What to do if you suspect your significant other is lying about their past?

Question

What to do if you suspect your significant other is lying about their past?
The past is the past. I know that, we all do. But at what point do we draw a line if we suspect we may have REALLY been lied to? So that brings me to my dilemma: I met "Greg" two years ago. He is young (25, I am 24), quiet and insecure..but sweet. His family was quite rough at one time (drugs) but he claimed to have never shared in their hiatus. However, he displays the after effects of Meth use (uncharacteristic tooth decay (aka "meth mouth") tremors, etc.) Obviously, it looks like he was a strong meth user at one time, but if someone tells you they 'never did that stuff', you want to believe them. So what gives? I can forgive past mistakes; I just hate being lied to like that.
What do you think? Is the evidence there? Should I come right out and ask - even though he may not tell me truth?

Answer 1

maybe he's ashamed if he had done that, the real concern you should have is if he is doing it now. some of us made mistakes we would rather leave in the past.

Answer 2

You should come right out and ask him because even though the past is the past, it's the past that's effecting him in the NOW and becoming a bothersome in YOUR current relationship. I understand that some things should remain personal like their past relationships but he should let you in on his health so that way you can also help and care for him. Tell him you want the truth. Lies is not a good foundation to build a relationship on. Good Luck!!