parents do you ever show partiality or favoritism to your kids?

Question

for those who have more than one....i have 3

Answer 1

I don't have kids quite yet. But my sister has 4 girls and she shows her favoritism to certain ones. Her second to last daughter is the one she treats the worst. All the girls are from different fathers and Sadie's dad my sister hates with all that she is. My sister got pregnant with Sadie when she was still married and it broke her marriage up because she got pregnant. So I think that she takes it out on Sadie. She treats her different from the others, there are times when I see and Sadie who is six knows that her mom treats her different from her older sisters and her younger sister. It breaks my heart, and I hate my sister for it. I try to get my sister to let me have Sadie, I get to have her most the summer, but my sister being the B*I*H she is she uses her as leverage against me. If I don't do what she wants when she wants she doesn't let me have her and that breaks my heart. I sometimes wonder if I should get social services involved. She doesn’t beat Sadie, but it is still child abuse because its mental and emotional abuse. Some of the petty things she does; is going shopping and by stuff for all the girls except Sadie. When it comes to buying school cloths for her I do all that, because left up to my sister she wouldn’t buy her any. And the father you might ask well we don’t know about him because my sister can’t find him.

Sadie tells me all the time (and remember she is 6) that she wishes I was her mom, so I can love her all the time. This breaks me. I reassure her that I love her all the time, but its so sad when I take her back or her mom comes and picks her up, I can tell that she hates it. She knows that her mom resents her, but she doesn't know why. She is such a good girl and she is always the one who volunteers to help out. But my sister doesn't see it; she always complains that she is the bad one that she is always acting out. But that’s not true, if she is acting out it’s because she wants attention like the other girls get.
I love her so much; I too wish she was mine. I would give my sister what ever she wanted if she would just sign her over to me. But she knows that and that’s why she does what she does to me.

The only thing that I pray is that Sadie knows that I love her with all my heart.
Please don't show to much favoritism to your kids even the ones that are sometimes bad, they know it. They can see how the other ones get treated vs. themselves. At a young age to, Sadie knew she was getting treated different when she was 4. So please be careful with how you treat your children. And I know that my thing is an extreme case, but there are so many kids that experience this everyday.

And the thought of another kid feeling like Sadie does breaks my heart.

Answer 2

Each kid is different just like any other person in the world. It is possible that you feel more in common with one child than the others. One child may test his/her limits more and seem like more of a behavior problem that is difficult to deal with BUT you love your kids exactly the same. So it seems likely that you seem to show partiality toward one child or another depending on their personality or the situation even if you aren't trying.

But it's something to try and keep in balance. Don't overcompensate but pay attention to how you handle the kids. They don't understand, but you do, that you love each of them with all of your heart so SAY IT all of the time--when they are being good and when they aren't.

It's ok to admit that you don't understand why one kid is so absorbed by his hobby of collecting rocks or his constant clowing around if that's a trait that you don't share (or maybe enjoy very much). They can take it. But they need to know that you care and that you do your best to be fair at all costs.

Answer 3

even as i changed into youthful, my grandparents favourited my brother. i could style of jealous, despite the indisputable fact that it changed into in no way a large situation, so I were given over it. they many times does no longer pay interest to what i changed into talking about, that that they had only ask about my brother. Then i began getting undesirable well being issues, and only about died. After that, they shifted to me, all started continuously asking about me, getting me little issues, desirous to seek suggestion from me even as they talked about as. I felt undesirable! My brother and a pair of cousins were now a lot less favourited over me. at present, they instructed me that they were pondering getting rid of their vehicle (a 2006 Monte Carlo) and that i could have it to replace my 1990 Mercury Topaz. i presumed that changed into so unfair, my brother has a vehicle that has 100000kms better on it than mine! i changed into waiting to get a sparkling vehicle besides, so i finished up finding out to purchase a genuine looking vehicle. I gave my brother my Topaz, yet I made certain to placed a reliable be conscious in for him with my grandparents because he benefits it. on account that then they have began to favour me a lot less, so my brother, truly one of my cousin's and that i are all on the same aspect. i imagine they realized what they were doing. My aspect is, i imagine the in easy words way for them to comprehend they are doing something incorrect is for the guy they are favouring to say something. regrettably, it appears like your brother-in-regulation is taking complete benefit of it, so as that probably gained't take position. i wager the in easy words difficulty you may do is have your husband and your self settle for that they are going to in no way take care of you particularly besides, and provides you it up for a misplaced reason. i comprehend it really is perplexing, despite the indisputable fact that it really is likely to take position no count number what. Sorry!

Answer 4

No, but they swear you do, I hear my kids joking with each other. They'll say I'm the good child this month.

Answer 5

yes i do. One day one will be whiny and on my nerves. and I will tend to show favoritism to the good one. The next day it may change.