I have a serious question to ask, I must admit I am a little embarrassed because I NEVER thought I would even consider this or think about it but....I'm just wondering how many women are contemplating or considering going bi or starting a relationship with another woman? BECAUSE they have been so unlucky in love with men or are still grieving over a lost relationship....they are fed up with trying to make things work with men, are sick of the games....etc. etc.... The problem is I am 36 yrs. old...have never been bi, I do think other women are beautiful, so I am attracted to the same sex..but I have a teenage son and under no circumstances do I want to set a bad example....I'm just looking for someone to love me and accept me for who I am....just wondering if there ARE other "scared" women out there...thinking of the same things?? I feel so alone in what I feel at times...I guess misery loves company! Thanks in advance for your answers! Have a Great Weekend all!
2006-08-04 08:31:02 · 23 answers · asked by Blue_Girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is such a great question.. My best friend Susan and I have been friends since 9th grade (13yrs) and if there was ever a woman I could be with, it would be her..She is so beautiful and stronger than she has ever realized. I love her.. I truly believe that she is my soul mate. She knows every single thing about me. She is the second most important person in my life (next to my daughter). We have been through everything together.. first dates, first times, broken hearts, having children, marriages, divorces, an abortion, rehab, AA, and at the end of the day I know that she may be my biggest critic but she is also my biggest fan. We have an unbreakable connection that we share with no other person. She is a part of me, she is my past. So, in answer to your question yes, I have considered a relationship with her, but I also think we already have something much stronger than what any relationship could bring.
**I LOVE U SUZY Q**
2006-08-04 09:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by dbrady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you know - I've never understood this "i'm gonna give women a try, because men do me wrong" reasoning.
I don't know that sexuality works that way. Either you've always been interested in being with women, and are just now coming into your own and accepting that, or you've got some self-love issues you need to resolve, before giving yourself to anyone else.
I'm not being judgemental - I just don't think it's fair to the women you intend to deal with to jsut be "standing in" for whatever it is you expect to get out of love.
Also - why would being with whomever it is that you love set a "bad example" for your son?
2006-08-04 08:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by China J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really ought to visit San Francisco. Get a nice room at a bed and breakfast and just hang out. You will find out how happy and peaceful people can be accepting gay feelings. I've never had them, but I live around and work with gay people all the time.
My experience is that most gay people are pretty cool - humble actually - since they've all encountered unpopular feelings and took action to deal with them. That gives people wisdom and self-reliance - two aspects of gay lifestyle I really respect.
Almost all of gay people have walked down the same thought pathways you are describing. That gives you a lot in common with everyone in a gay community, like the Castro in SF, which means you instantly have hundreds of friends who care for you because they share so much in common with you. You have some great experiences ahead of you.
2006-08-04 17:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by Andy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before answering, I read through some of the other peoples responses and I am just going to be honest. As a teen, I had those thoughts and even considered being what is called "bi-sexual", however humans are humans. Men and women are only seperated by their gential organs and their method of reproduction. Everyone cheats, everyone lies, everyone get's their feelings hurt. Going from one sex to another is dangerous. And you are right to be concerned out your teenager. It's true that your life is your personal business, however your children are apart of your personal life until they reach 18. Just think before you react. I'll keep you in my prayers. Good luck...
2006-08-04 08:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by devotee_lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have thought the same thing, i don't know if it's because of bad luck with men or if its because it's taboo, or something different. however i don't want my children to think that this is the norm so i've never reacted on it. I'm not sure how id approach a woman anyways. i'd hate to hit on someone who thought i was a nut. being married has been the other thing that stops me... how do i tell my husband that i think i like girls, or does he think he can give me time to figure that one out and then what!!! i'm attracted to other women i know that much. i also think that i'd be happier with a woman due to the fact that women know more of what women want the sexual barrier not being there
2006-08-04 08:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by summera76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have thought about it. But never had the nerve to try it. I do have a great BF now so it has not crossed my mind for some time. I think there are some beautiful women out there and have found myself attracted to them. If you could find the right women willing to experiment with I say try it. You will never know unless you do. Just remember your not alone!
2006-08-04 08:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bisexual or having bisexual feelings DOES NOT set a bad example for your son. If you are worried to try that kind of relationship because you think your son will end up gay, that's not your fault. If you are worried just because it's a new thing, thats fine...go out and find someone you might be comfortable with. It could take a while, but at least you will be able to explore your feelings and desires.
2006-08-04 08:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just want to tell you this. Women are no different then men. My cousin is gay and she is just as bad a some men I have dated. And there is a good man out there for you so don't give up on love. Just let it come to you. try going to chruch to get through the pain. But if you are not really gay then Don't switch. You know the saying the grass is always greener on the other side until you get there!
2006-08-04 08:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had similar thoughts, but rarely because of a bad relationship or having been hurt. Its usually because I really love my girlfriends and love being with them, and that gets my mind wandering along those lines.
Then I usually just have another beer and it goes away until the next time my mind wanders that way. I've even looked for someone to talk with about it and see if its what I really want, but I always chicken out.
2006-08-04 08:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There have been times when I've thought seriously about going from what I am now (bi) to full out lesbian. In fact with the way my bf has been acting lately I've been very tempted to do so as of late. But for now I'm going to give him a little more time to get his act together. If he doesn't, I don't know if I'll end up going full les or not, but regardless I want you to know, you are not alone in this.
2006-08-04 08:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋