I'm 19 years old and I have just had sex for the first time. Im really close with my mother and she has already asked me if i will tell her when i have sex and i said probably.
2006-08-04 06:11:58 · 45 answers · asked by sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And she needs to know... WHY?
2006-08-04 06:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by alaskanecho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I waited that long also and is married to my first. But when it came to telling my mom because we were really close I just told her before hand that I thought I was ready and it was not that bad if any thing she was shocked that her baby girl was no longer a baby. So sit down and let the MATURE you tell her, because she is going to need to know YOU understand what you have done and continue to do in a responsible way. By the way as my mother said welcome to the world of love and heart ache.
2006-08-04 06:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to tell her, just be up front about. Be preparaed for her to cry and say things that you are not going to like. Some parents just don't know what to say and the just open their mouth and let whatever they are thinking come out. Don't take it to heart.
**My mom did not know I had sex until I got pregnant at 20. She then asked me when I started having sex, I know she really didn't want me to answer that question, but I did. When I said I had sex the first time at age 11, it floored her. She didn't know what to say, expect that she was disappointed in me. She didn't let me see her cry, since I was upset about being pregnant and not married**
2006-08-04 06:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only tell her if it comes up in conversation naturally. I tell my mom all sorts of stuff but usually it is just in the course of conversation. If I sit down and try to tell her something that I am little uncomfortable about it doesn't feel natural. If you are as close as you say, I bet that sex etc will come up in conversation again and you can say, "Oh, I've been wanting to tell you that it finally happened." That will get the ball rolling and you can tell her about it.
2006-08-04 06:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Gwen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 19 years old and your mother is very proud of you i'm sure. unless you just wed i don't think she is going to be happy about what you've just done, and i can't imagine her wanting to hear about it. be respectfull of your mother, your 19 years old there are some things she doesn't need to know, all it will do is hurt her. if she asks, explain to her that you have made a decision that in the event that you have,or do meet someone that you chose to share this experience with, you are not going to share this with her.
your mother will know and appreciate that you are being considerate of her.
2006-08-04 06:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by imagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is certainly up to you but if you wish to break the ice, let her know that she asked you to tell her when you have had sex and you wanted to give her an update. If you guys are as close as you say, it will come easy for you. If you don't want to tell her that you have already done it, let her know you are considering it with "the name" to get a feel for how she'll react first. If she over-reacts, reconsider mentioning it to her. She'll eventually figure it out anyway and if she confronts you, tell her you were uncomfortable discussing it with your mom.
2006-08-04 06:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by renegadescwgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell her. She should understand. Since you're so close and she's already confronted you about it, it's not like she's going to disown you or something. Rent a chick flick or something, pop some popcorn, and have a night with just you and her. Then ask her if you can tell her something personal and just let it spill. She's done it too! She'll understand. =] Good luck.
2006-08-04 06:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by stella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just say it then! If you want to share that kind of info and you and your mum are open and cool about this stuff it would be hard to go wrong.
It would only be a problem if she was living in the Dark Ages.
At least she's not going to go mad is she and you're plenty old enough anyhow.
Take care.
2006-08-04 06:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you said you would probably tell her, it means you did not promise TO tell. If you aren't comfortable sharing the information with her, don't do it right now. Later on, you might just want to start talking about the birth control you're using... that will be her big hint and it may lead to you actually talking about it.
2006-08-04 06:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 19... Just tell her. She will probably be more surprised that you were a virgin this long then that you finally had sex.
2006-08-04 06:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by purekaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was also very close with my mother, but to be honest I never outright told her, I didn't see a need for it.
But if she is asking and you feel you have to tell her, just tell her. Or wait for her to ask again if you are that uncomfortable. And if you are that uncomfortable about it maybe it isn't something you are ready to share with her.
In the end, you have to do what feels right to you. Lots of people never tell their parents. But your parents do know eventually that you aren't a virgin.........
2006-08-04 06:19:28 · answer #11 · answered by Hoot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋