Do you ever want to just slap other people's children?

Question

I love kids, but there are just some children that are so awful that I do not like being around them. The woman I work with brings her two boys to work with her when the boss is gone and the younger one is such a little sweetheart. But the older one is a total brat. He is a little smart-@ss to me, talks back to his mother and is very mean to his little brother. Their mother acts like she doesnt even notice. I mean, do some parents not know that their children are brats?

Oh yeah, I don't literally mean slap someone else's kid, just an expression.

Answer 1

Not slap the children, but I would love to slap the parents for allowing their children to act like that. Children only do what they know that they can get away with.

Answer 2

I am amazed at how many people impose their idea of "perfect parenting" on others. I would love to find out that the replies here were actually parents referring to each others kids. You all sound like the kind of parents who get caught up in the the "My kid walked talked, etc before any other kid". When this contest went on I would say, "Well that is great your kid is eating solid food, my little johnny has been cooking his own meals for some time now." Or "Oh my. DIdyou read the recent study that said children who _______ too early are at a greater risk of ADHD?"
This usually stopped the contest as it was ridiculous to begin with.

But parents do it with behavior as well. In reverse. "That parent does not know what they are doing look at that kid" Translation, that kid is so bad it makes me look good and I am going to tell everyone about it.

I have always taken the position that my kids are not perfect. I tell other parents to tell me immediately if my child is acting inappropriately-in front of the kid-why-It lets the other adult know how to hanlde it- so they do not feel pressure to smack my kid-(I know it is just an expression like Mel Gibson said the Jews started all the wars- just an expression) or discipline my child. It also lets the child know that that I expect nothing less than good behavior. The child knows this parent will rat them out. This sets the expectation for all involved. I know some kids can be annoying. But as an adult you need to take control-In the work situation- you should not be bothered by the kids at all-if they bother you should tell the mother- I am at work. I am busy. I undertand your situation and need to bring your children here, but please lets find a way to do that without interrupting my work. If this cannot be accomplished I will need to take this up with our boss. End of story. This should eliminate the kid taling back to you. The other issues talking back to his mom and being mean to his brother,. unless it interrupts you, is none of your business. If the kid is beating his brother up in the break room I would walk away If I saw the Mom I might say, "Your kids are fighitng in the break room" but I might not. Her kids fighitng, unless it prevnets me form getting my work done, is her problem. I might even laugh in her face and say, "Good luck with that, now where is that report you owe me."

Answer 3

I know how you feel. A former friend of mine used to bring her two children over every time she came to visit, even when I would ask her not to. Her oldest child is a brat as well-takes stuff from my kids, whines when I tell her she cant have my kids toys (she would ask everytime she came over if she could keep the toys she played with then cry when I said no), she would take my kids snacks and their drinks (I always shared with her and she got the same thing they did), etc. etc. It got to the point where i told the former friend to leave her kids at home or stop coming over because I was tired of my kids being hurt and crying. Her son wasnt so bad, he just loved to eat (he weighs like 40+ pounds and isnt even 2 yet). Some people dont know their kids are brats because they ignore the behavior of their child. I caught this same former friend scolding MY child because she took a toy away from this girl (it was my daughters and she did have it first and this little girl took it from her). I admit my kids arent perfect but they dont whine, ask for stuff that doesnt belong to them, and they never back talk people or misbehave at other peoples homes.

Answer 4

Oh yes! The urge to paddle a kid and smack the parent is almost overwhelming sometimes. :-)

Some parents don't like conflict with their kids, so they let the kids do whatever they want. In the meantime, the kid pushes to see how much he/she can get away with, testing to see where the limits are. I've watched a 5-year-old hit his mother with his fist because he was mad at her, and all she did was scold him, "Now, Steve." Spare me. That kid needed a beating!

Now that I'm older, I pipe up in situations like that and tell the kid, "Hey, that wasn't nice. You shouldn't act that way." Let the parent take me on if they dare!

In your situation, I would tell the boss what goes on when he/she isn't there. Does the boss know that these kids come in?

Answer 5

Tell the woman that her children are not welcome in the office as they are disrupptive to the work environment. And yes, sometimes I would like to say something to the little brats I see in stores. But nothing brings out the tiger in a mother faster than seeing her child corrected by some stranger.

Answer 6

Most parents think their kids are little angels.. and that they can do no wrong.. OR they don't want to admit that they've failed in some way... cause admitting that your kid is an a$$ is admitting that you've not done something you should have. The answer to your question is a resounding YES.. I have wanted to smack so many kids.. but that's because my kids are perfect.

Answer 7

I have been around peoples bad *** kids before. Most of the time i tell their parents that there child is rude and if it's my house they are at...**** i will yell at them and ask them what the hell is wrong with them. Sometimes you gotta say what the parent won't

Answer 8

i hate all children aside from mine, and ones close to me. Little children annoy me SO much. Sometimes when i'm out in public, i feel like hitting all the little kid that run around screaming like retards. ugh, so annoying!

Answer 9

Most of the time its because of how they were raised, therefore good intentions or bad, the parents screwed up. I often want to slap the parent(s) lool.

Answer 10

I actually want to slap their parents!! I can't believe how they can just ignore the way their kids behave!