My bf has been going to strip clubs for almost a year and I just found out about it from his friend. It hurts me bc he doesn't want me to see other men naked- but he apparently loves to have T&A rubbed all over his face. Now here's my problem- I'm not even allowed to wear a bikini at the beach or short shorts outside the house. He also gets very angry when he notices other men looking at me. Isn't this the most bass ackwards $hit youv'e ever heard??
2006-08-04 06:32:54 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you kidding me? If he is placing restrictions on what you can wear .... are you sure you want to even be dating someone so chauvanistic (sexist) ? Imagine if he was your husband and he felt he "Owned you" and could dictate all aspects of what you can and cannot do.... Dump his sorry "Do as I say... not as I do" ***!! You can find a man that is much more respectful to you and your relationship.
2006-08-04 06:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by kulover613 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
dump the freak. he sounds like a control freak.. tell him what is good for the goose is good for the gander.. and why the shorts and bikini thing..? he is just down right stupid.. you don't want to marry this fella., let him be someone elses problem because that is all he is going to be in the future to is a problem.. I have had these controling men my whole life.. I know you think you love him but if they are that jealous you won't be able to talk to anyone either. and it makes for a very long life for someone worrying about there partner getting mad if they look at someone or someone looks at them and if someone should happen to talk to you they get mad.. leave him now.. he is no good for anyone..
never say you weren't for warned here. this is from someone who has been through it..
2006-08-04 06:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf has serious insecurity issues. Question, did his mom cheat on his dad? You might want to ask him this. He is equating your dress with pain and abandonment. It's not just a bikini you are wearing, it's a symbol that you will be taken from him.
This is a very deep pain that he has. Find out where it came from, maybe you can help him resolve it. If he doesn't resolve it with you, he will have do with someone else, and it may follow him into marriage and beyond. Not a good situation.
2006-08-04 06:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man gets angry when he notices men looking at me too, and also has comments on my clothes from time to time, But having a problem with you wearing a bathing suit to the beach is a bit extreme, what else are you to wear? I tell my man that there is nothing wrong with my clothes, and that he need to grow up, ask him if you are too hot for him to handle because you can always find a man that can, that drives my man crazy.
2006-08-04 06:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by bopbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about typical male behaviour. This is very atypical, and thats not cool. I like it when other men look at my wife. It makes me feel all the better that I'm am with her and not them. I know and accept my wife is hot, they are obviously going to look. Besides, when I was younger I would do a lot of glancing myself, so I can't blame them.
Any man who tells you that you cannot wear clothing and is trying to be your daddy, is not the man for you. It also demonstrates his insecurity. Find another guy, preferebly one that is not a teenager and more experienced.
2006-08-04 06:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by caffiene_freek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend has some control/jealousy issues and a madonna/whore complex.
Some men dont want to imagine their girlfriends/wives as a sexual being, and go to dancers or prostitutes to get the attention they dont feel comfortable getting at home.
I would be more worried about the controlling attitude he takes with you. No man who really loves his woman is going to dictate what she can or can not wear.
Jealousy seems to be rearing its ugly head here to.
There seems to be a few problems in your relationship.
My advice would be to get out now!
If you want to stay I would urge you to get some couples therapy!
Good luck!
2006-08-04 06:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by friskygimp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not "allowed"? He should be proud to show you off at the beach or anywhere else...let other guys dream about what he has and they can't...he sounds overly possessive and you need to get out of that relationship because there is not a happy ending at the end of this rainbow
2006-08-04 06:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by Maestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up Hun!!! tell him the door swing both ways, if he you can do these things, then why u you 're not even allow to wear shorts. that is ridiculous ,You don't need someone to boss you around like that ,then he feel he always have to be in control . you better put things straight now before it's too late.And he lie about going to strip club,think about it sometimes we need to do what 's best for us , not to let others take control of your life.
2006-08-04 06:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by princess11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really sad, and scary. You should never let anyone control you like that. A man who really loves and respects you wouldn't control you that way. He would be proud to have a wife he could show off and proud that other men find her attractive. Seems like your man just wants to keep you at home barefoot and pregnant while he goes off and has his own fun in life.
2006-08-04 06:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea! Your guy is sucha prick.
U should really break up with him. I wouldn't tolerate my guy going to strip clubs... it's alright if they want to masturbate to porn or whatsoever... but if u restrict me from doing things that you yourself do, it's ridiculous!
I guess your bf's insecure cos you're attractive.. tt's why he restricts you from wearing bikini or short shorts... but whatever the point is, he's acting more like your mother! Horrid!
U deserve someone sooo much better. Cliche but true! good luck!
2006-08-04 06:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by excusememiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a possessive control freak, wich if it's not dangerous now, could be dangerous in the future. And I advise you to try to get out of the relationship.
2006-08-04 06:37:39 · answer #11 · answered by Aliza, Queen of the Night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋