I see this come up a lot (no pun intended). "should I seduce him?" "what can I do to get him to like me?" "how soon should we have sex?" etc. And why do people think they can "make" someone have feelings for them? Why would they want to? I have my own theories, but I want to see what other people think...
2006-08-04 08:24:05 · 36 answers · asked by pandora the cat 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a guy I can say from experience that the WORST thing to do is use sex to try and get him interested in you. He will only look at you as a sex object. I've been there. Make him hold out and learn about you as a person, then if he seems to be into you, you can make the decision about sex.
2006-08-04 08:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by hfacto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone else love you, particularly by using sex. However, lots of folks are immature and think there is some magic involved in getting "into a relationship." ( I HATE that term) Sex is as easy as falling off a log, and as natural as gravity, but even close platonic friendships take a lot of time and work. I think that too many women read the trashy women's magazines about how to make yourself attractive and please a male, so they get the idea that this is all it takes to guarantee a lasting relationship. Wrong! The only "trick" involved in creating an honest lasting relationship with another is to be yourself, whoever you really are, and to not count on any one thing to make it work. Of course if you don't really love yourself, don't think that getting someone else to love you will fix your life, because it won't. Its an inside job.
2006-08-04 08:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth? If a girl/woman really likes a guy then she is looking for a way to be closer to him, that if she likes him and wants to be with him the way she does and feels, then he has to feel the same way!! Women don't like to think that things are one sided.... period, and No the girl/woman doesn't always get what she wants, but the challenge is always fun, and if he does feel the same way.... thats even better!! As far as 'how soon should we have sex?' In my all my experiences, I never wondered that question, because it usually happens when we are both 'into' it. And if a girl thinks she has to sleep with a guy to get him to want her and be with her in a relationship and the guy goes for it knowing that he is not into anything more then a lay....... then I feel really sorry for him and the way he precieves himself....... obviously 'pretty low'. I hope this has answered your question to your liking........ its the best I could think of as a woman myself!! :)
2006-08-04 08:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe its a bit of a self esteem issue. They want to feel beautiful or wanted and some guys would make you feel that way only when thy get what they want (sex). Its sad but, there are also girls who think giving guys what they want all the time will keep them. Most girls don't realize that their body is more precious than they think.
2006-08-04 08:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by Binky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my younger years. I saw sex as a way of the boy/man expressing love. And visa -versa. I later realized that I did this because I had been sexually abused by my biological father. Pretty messed up huh.
I realized early on so I was able to change this behavior. Peer pressure is a great one too. Boys/men act like they won't like you unless you do it. I learned they'll wait if they really want you.
2006-08-04 08:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't understand that by just having sex with the guy... a relationship isn't based upon just sex. It's important but it isn't the foundation to be founded on. Many girls think since guys are usually think about sex, that doing it will forge a meaningful relationship.
2006-08-04 08:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know cuz i don't think that way. don't assume that all grils/women are like this. we're not all that shallow. there are still normal ppl out there that think that sex follows love and not vice versa. u r right. u can't make anyone have feelings for u and it is ridiculous for other ppl to try. but some ppl r so blind by their one-sided love/infatuation, they don't want to see the truth. some girls/women would prefer to be used for sex than admit to themselves that the boy/man isn't interested. that's life. sometimes, it just doesn't make sense.
2006-08-04 08:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by psgr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women /girls tend to think that sex is the only thing on a mans mind. back in the early days is when it was believed the old saying that women were to be barefoot and pregnant this is where this comes from. all of this is based on your self image and your own thoughts of your self
2006-08-04 08:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by cb.rebel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2nd date for sex or you probably wont see him again, seducing is more fun for the guy its a game you are both interested in playing, and the results are what you both want. The idea is to enjoy yourself.
2006-08-04 08:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Ask the Chef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be one of those girls that did anything to please a guy. Until it left me heart broken and alone, with my ex saying the only thing in our relationship that was good was the sex. I then realized that he didn't stay with me even though the sex was good. When I just started to be myself and not care what people think, I had tons of guys after me. Now instead of trying to conform to what guys want, guys are chasing me and trying to be what I want.
2006-08-04 08:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋