How do I deal wth this breakup!?

Question

Ok, me and my man broke up..THIS MORNING!!! Because I find out he's been cheating and lying. He told everyone, me and his mom and my mom included, that he was gonna marry me and we would have a great life together. We are both old enough to be taking marriage seriously but not anymore, meaning I am not a little girl ya'll I am old(I hate saying that) Well I know now that he obviously never meant it when he said "I love you". I don't know how to deal with this, I love him with all my heart and I've done everything to make him happy. How do I deal with this?

Answer 1

Well, you just have to know that it was his loss. It's going to hurt for a while, but eventually you will get over him. Whatever you do, don't think it was your fault. Because it wasn't. Obviously he wasn't willing to settle down. Just try and do something to get your mind off of him for a while. Hope you feel better soon!

Answer 2

I HAVE BEEN THE 1 DAT CHEATED ,AND I DID LOVE MY HUBBIE WHEN I WAS CHEATIN. SO U CANT SAY HE DID NOT MEAN IT WHEN HE SAID HE LOVED U. I WAS MARRIED FOR 8 YEARS AT THE TIME I CHEATED. I LEFT AND MY HUBBIE NEVER BUGED ME ABOUT COMEIN HOME BUT HE DID LET ME KNOW HE STILL LOVED ME . HE DID NOT STAY AT HOME AND CRY THEY WHOLE TIME I WAS GONE,HE MOVE ON R MADE ME THINK HE WAS MOVING ON BY DATEIN OTHER GIRLS. WHEN I SEEN HE WAS NOT WAITIN ON ME BUT I KNEW HE STILL LOVED ME AND I HIM ,I MADE UP MY MIND DAT HE WAS THE 1 DAT WOULD ALL WAYS BE THERE FOR ME NO MATTER WOT. AND I WENT BACK HOME. I CHEATED CAUSE I WAS TIRED OF NOT HAVEING A LIFE (I THOUGHT). HE WAS A STY AT HOME PERSON AND I WAS NOT. BUT HE WORKED 5 DAYS A WEEK AND I STAYED HOME, SO I WAS ALL WAYS READY TO GO OUT ON FRIDAYS NITES R SAT.NITES AND HE WAS JUS READY TO RELAX AND STAY HOME. WELL WOT IM TRYING TO SAY IS I HAD NO REASON TO CHEAT BUT ME CHEATIN HAD NUTTIN TO DO WITH ME NOT LOVING MY HUBBIE. HE LOVED ME ENOUGH TO FOR GIVE ME AND LOVE LIKE HE ALL WAYS HAS. NOW WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 18 YEARS NOW AND R CLOSER THEN EVER BEFORE. SO IF U LOVE HIM AND WANT TO BE WITH HIM THEN U HAVE TO FOR GIVE HIM. NOT JUS SAY U DO AND THROW IT UP AT HIM WHEN U GET IN TO A LIL FIGHT BUT REALLY FOR GIVE AND TALK ABOUT WOT HAPPEN AND ALL WAYS TALK EVERYTHING OUT. IT HELPED US TO GET OVER OURS BY TALKING IT OUT AND ALL WAYS TALK ABOUT THINGS AS IT HAPPENS. NEVER LET IT BIULD UP . GET IT OUT WHEN IT HAPPENS SO U CAN TALK WITH OUT SAYING THINGS HURTFUL THINGS TO EACHOTHER. I HOPE IT WORKS FOR U 2 AND U CAN GET MARRIED AND BE VERY HAPPY. BEST WISHES TO U BOTH.