somebody help me!?

Question

okay...im 17 and my boyfriend is 18 and he is in the navy.. and we've been going out for about a month and a couple of days now. we have a long distance relationship...and its working about pretty good for the both of us. we usually see eachother on the weekends.. but the problem is whenever we talk on the phone now....it seems like we dont have anything to say to eachother. its like we talked about everything already. i need some suggestions on what should we talk about...so there wont be anymore akward silences. help!

Answer 1

U too have the same prob? Welcome to the club. When ppl talk to each other (lovers) in the beginin of the relationship they learn everythin abt each other so there's nothin more to learn abt each other. Later all u guys would b talkin is "How was ur day?" "What were u doin?" "Did u have food?".... n may b once in a while phone sex LOl!!! Once u guys get bored of askin the same old shitty questions u really feel that there's nothin to talk abt. But the fact is that v humans jus concentrate much on body. V never ask each others how they feel inside. V never tell each other that the other person is there for him/her ( v do say, but in a mechanical manner) Try to find out more abt his mentality rather than physical stuff. U know what.., Long distance relationship is damn hard. Each of u all would have lotsa insecurities cos of the distance. So always make sure that u make the distance vanish by talkin to ur partner as if u r with him physically. That would help a lot. N listen.. don't ask too many questions.. it psychs up guys. The next time u call he would ask his roomie to answer his phone n say that he isn't there.

Answer 2

I don't know that I have the right answer, but here goes. I've been in a "partial" long distance relationship before as well. My husband was working off part of the time. We had the same problem. We never had anything to talk about. Try not talking on the phone for at least 1-2 days except to say that you love each other and let each other know that you're ok, then you will most likely have 2 days worth of info to talk about. Also, be sure to let him know that you're not trying to be ugly or mean, you just love him.

Answer 3

a month? psssh you should have plenty more to talk, about! dont fret! lets see. Childhood. Fears. Nightmares. Dreams. Food. Pet peeves. Goals and aspirations, Family. Make fun of other people. Music. Movies. T.V. You're 17 he is 18 you have a whole life time to catch up on! Don't rush through subjects, ask lots of questions and the conversation is bound to keep flowing. Good Luck And don't be afraid to bring things up out of no where!!! If he says 'where did that come from?' just say. 'random question' :)

Answer 4

Make him tell you what he has done that day. At first, he may think that it is odd, and won't tell you much, but dig a little deeper. I'm sure that there is some guy in the Navy with him who is pressing buttons; I'm sure that he had something to say about a meal that day but didn't say anything. After a while, he'll learn that he can pore his heart and soul to you about what he has done, which will help you both talk about other things.

Also, a good topic is to ask him about anything interesting that he has seen or done (even if this relates to his childhood).

Talk about your day, too. Tell him what you did, and tell him that you miss him.

I'm sure that everything will work out, good luck!

-Lella^_^

Answer 5

That's one reason why phone conversations are inferior to face-to-face conversations. People feel compelled to say something because they have a phone in their hand, so they might say things that have no business being said. Still, I see that you need to have some sort of communication to keep this relationship alive. Why don't you ask him about his friends in the Navy, or ask about his day? If I were you, I wouldn't go into grueling detail about trivial things. That is extremely annoying. But you might get a good conversation out of him if you simply ask him about his day. It might also help to write down things you want to talk about as you think of them, so you will not miss anything when you get him on the phone. Good luck!

Answer 6

Since you're not sharing common experiences, how about discussing feelings? Ask about his fears, concerns, etc. etc. My goodness, he's in the military; that's gotta be making him anxious. But also draw him out about pleasant stuff, too. Do you attend movies or concerts? You can report back to him about your experiences. And current events is always, well, topical.

If the conversations are falling into a predictable exchange of "I miss you/I miss you, too" with little else in between, then perhaps this very new relationship (one month) may have to be put on-hold 'til you can be together more.

But definitely try to broaden the topics you discuss. Pretend you're a talk show host, and interview him.

Answer 7

See what's going on is ya'll have talked too much. When you see each other go places like the beach or movies so that you all can find different things to talk about. Start asking him how was his trip and what did he do, ask him did he miss you and he should ask you how your week or day was, and try not to talk everyday because you will make it boring. You spice up your relationship by missing each other. Go a couple of days without talking to each other. See how much you have to talk about after that.

Answer 8

Hmmm... I know what you're saying.

Ask him when he's away how things are going in the Navy and bring up stuff he likes. Do a little research and learn about it. Talk about Yahoo! Answers to him. There seem to be plenty of odd discussions in here, lol. Ummm... Talk about new movies coming out, t.v. shows you enjoy, etc. If nothing else, spread apart the times you talk on the phone to find more conversation starters in your life. :) <3 Good luck!

Answer 9

you can't possibility have talked about everything, come on.he's in the navy he doesn't have anything interesting talk about and your only 17. don't you go out with your friends. maybe you think it's nothing to talk about, but i tell my boyfriend everything no matter how little it might seen or how stupid it might seen-but we always have something to say to each other.talk to him about this now how awkward you feel at times when there is silence between the two of you and work it out also limit your calls if this doesn't work.good luck young ones!

Answer 10

sadly, long-distance relationships are hard. its also tough to talk about things when they are not spur of the moment or u don't have common experiences to talk about. awkward silences r a sign that ur relationship might be dying. but if u still want to continue, try talking about... your ancestors, your future, funny experiences you've had, share thoughts on things going on in the world, ponder the meaning of life (i am serious), discuss your plans and how u fit into them, remember childhood stories, etc. whatever feels right. good luck!