My wife is blaming me of the health of our son of 1year7months who is unable to stand up.The child is only sitting and scramling. I have received so many insults from my wife and I think the only solution is for her to go her way and I go mine.
2006-08-04 07:18:01 · 37 answers · asked by patrick w 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
consider that your child may have a developmentl issue (meaning that his brain hasn't developed as quickly as normal) he may ahve a muscular disorder... there are a lot of reasons, all medical reasons, why your child does not stand up. seek a Pediatrician's advice and tell your wife that nothing you have done has caused your child to not stand up. good luck, and i hope you child is okay :)
2006-08-04 07:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your childs physician before anyone points the finger and starts blaming. I know that most children that age are already walking, but each child develops differently, there may be something holding the child back. but I don't see why your wife would blame you for this. Consult the doctor together with the child to see if this is normal (considering any illness that your child may have?) and then I would talk to a counselor. If this is the only thing you and your wife are arguing about, you should be thankful....i know it puts a strain on the relationship and marriage, but just cause times are rough doesn't mean you call it quits. Good luck =o)
2006-08-04 07:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you did something to the kid, I think you probably need to get a lawyer and try to get custody. She doesn't sound stable and if she was really worried about your son then she would take him to the doctor, BTW why haven't you taken him to the doctor? If your kid is not walking yet and he should be you need to make sure that everything is ok with him and if it isn't then you need to find out what you can do to help. It is likely that you and/or your wife are working and it can be hard to take care of a special needs child and work but people do it all the time, there are support groups and even laws that protect you from being fired. Whatever you do don't leave the child, that won't help anyone.
2006-08-04 07:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All kids develop at their own rate. If you are concerned, you should take him to a doctor to make certain that their is nothing wrong.
Why is your wife so determined to blame you for the slightly later development of your son? How can she hold you responsible instead of dealing with this problem together? One thing is for sure, insults & fighting in the family will not help hasten your son's development. But before you break up the family, I think that a reality check is in order for your wife and some counselling. Good luck to you both and your (I'm sure) adorable son.
2006-08-04 07:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by savagescorpio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is frustrated and scared that something is terribly wrong with the child. In what way(s) is she accrediting this to you? You need to get the help of professionals to see what is wrong with the child. Then based on the outcome both of you need to get counselling as to how best to handle the stress and frustation of dealing with the situation. Walking away will only leave more pressure on one individual and then life will be more miserable. SYou need to go see a marriage consellor to help resolve your differences. I know it is hard and frustrating but try to be supportive as best as possible. try to seee if both of you can sit and have a civil conversation. I am sorry about your plight. I will pray for you and your family. May God be gracious to you all. You and your wife also need to be more prayerful.
2006-08-04 07:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by joebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: Have you spoken to any reputable doctors about these problems, that sounds like your son isn't reaching his developmental milestones, it could be a medical problem.
Second:If the is an underlying medical issue you should be looking into support groups
Third: If you're really asking this question seek some therapy, either by yourself or with your wife if shes willing. You've got some issues
2006-08-04 07:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for your kid...if hes having this much trouble now....imagine what trouble he'll have if his dad is gone and is mom is pissed and upset all the time. Try to work things out w/ your wife tho. Sit her down or take her to dinner or somthing. Show her that your still in love with her and you know its been tought but you need to stay together and stop playing the blame game.
2006-08-04 07:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok 1 its not your fault and you should know and you need to make her believe it....maybe shes just scraed and has to take it out on someone who evers closest to her or whoever spends time with the child,I'm guessing she scared for your child and doesn't want anything bad to happen to it...I suggest a therapist,,and get the child seen by a doctor,then try to calm your wife down..whatever you do don't yell back and blame it on her,you don't want to make her anymore insecure than she already is.
2006-08-04 07:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by Rosy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to edit your question and tell us why she is blaming you. Did you do something to the child? Does she think that there is some genetic reason from your side of the family that he is not standing yet? What are the doctors saying?
2006-08-04 07:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by New York Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child could have a developmental delay, which would not be anyone's fault. What have physicians said about your son's condition? If she is still blaming you, I would suggest trying counselling and exhausting all other options before leaving the marriage.
2006-08-04 07:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋