I am sure Dr. Phil has something to say about not spanking. Cause you could hurt the child. A simple "no no" will do. Bull Crap. That kid needs a spaking if he/she does something wrong. Not a simple "no no". What are your thought? and don't say your totally wrong and should be ashamed of yourself. Cause quite frankly I don't care what you say I want to hear what other people have to say.
2006-08-04 08:25:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I love this quote:
"If you don't discipline him, Society will"
Think about that and our prison population!
2006-08-04 08:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I for one do believe in spanking a child!! And I did say "spanking" a child,not beating a child. If they act up, then yes they get a swat on the "bottom". I do not believe in slapping in the face or hitting a child. Some times that "no-no" just don't work. But I would say that no more then 3-4 swats should be all that is needed. When they have a diaper on (rubber pants or the disposable type), when you pop that little bottom, it is the sound that scares them, so there for you pop there bottom. But if there is no plastic there then you have to swat a little harder.
So I can say that if I ever do see someone swat their child in public, I will give them a bravo or a way to go, but turn them in NO!! If I see someone "BEAT" their child, yes I will turn them in. And yes I do know the difference in swat and beat.
This is the reason why kids are the way they are today is cause parents do not make them mind at all. They don't believe in spanking their kids.Like the ones that run all over Wal-Mart playing with the toys. Or the ones that come to your house with their parents and try to destroy your house and their parents set there and laugh cause they think it is funny, while you are trying to stop that child.
2006-08-04 16:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I feel that if a spanking is warranted, by all means give the child one. Second, who cares what Dr. Phil says, is he around your child 24/7? No, I think not. Third, if you are a believer in the Bible there is a verse "spare the rod, spoil the child". I'm not saying the to beat the child, but a swat or two on the posterior is not going to kill the child. What you do with your child is your business. As my husband says: If your child screws up and ends up in front of a judge, he or she will basically tell you: "I'm doing your job"
Fourth: yes, I have spanked my daughters.
2006-08-04 15:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by richiegirl0204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to make your child fear you then go ahead and spank him. If I witness it and it is more than just a quick slap on the behind or hand, yes, I will report you.
Children need and want discipline but I strongly believe that spanking teaches a child that violence is the answer to getting your way - force always wins. It also teaches them to be sneaky and fearful. Instilling values and insisting on good behaviour is the answer, not ruling by force and fear.
If you want your child to respect you, teach them the consequences for bad behaviour and then follow through and be consistent. Taking away privileges or time outs work.
As for the people in jails, I would bet that most, if not all, came from homes where they were spanked if not more.
2006-08-04 15:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a spanking or swat on the bottom, but you MUST NOT take out your anger on the child. A swat on the bottom is a message that whatever they did will not be tolerated and you must explain that to them let them know exactly what they did wrong that warranted the swat. A punishment should be given take something away from them, etc.
Please though a swat is a swat but if you go too far beating about the head, body, shaking you ARE physically abusing your child. Don't cross the line children are only doing what they see and learn at home and at school.
2006-08-04 15:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by ead824 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every child is different, spanking never worked with me i would just get mad and do worst it made my dad frustrated that he would get worse too, he threw me down the stairs once and put his hands to my neck another time, it only stopped after the cops came, i find the best way is to keep the lines of communication open, this is how it is with me and my mom, we talk like were best friends and not like parent/daughter, she respects my decisions and can be more helpful when i go through yet another stage in my ever changing life, the relationship between me and my dad is shot, i dont talk to him and i would even go as far as saying i hate him..
for younger less understanding kids a no no wont do, i know that but thats why you give them the better option, teach them how to use things so they dont break things, show them that playing with tonka toys are more fun than flooding your bathroom LOL (personal experience) anyway the list goes on, it all depends on how your child reacts, im not against spanking for some kids its called a healthy fear, so your the parent you do what you know is best for your child, but do think long term, when the spanking has to stop and communication must begin, it would seem akward to talk about sex with your kid if you never really had a heart to heart conversation with your child about other not so comfortable things anyway take care!
2006-08-04 15:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if a toddler is running toward the street and then only a pat on a diaper. Other then that there are very very few reasons to ever spank. You notice I did not say there are NEVER reasons, but that should not be the FIRST choice. You are, or seem to be, a very angry person. So for you - you should NEVER spank because obviously you have NO self-control whatsoever.
2006-08-04 15:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Are you aware that Dr Benjamin Spock (no, not Mr Spock from Star Trek) first created this whole "no spanking or smacking of little hand" culture? Dr Spock, on his death bed, actually said "How could I have been so wrong?" You can't reason with a two year old, so in order to teach them, you smack their hand, or you swat their bottom. No, you don't beat them, but you do smack them. Of course, liberals will never agree, and that is why we have so many problems with children and young adults today. They are told "no", but nothing else ever happens to them. Heck, I wouldn't pay taxes or follow rules and laws at all if all the courts would do to me was say "stop that" and nothing else.
2006-08-04 15:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were all spanked as children..I see nothing wrong with a spanking..but flat out beating and slapping I have a problem with..I got a spanking with a wooden spoon, belt, switch from a tree...many times as kid...and really a simple no no doesn't cut it. It doesn't show consequences to actions...Im with you. Dr. Phil is a moron...that is all there is to it....
2006-08-04 15:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by Bevin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya spanking is okay to a certain extent. A mild slap or push to get the kid to understand what he's doing is unacceptable should be good enough, but not so hard as to physically harm the child. You dont want it to turn into a boxing match.
2006-08-04 15:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by shoaibsi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no, I think spanking is fine! I will not turn in someone for that! But if I think its excessive, then maybe.. But only spank when the kid needs it.. Other than that time out, or no no, or just a look sometimes works too...
2006-08-04 15:32:14 · answer #11 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋