Some say that it is possible to be too comfortable in a relationship. How can I keep from getting to comfortable? I'm comfortable with my boyfriend and I don't want to be too comfortable. I want to keep things fresh and fun so I don't get bored.
2006-08-04 07:23:34 · 7 answers · asked by Megan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's definitely possible to get too comfortable -- then you get bored, and soon you start looking elsewhere. A good way to counter this is to have your own life. No matter how long you're with someone, maintain your own friends, interest, space, and time. (Absence makes the heart grow fonder!) Don't give up the friends, interests, etc. that you had before you started dating -- after all, that's what made you interesting in the first place!
When you're together, don't get into a routine. Maybe you go on a date every Saturday, but don't always do dinner and a movie. Plan a suprise but don't tell him. Encourage him to do the same. Every so often, do something you've never done: kayaking, or taking a pottery class, or whatever. Maybe you'll hate it, but it will never get routine. Come up with new things to do that are romantic, but also other things that are not just about dates and sex -- you don't want to be bored all the time but have fun for 3 hours a week when you're on your date!
In short, you have to make a conscious effort to keep things new, all while maintaining a life of your own.
2006-08-04 07:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by rd211 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both comfortable in the relationship, why should you change anything? I don't know that it is entirely possible to be too comfortable because you can never know absolutely everything about a person, and vice versa. If you are really concerned about keeping things fresh and fun, make sure that you two don't do the same things often so that you don't get into a rut. Keep on trying out new things together. This should keep your sense of adventure alive, as well as your relationship!
2006-08-04 07:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Yzma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping things "fresh and fun" equates to being comfortable. If you don't want a fun relationship then create some havoc. You won't get comfortable and the relationship will die. Relationships need to grow to the point of being comfortable. If someone wants to keep it from being comfortable, then that person will have their wish and it won't get comfortable. Who wants to have a relationship that is doomed? As for people saying that you can get too comfortable, they are referring to people that begin to move onto that next stage of trust, marriage, etc.. When someone says it's too comfortable, then someone in the relationship is taking advantage of the other person. Don't let that happen. Good Luck
2006-08-04 07:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to experience new things with him. try doing something new with him. you never know go out more find different things to do with each other and just keep it on a upbeat
2006-08-04 07:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by annie_1_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suprise him... do things to get his attention sexually... be spontaneous... there is nothing worse than having a dull sex life... completely kills the relationship...
2006-08-04 07:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Adam M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change what you do together. go out and find some new hobby or something like that
2006-08-04 07:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by shiara_blade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spice it up....add variety....do something different...be spontaneous
2006-08-04 07:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋