not by hatredness.They felt the politeness and humbleness in my personality and started coming back to me as good friends and nothing as worse has ever happened again. You really gotta sacrifice your egos and pride in such situation and soon you'll find your enemies coming back to you as friends with smile and much openess. You've won them by love. So,whatelse you need now?

Answer 2

It is difficult honey I know and it puts you in an uneasy awkward place....because, its hurtful and its a guessing game trying to have to figure out what you did wrong.= (if anything).
They may have an issue with your haircut, or your shoes, even the color of your skin.

My point is this...You cant make everybody happy. Look what is important here is that you feel comfortable in your own style and self. As long as you feel good about yourself - you cant worry about what issues they have. That's between them and their own self esteem issues. All my life I worried about the girls in my high school...how they talked about me. They did it because...well...they were not as smart or perhaps had a low confidence level about themselves. When I left high school I was never so glad to get away from the people that made me feel crappy. Now - I am gonna give you some advice here. Be the Best you can be. Be kind and generous to others and do not cheapen yourself to their standards. YOU will be a winner in the long run.

Answer 3

Being in my business, I've experienced these situations. I do appreciate it whenever somebody who has "issues" with me, either personally or professionally, comes to me directly and lets me know that there is a problem. I gain instant respect for this person and the fact that he/she came to me gives that person credibility.

Most of the time these instances are merely misunderstandings that can be resolved amicably in a matter of minutes. Simple and direct communication is the key. It is imperative that the message be delivered without anyone or anything intervening.

I practice what I preach when/if the situation is reversed.

Answer 4

I do very well I have been Handeling people who have issues with me for 30 Years - I am a boss at a large company - You learn and get better at it all the time. The only people who's Issues I worry about is my Family -

Answer 5

If it is someone close to me or someone at work I need to get along with I will usually bring it out into the open - ignoring them doesn't work. This has almost always resulted in a positive resolution and a stronger relationship.

When confronting the person it must not be at all adversarial or confrontational. If you are sincere in trying to understand the problem and they see this, they are more willing to talk and work it out.

However, if it is someone who has no impact on my life then I would just ignore them.

Answer 6

I don't know if this would be considered handling them well but I feel that if they can't openly confront me with an issue they have with me then I know nothing and do nothing. It always eventually comes out in the wash anyway.

Answer 7

We can able to solve all problems through a healthy conversation, don't care about what people thinking about us and what they are talking about us, we & our GOD now who we are it enough for us to live here with a positive mind. Just think like this the whole world is full of our friends, we have no enemies. love everybody "love makes all things possible". You know our life is to small, in this small life try to enjoy always, don't waist time to fight. "We were not born together & and wouldn't die together, then why shouldin't fight together in this small period between life & death". So if your friend had a problem against you try to find whats that and solve it.

Answer 8

Sometimes I act as though I am not aware of it, or that it is not a problem with me. This action indicates that it is not of major importance to me. It doesn't confront,solve or discuss...I know...sometimes I am not up to a battle. In a funny way,though, it sometimes diffuses a situation. There are other times when I am ready to discuss the situation. I have known some people who started off not particularly fond of me, and then changed their minds. When I am true to my better self, I'm pretty loveable!!

Answer 9

I think when people have an issue with you they are attempting to control you. I guess we should be objective and examine ourselves, but if we caved in every time somebody had an issue with us we'd be doormats. I ignore people when they are letting me know they have an issue with me. I still engage them if I have to, but I refuse to let their problem be mine. I don't react in any way. Most of the time they will stop the attitude once they see they are not controlling you with it. Good luck!

Answer 10

Approach them to solve the problem or to ask them if there even is one? Life is too short to walk around with hatred or issues floating in the air. Try to resolve it, if he/she does not response positively or at all, then let it go. Go on knowing that you tried to amend the problem and there was nothing you could do.