Ok my family drives me nuts, i cant stand to be around them for more then 10 min. with out wanting to run away seriously. I truly cant even say i love them anymore and ive quite replying when they sayt i love you, ive tried to talk to them but they dont listen what can i do. i realy need help.
2006-08-04 08:26:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im under 18, my mom, dad, and brother, adn They wont give met he tome of day, they "use me", they dont no anything about em but when i try ton tell them they tell ME im wrong
2006-08-04 08:39:47 · update #1
it sounds like your going through your rebellious stage, it sounds like your parents love you and you do not care, show some respect to the people who have wiped your *** your whole life, when you get older you'll realize that you were the problem and all your parents were trying to do was protect and love you, realize that your parents pay the bills and run the house so until your ready to support your self get a grip and be thankful you actually have parents who actually care for you, oh yea SERIOUS issues are physical and mental abuse and growing up with alcoholic parents or no parents at all, grow up
2006-08-04 08:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by Raw Dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, couple of questions - 1 - WHY do they drive you nuts? Do they do something in particular (all of them?)? Is there something you can talk to them about?
2 - Define family. Is this your parents and siblings? Or is this your wife and kids? Where you are in life and what the relationship is really makes a huge difference to this issue. Also, how long you've felt this way makes a difference.
If you're younger and it's your parents and siblings, it PROBABLY is just a normal thing. That's rough b/c if they're just "annoying" or "smothering," it means there's no easy solution. If there is something particular they do, you can try talking to them about it nicely and maturely. Don't go in to the discussion as a fight, but just sit down with them and say - this thing really bothers me. And then, be fair in your discussion - be specific and talk about YOUR feelings not what THEY do - i.e., don't attack.
There are times where it's the little things that just drive you over the edge. For me, it was usually my parents complaints about my hair being messy. It's such a stupid little thing and I'd try to bite back my annoyance on this, but eventually I'd get really annoyed and explode and bring up all sorts of other things that weren't really fair or related to the discussion. So try to talk about it at a time when you're calm and try not to lose your cool, as that won't get you anywhere.
Please note - if someone in your family is doing something that is wrong or abusive, that's an entirely different story and you should talk to a teacher, social worker, etc. However, that doesn't sound like what you're talking about.
2006-08-04 08:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by cmc1217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing how old you are...or by "family" if you are referring to mother/father/sister/brother...or husband/children (and certainly makes a big difference as to how to answer)...I'm going to say:
If you are under 18 and still at home - know that someday you'll be out of there...rely on good friends and others to talk to until then if your own family won't listen.
If you are OVER 18 and still in your parents home...get a job (or two if need be)...and get out of there and into your own place. That's what I did..and at 17...and went to school too.
But if you are talking about your husband/children...then you have a much more serious problem here - and only counseling is going to help you (and them) connect and love again. If this is not affordable to you - there very often is free services in most areas that will give you just as good of counseling.
Good luck to you...we all not only have the need to be loved...but to love as well.
2006-08-04 08:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you totally, i have the exact same problems with my parents but i DID run away. It wasnt my best idea i must admit as all it did was cause them a lot of worry and in the long run a lot more hassle for me, but the thing with parents is they cant understand us. Times have changed since they were younger and some just dont think they have. But with my parents what i did was, i WANTED 2 change the situation so i got them in a position where they were both together and i spoke 2 them and told them how i felt. They felt bad bcause they hadnt been there for me when i needed them most and things have improved a lot since gd luk!!
2006-08-04 08:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lipzyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if your a preteen or a teen this sounds normal, your changing and change is difficult!! do you have your own room? having your own space would help alot, if not then find a place to go to have quite time even if its to the library or park. get them alone one at a time and try again, if this doesnt work go to your school counselor or pastor or some other adult you can trust to talk to and maybe they can help with them. dont give up!!! keep trying and dont runaway its a mean world out there!!! look in the phone book for youth clubs and join being with and talking with people your own age will help. keep reaching out you will find help. go to your local Department of Human Services,they should be able to help you. you ever tried talking to GOD and asking for HIS help? HE will help you!!! i know!!!
2006-08-04 08:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by kini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these days the word *family* can mean so many things... and not all of them good.... families go thru transition periods.... lost jobs, drugs, drink, etc.... of course these things have been around, but today it seems there is more of it and more preasure to go with it all...... we are not trained nor are we equiped emotionaly as humans for the ugly of this world..... we are an *do unto others, BEFORE they do unto us* world..... we have no patience for others little idios or problems... we tend to hang on the bad stuff and over look the good.... parents are torn between being kool and hip, tuff and stern, protective and leanient...... to much of the wrong sway and POOF you have a family that is torn in 2 and overlapping.... there has got to be good to see in your family..... or a way to stop what is going on..... sense you dont give much detail of the problems, it is hard for me to go into exact annswers for this...... there are things that can help...... why stop saying *I love you* ? those words could turn things around..... so dont give up so soon.... maybe it is your job to start the process of healing of what ever is going on....... God bless
2006-08-04 08:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 22:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with it, you have a dysfunctional family, I went through the exact same thing. It's hard, but just deal with it, and it will all blow over. and if it doesn't do what i did, write them a letter saying how you feel about all this, that should work.idk what else to tell you, just sit back and watch what happens
2006-08-04 08:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Black Horizon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough question to answer when we don't know how old you are and who all is in your family. The best advice for any situation like yours is to Be Polite. You aren't required to love anyone, but you are required to be polite. Good Luck
2006-08-04 08:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me your family is the best thing you've got now. and replying to an i love u makes a big difference no matter how much u say u hate the u know u love them
2006-08-11 18:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by murder-u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋