he really can't support me . He has no job, no money or anything he is kinda goin through a hard time right now, but I love him. Will it be bad if I was to get a man to do all the things he can't do, (support me financially). It's not really cheating if I don't have sex with him is it?
2006-08-04 07:38:07 · 22 answers · asked by Sherrod's future wifee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a job and support myself it's just that I want a man to get me some of the finer things in life.
2006-08-04 07:43:56 · update #1
If you have a job and you can support yourself that is wonderful that you an independent women who does not need to look to a man for financial support. However a man should be able to do things for you but you said that the man you are with right now is going threw some hard times well everyone goes threw hard times so if he someone that you love and really want to be with then I think you should ride the hard times out with him, if you feel he is worthy of it and No you should not get another man and you shouldn't have to, just support yourself as you been doing. When your man he gets on his feet I am sure he will remember this and be happy to give you some of the finer things in life as you put it, and at this point you will be really deserving of that because you stuck by him.
2006-08-04 09:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Thandie 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
money isn't everything when it comes to relationship. when you love a person you don't ask for material things but rather you are the one who tries to give everything to the person that you love,right? work independently and tell him to find a job that will secure his future or your future together. advice when you got married someday:try to have a separate bank account that he doesn't know of so that when something went wrong you won't be left broke.
moreover, don't ever try to get a man to do all the things he can't coz once he find that out you'll be in big trouble and of course he'll think that he's not enough for you,that he can't make you happy or he can't live up to your expectations,that would hurt him and boys don't want to be undervalued.if he does that to you how would you feel?isn't love enough to make you both go through the hardships?
As for the 3rd person involved,don't you think it's unfair for him coz you are using him and it's consider cheating even if you don't have sex w/ him. think of the persons that might be hurt.
hope you'll resolve you problem.just support him and love him and god bless to both of you.
2006-08-04 15:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by bleachedstreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if you love this man and he has potential, give him time to do what he needs to do. "Money cant buy love" remember that, this is a test of your relationship, if you can stick together through the thick and the thin then it shouldnt matter if he can support you or not as long as you guys are getting by. You said yourself he's going through alot, that wouldnt be fair if you furthur stripped him of his manhood by going out and finding someone whose money makes you happy. Hw would you feel if the shoe was on the othr foot. Somthing you knew you couldnt do for him that some other girl could...you wouldnt appreciate it at all right?
2006-08-04 14:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by shawny2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"but I love him" is the female way of saying "facts don't matter." Men are responsible to provide for a family. If he isn't able to do so you shouldn't waste your time dating him. what happens once you become physically and more emotionally involved? It becomes harder to do the right thing.
Women need to insist that men are responsible first then become their girlfriends second. If not they waste a lot of time and their youth with the wrong guys and risk making children outside of a family and having that man in their live forever or haviing children that don't have a dad.
Pick the right guy. People are what they do. If they are doing irresponsible or immature things then they are irresponsible or immature.
Harsh but true. Living a fantasy does no one ny good.
2006-08-04 14:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your pimp daddy aint no sugar daddy so when you get that sweet tooth you gotta pump the sugar! In other words, you are going to have two boyfriends and only have sex with one and use the other for money. Ok, lets assume that this guy gives you money and you dont have sex with him, or go down on him, or anything like that, do you think that you real boyfriend will be ok with that? If he doesnt know he will. Once you smell a rat, you go looking for it, and when he finds out, you will lose both. Ok, the one not getting sex from you will get his a.s.s. whooped by the one who is and or vice versa. If my girl wants more money or something because I am not rich but I keep her happy, she knows she can get a job. If thats not an option for you then you need to upgrade. Its a harsh truth but you need to keep yourself secure. Hope this helps
2006-08-04 14:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by alienorgy69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need a man to support you? It's very dangerous for a woman to depend upon a man for support. You should try working and living independently.
2006-08-04 14:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jessie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just wrong! If you love him help (encourage him) through this "hard time" you talk about. If you truely love him, then love him for himnot for money or status, and why do you need a man to support you? Get a job and suport yourself!
2006-08-04 14:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you should be asking is: Why do I want a man who can support me? Why shouldn't I be financially independent and take care of myself?
2006-08-04 14:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by mayyouponderthis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me a little wierd, but if you really need someone to support you I guess you could do this. Or, maybe get a decent job and support yourself and not depend on anyone else to do it. This way you are not obligated to anyone either. Your boyfriend probably won'r like your idea though. Good luck
2006-08-04 14:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I challenge you to find a guy who will support you financially, if you are not having sex with him... You are living in a dream world girl. You need to wake up! Choose one.
2006-08-04 14:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by JCW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋