I mean I love my boyfriend. I didn't treat him right at first but I do love him and changed and I still hate myself. I hate all my mistakes and who I am and my mom's side of my family is always criticizing me for who I am and they have made me believe most of it. I just cry at who I am. So I completely diasagree with that phrase? What is the real meaning behind that phrase? Why is it so real?
2006-08-04 06:24:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you need to love yourself in order to have a healthy relationship with another person, or else you will find all of your personal issues leaking into your relationship and causing doubt, self hate, and lots of problems.
You need to stop listening to other peoples opinions about your life.
It is YOUR life, and you are the only one that is responsible for it.
You need to be comfortable with who you are and realize you are a valuable human being. Embrace all of your wonderful qualities AND all of your flaws, it whats makes you YOU.
People criticize others because they are unhappy about themselves. Be aware its is more about them than it is about you.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 06:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by friskygimp 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Here is the deal...by hating yourself you are pulling yourself down and the people who love you down. Your saying that there is something wrong with them for loving you because your not worthy. And because you don't love yourself then the love you give to them is tainted and less than what it could be. A person who loves them self is capable of giving more love, in a better fashion. So, yes, you may love someone else even though you don't love your self but your not loving them as much and in as good of a way by doing so.
2006-08-04 06:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phrases are just sentences spoken by people who thought they knew what they were talking about. Your mom's side of the family has forgotten all the mistakes that they made in their lifetime. We are all guilty of something. Loving yourself also means FORGIVING yourself even if no one else does. The fact that you are capable of loving someone else is an AMAZING gift--one that you should be very proud of.
2006-08-04 06:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by What gives? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seem your self ex stream in down it sound like you are very depress about your life right know and the way it is turning out
and i think you are not doing nothing to help your self get out of your depression and the way you live your life all people make mistakes all of the time i think you are to hard on your self and as far as who you are your personalty you can change that instead of thinking neglected about your self think positive about your self go out and start helping people out in your life go to a senior home or a hospital and be a volunteer you are saying right lol but you would be surprise how many people out there would love you and thank you for what you have done for them in return you would start to love your self and people around you wouldn't criticizing you they would be jealous of you and this is and bye helping other people out you can love your self because other people love you because you dont get much love in your family and you are seeking love and that why you are feeling the way you do so go out and help some one today it well change your life and you well love your self and some one else well love you
2006-08-04 06:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love yourself, you can't truly love somone else. It doesn't mean you cannot be in a relationship with someone. You will always be second guessing everything in the relationship. If you don't love yourself, you will have no love to give away. Here is a quote from Honest Abe that may help.
"For too long, every ounce of forgiveness I owned was locked away, hidden from view, waiting for me to bestow its precious presence upon some worthy person. Alas, I found most people to be singularly unworthy of my valuable forgiveness, and since they never asked for any, I kept it all for myself. Now, the forgiveness that I hoarded has spouted inside my heart like a crippled seed yielding bitter fruit.
No more! At this moment, my life has taken on new hope and assurance. Of all the world’s population, I am one of the few possessors of the secret to dissipating anger and resentment. I now understand that forgiveness has value only when it is given away. By the simple act of granting forgiveness, I release the demons of the past about which I can do nothing, and I create in myself a new heart, a new beginning.
I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit. I will forgive even those who do not ask for forgiveness.
Many are the times when I have seethed in anger at a word or deed thrown into my life by an unthinking or uncaring person. I have wasted valuable hours imagining revenge or confrontation. Now I see the truth revealed about this psychological rock inside my shoe. The rage I nurture is often one-sided, for my offender seldom gives thought to his offense!
I will now and forevermore silently offer my forgiveness even to those who do not see that they need it. By the act of forgiving, I am no longer consumed by unproductive thoughts. I give up my bitterness. I am content in my soul and effective again with my fellowman.
I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit. I will forgive those who criticize me unjustly.
Knowing that slavery in any form is wrong, I also know that the person who lives a life according to the opinion of others is a slave. I am not a slave. I have chosen my counsel. I know the difference between right and wrong. I know what is best for the future of my family, and neither misguided opinion nor unjust criticism will alter my course.
Those who are critical of my goals and dreams simply do not understand the higher purpose to which I have been called. Therefore, their scorn does not affect my attitude or action. I forgive their lack of vision, and I forge ahead. I now know that criticism is part of the price paid for leaping past mediocrity.
I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit. I will forgive myself.
For many years, my greatest enemy has been myself. Every mistake, every miscalculation, every stumble I made has been replayed again and again in my mind. Every broken promise, every day wasted, every goal not reached has compounded the disgust I feel for the lack of achievement in my life. My dismay has developed a paralyzing grip. When I disappoint myself, I respond with inaction and become more disappointed.
I realize today that it is impossible to fight an enemy living in my head. By forgiving myself, I erase the doubts, fears, and frustration that have kept my past in the present. From this day forward, my history will cease to control my destiny. I have forgiven myself. My life has just begun.
I will forgive even those who do not ask for forgiveness. I will forgive those who criticize me unjustly. I will forgive myself.
I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit."
Abraham Lincoln
2006-08-04 06:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by danzahn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not loving yourself will ALWAYS get in between you and whoever you want a relationshir with. Try going to counseling, it really helped me work on myself and learn to love me even if I do have faults. It's not fair to deny your problems and be selfish enough to keep trying to be with someone when you know you treat them wrong. Identify who you are and work on yourself first. That is key.
2006-08-04 06:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Rebeca O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is true because it is not possible to love someone else if you dint love your self first
2006-08-04 06:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by God Is Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋