My bf and I live together, but when I go to work, he calls me throughout the day and when I don't answer my cell or work phone he ask where were you? why didn't I answer his call? ect. I tell him becuz I wasn't at my desk. Then sometime he asks stupid questions like he's testing our relationship to see what I would say. If I answer with a different response than his he would get affended and starts a little argument. Why does he do this? Is he insucure about himself? He also checks my phone at time even after we both changed our numbers. Its like he wants to catch me cheating on him. Or he thinks I am cheating on him. I don't know why he would think that if I live with him and I am with him after work and before work. I have talk to him and ask him why? He says he doesn't want to lose me. Is this the true answer?
2006-08-04 06:53:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie obviously this man has been hurt in the past and Ur right he's VERY insecure. But as with anyone that has been hurt before how do U not B insecure.
It sounds like he really cares about U and just needs some reassurance that things are good.
AND it might help to remind him often that U R very lucky to have him and such a great relationship.
Reassure him that even though he's been hurt, U won't do the same, Ur not her. She might have been to stupid to realize what she had but U R not...
Just love him and make him feel loved...He'll relax and let off after a while...
Good Luck doll.....I hope it works out.
2006-08-04 07:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity!! or he has had a bad experience before-been hurt, has controlling anger issues. Or he may be the one that is cheating, & he is accusing you because he is guilty. be careful, this doesn't always have a happy ending. The 20 questions never end, & it's not a happy healthy relationship, if there is no trust between the 2 of you. He needs to TRUST you, & let him no he hasn't anything to worry about.
2006-08-04 07:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by AL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true! You'll need to ask him - what can you do to help make him feel secure in your relationship - so that he doesn't call you and check up on you all the time. Could his feelings be that you are not showing enough towards him that makes him feel this way to begin with? Take a good look at what your actions are toward him that is making him feel this way.
2006-08-04 07:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you have already got evidence he's dishonest ("So I feel my bf is dishonest doing the web factor I do have evidence, however he hides his "cookies" temp records that may hint what you're doing on-line.. ") why might you desire to maintain torturing your self watching for extra proof? Just kick him to the reduce noone merits to be cheated on. I realize its simpler mentioned than performed considering I'm certain you like him, however love your self extra. No man is ever valued at your tears.
2016-08-28 12:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I was like that along time ago. it sucks, I used to look for a reason why she would be cheating, and she never did. It caused more problems for us than if she was cheating. He has to learn that or it will be hard on you. I really know. I would say tell him that you love him and you do not want to cheat but if you keep acting like this you will mess it up. He will fix it or mess it up.
2006-08-04 07:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by mike67333 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He maybe insecure but, he's just making sure that you are not cheating its called *confirmation* but he just wants it more than your average man. Maybe you should sit down and talk to him...Remember that he is a man and sometimes men tell you things in their own way. They don't express feeling the way that we as in women do.
2006-08-04 07:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Toya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...... I have seen this many times, Im not saying always, but, sometimes its the one whos playing that paranoid role who is messin around......
Maybe you should start playin his game, you do some calling, you check his phone, you ask some questions!
2006-08-04 06:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is or was cheating on you..... he thinks that all girls are cheaters as the person he was/is with.... also, he may be addicted to pornography. Check out what kind of web sites he visits.... his perception of a woman is of some kind of a whore who sleeps with everybody.... It derives from pornography, whores and sluts he met with, people of this kind..... check out his friends....Good luck.
2006-08-04 07:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by alexandredz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
--sounds a bit Obsessive/compulsive to me. Might I suggest you find a mate who is more secure in themselves and you that you are not constantly being checked up on.
2006-08-04 06:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust and respect is the basis of a good relationship. sounds like hes not trusting you at this point
2006-08-04 06:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋