Spanking or timeouts?

Question

I am for spanking....so long as it is discplinary..not abusive. If you are ok with spanking...I guess the next question is...who can do it? I am a firm believer of parents only..

Answer 1

I was spanked as a child. ANd guess what?? I didn't grow up abusive, hateful, mean or feeling neglected. This is a touchy subject. People are gonna talk feelings and mushiness and a crapload of timeouts is the way to go. In the end, do what you will. My parents spanked me and I think that it was okay. They didn;t abuse me.

AND IF YOU are abusive and beat your kids, shame on you.

Answer 2

I am really not in favour of spanking. I had 2 children with a 10 year gap between them. The first child I did smack, probably because I was brought up like that! The second child I never smacked but disciplined by timeouts, voice ie meaning what i said etc. Have rules, set boundaries..the kids know where to draw the line.
Put it this way, if you were at work and you made a mistake how would you feel if your boss smacked you! Whether your a child or an adult there are rules everywhere..why should a 'person' be smacked!
It was my father that handed out the discipline and you end up thinking 'did he really love me'

Seriously just think on!

Answer 3

I spank my kids. I am NEVER angry when doing so. It is simply a punishment. Oh and an avoidable one at that. My kids are already aware of what they will be spanked for. So, if they violate it, it is like asking for a spanking. For the most part, I haven't had to spank in months and I have an 8 year old and a 6 year old. They are very well behaved. I also incorporate time-outs, taking away of privileges and other fun ways of out thinking them. My kids are loved and they know it. I would rather spank any day than scream at them. (not saying that those who don't spank scream at their kids. I am merely saying that screaming is more harmful in my opinion.) I also think as a parent I have the right to spank. Not the right to abuse the child. My children never have marks or bruises. My husband and I are firm parents but very loving. My kids are already aware of all the rules and the punishment for breaking the rules. They are never spanked without being properly warned. So, in my house we try to make the punishment fit the crime. Crimes and punishments are known to all. So, in my house if you get spanked, you aren't surprised. And my kids are not violent toward each other or anyone else. They are not perfect but they are wonderful and obedient.

Answer 4

OK. I truly honestly believe in the following: I believe in time out for like 85% of the s*hit my daughter does. It works for her. They get so upset that they have to just sit there that they really reconsider doing the bad things they do. I feel like the worst the thing the longer the timeout. The longest my daughter had was 15 minutes and that was a killer. Now don't get me wrong 15% of the time she gets a good spanking but that's when she does something really bad. I think the more you spank them they get immune to that. My sister was one of those kids that use to just brush off her beatings. It didn't mean anything. Now you take away things they want then that's when they really get the point. The less you spank them the better because when you finally do spank them they KNOW they did something wrong.

Answer 5

Parents only, if not maybe a grandparent or aunt or uncle, only with permission from a parent, say if they child is in their care for longer than 24 hours.
Spanks should be done for discipline and never done if the spanker is angry at the time. Also I believe children should not be spanked in their room, as their room should always feel like a safe and good place to be in. The child should be spoken to before and after the spanking, before explaining why the spanking is happening, and after reassuring love for the child and that they are good, but their action was wrong.

Answer 6

Parents are in the right position to spank their own children, and no one else. The effort to discipline is a parent's main duty although teachers and other mentors of our kids can discipline them, but not spanking.

Honestly, to resort to spanking or just merely time-outs, is very debatable. There are many who would suggest that time-outs alone would help discipline a child. Well, I do not counter this and it may be true and just so, helpful for some kids. But there are also instances when spanking is really necessary.

I came from a culture that spanking is employed to discipline kids. But of course, as time passes by, the more parents are educated and informed about the disadvantages of spanking.

I am a mother of 2 kids and as much as possible, I only use time-outs for both of them. But there are instances wherein spanking is the only measure to discipline them, so as to catch the kids' attention and emphasize to them what I've been telling them.

It's true- so long as spanking is not abusive and that it's really the 'last resort' form of discipline, then so be it. I truly believe that when we discipline our own kids, it's very important that we tell them exactly 'why' we are disciplining them and what wrong they have done or what is expected of them to do. Yes, kids do make mistakes and it's very important that we are to let them know that the reason why we are spanking or giving them a time-out is because of their wrongful behaviour and not becasue we are angry at them as a person. There is a difference here, and we should know where to draw the line. We are upset or angry at the action, not at the person. Also, after giving them the disciplinary measure, it's vital that we are to sit down with them and calmly explain what had happened and we should also express to them, how much we truly love them. The reason why we are discipling them is because we love them and we would want them to grow up as mature and responsible individuals. We are also there to correct any misbehaviours and help build their character up.

Answer 7

I agree that parents are the only ones with the rights to spank their own child. I also agree that it should never get to the point of being abusive. But in saying that there are certain times when a time out works as good as a spanking. I would use a moderation of both.

Answer 8

I think spanking only teaches the child that hitting is o.k. I have a little monster child and I spank her, but I still think it's wrong. I just don't take the time to discipline her properly. I think the Supernanny is a perfect model of how to discipline, but it takes a lot of :) discipline and time. I have a hard time because I'm a single mother of 3, so I tend to take the easy way out, but I believe we should make the investment of time in our children. I guess I'm a hypocrite. If you do allow spanking, I would say only by the parent, 'cause can you imagine the emotional trauma caused by someone else hitting you?

Answer 9

I am not a believer in spanking a child unless its for a very very good reason. I spanked my son a few times when he was little. timeouts never worked for him. but my daughter who is 11 now has never gotten spanked and they are both good kids. The parents are the only ones that should spank a child. It is not anyone elses right to spank some one elses child.

Answer 10

I believe that if the parents spank their kids when they needed spanking then no one else should do it. however I was spanked when I was in Jr. High by the principle and I really learned from that. I don't think timeouts really work. Plus the spanking will allow the kid to but pain with wrong. TJ you must not have kids. and anyone with the timeout issue and are totally against spanking well lets see your kids out in public and see how many of those kids turn out "well"

Answer 11

Time out does not work. I am in a situation where CPS has removed my granddaughter and placed her with me.
My form of discipline for my kids when they were growing up was spanking when they were young.
I believe that spanking a child is okay but it should never be done in anger. I did spank my children in love this way when they were younger and they did were well behaved. Unfortunately, as adults some of them have made wrong choices and as adults they are responsible for their actions now.
I am having to use timeout and loss of priveledges with my granddaughter because CPS has dictated that I can't pop her hand, spank or wash her mouth out with soap when she says bad things. And I can tell you time out is not working.