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My Husband has such a short fuse with our 2yr old, how can I help him?

2006-08-04 07:17:44 · 18 answers · asked by lvn_sjb06 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

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Men are not blessed with patience and the ability to tune out children. Sometimes it is harder for men to deal with screaming... they just want the child to STOP. Every once in a while my husband looses it when the kids are yelling. For some reason, only women were given the gift to be able to stand children's temper tantrums and other screaming... guess it is to ensure the survival of our species! Try having you husband take some classes on child development with you... I have found that when parents learn more about a child's developmental stages that they are more likely to be more understanding of behaviors.

2006-08-04 12:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 4 0

My opinion is that men don't have as much patience as a woman and so they don't take time to really think about the situation before acting out. Children are very active and can be quite a handful and a person with no patience can not handle that. Even in this case, they fail to realize what the female is dealing with.

2006-08-04 07:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0 0

My husband works out of town all week at a prison, and he is never home only on the weekends and I have 3 little boys and 1 little girl on the way, and I know what my kids what when they cry or are grouchy and he doesnt, he isnt around them any exept on the weekends and he is not used to taking care of kids and so therefore he may snap easier than we do, just explain to him that if he would listen to them, or make your 2yr old show him what he wants, it would make it easier on all of you. I hope this helps.

2006-08-04 08:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by maryanntiller 2 · 0 0

I am in the exact same situation, I have reinforced rules such as walk away, count to 10, scream into a pillow, it has worked wonders

2006-08-04 07:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Men don't seem to have the same patience level as woman. Those of us that are moms even have more of a patience level than woman who don't. I have the same thoughts of my husband at times and try to talk to him about it. I think that some dads feel that their 2 yr old understands and knows everything.

I completely understand what you are going through and hope you, I, and all other mothers experiencing this can get through it (or get through to our husbands).

2006-08-04 09:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by teacher&mom 2 · 0 0

You are surely not alone in this situation. While they love their children as much as we do, men don't have that "motherly instinct" that we do. I've stepped in a few times myself when my husband was yelling at the kids, but then I felt bad, because they see the diversion between the two of us. I don't want them to play mommy against daddy, so lately, I've been trying to just step back, and if they come tell me how Daddy was to them for some reason, I just say- oh, what were you doing to make daddy so mad? I try to back him up as much as I can, but later, when the kids are in bed, I will voice my opinion to him on how they were just being kids in this particular situation, or you should't have been so hard on them because........ Just try and let your kids know both of you are on the same page. That is how you can help your husband- it's a gift. A gift to the children that mommy supports daddy, and a gift to your hubby that the children will not question his authority with mommy in the room. Fight the urge to step in is my advice.

2006-08-04 09:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by Miss America 4 · 0 1

Why do some women beat their children? Why do some women kill their children? Why do some women pour boiling water on their children and burn them with cigarettes? Stick with the facts you know- your husband has a short temper-don't stereotype men- the vast majority of fathers are good fathers who work hard, help out. These responses are nothing more than hatred of men disguised as psycho-babble

2006-08-04 08:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

because men have the same kind of mentality as a child. He loses his temper because most men just arent equipped with the patience of a mother. If goes as far as being abusive then he should seek counseling or perhaps anger management.

2006-08-04 07:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Rae 4 · 0 0

Your hubby evidently feels trapped in the relationship and he takes it out on your son... You need to help your 2 year old more so than your hubby... Your 2 year old is unable to take on the responsibility of what is happening to him... .

I would tell hubby that he has to go and not come back until he can be a father to his son.... I'm sorry my children come before anything... including my hubby...

Another thing you hubby is an adult and he is responsible for his actions... So your first priority and your only priority is your child... so the hubby has to go or you have to leave.... No if's about it...

2006-08-04 07:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0 0

dont worry mine is the same, he dosnt loose his temper as much but gets very irritated, this is beacuse they are not used to dealing with a small child day in day out the way us mothers are, just keep on explaining to your husband that the child is only 2, and does not no better. good luck

2006-08-04 07:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0 0

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