I have this friend that is going to start to play guitar and she might be good at it and I suck. I just don't want my bf to like her more because she can pla ythe guitar better. I am 26 before you say if I am 12 or some other age. She is a really nice, cool friend so why do I keep thinking my bf and her could start something even if they don't like each other?
2006-08-04 06:41:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Woah, serious security issues. While playing the guitar may be cool, once you are into the relationship its really not a factor. Worry bout the big stuff.
2006-08-04 06:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by brinntache 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because you are insecure with yourself and this relationship. You need to do some deep soul searching and find yourself as an individual instead of being defined by what you can or can't do. A good start is to look at yourself in the mirror and honestly reaffirm that you love who you are. If you can't do this then your going to drive yourself crazy trying to find someone to validate this feeling for you. Good luck!
Edited to add: The poster above me "The Singer" hit the nail right on the head. Theres some very good advice here!
2006-08-04 13:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you can deal with the truth - but you are showing an example of someone who is insecure. This has nothing to do with your boyfriend, your girlfriend or whether or not she plays better than you. You have described a 'situation' only. This could have been any other situation. What you have to understand is yourself - your character and your lack of self confidence and self-esteem. You can't get that here in this forum however, there are many self-help books available that you can read to help identify who you are, why you act this way and what you can do to change it. You can ruin a good relationship between your boyfriend, yourself and your girlfriend if you don't learn to recognize, understand, evaluate and respond to the issues that have you bound.
2006-08-04 13:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I think I'm missing something. Is your boyfriend doing the guitar lessons or something? One seems to have nothing to do with the other. Does he play the guitar? If the answer to those two questions is no, then I think you're worrying is unfounded. Also if you're that worried about it then it doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship.
2006-08-04 13:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you're being pretty insecure about your relationship, and maybe you are because it's not a solid one. If you and your bf have a good thing going and you trust him this is not something you shoudl worry about.
And just because she can play guitar does not mean he'll automatically like her better, I'm sure there are things about you that he likes. You just need to be confident with your relationship and trust him, unless there are reasons why you shouldn't...
2006-08-04 13:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by countryjumper64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of ppl say that love is harder than anything but that's not true. Love is a state of mind and it can be changed.
The question is: Do you trust your friend? Is she the kind of girl that falls in love easily. Cause she could fall in love with your bf and then seduce him, and men are weak. If she's pretty enough or dared enough, she'll get him.
Forget about how good she plays guitar, we don't care about that.
Just hope she doesn't play a "tune" he haven't heard yet from you.
So watch her closely
2006-08-04 14:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have insecurities in the reasons you man is with you. Just because your friend is better at guitar that you, does not mean that your bf will dump you for her simply because of that. if he does, he never really cared for YOU as a person and he's not worth it anyway. Good luck and don't worry, i'm sure you're just worrying over nothing :)
2006-08-04 13:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by plastik_persephone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously don't think to highly of your boyfriend, if you think he'd just up and leave you for some girl who can play guitar better than you. If that's something he'd really do, you're wasting your time with him anyway.
2006-08-04 13:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by Have_ass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just let him go if he is going to go for your best friend. Men are a dime a dozen and your friend wouldn't be much of a friend if she went out with him. So you will just have to have faith that you are his number 1 no matter what she can do better and be happy with him. If you see actual sparks between them walk away.
2006-08-04 13:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by fourangels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just your insecurities. You b/f is with you because he likes and enjoys you. He's not going to break up with you because your Friend can do something better then you ! Come on, to act silly over such little things, And don't drive yourself crazy over crap like that. Take Care
2006-08-04 13:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by smorgan1124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋