At work today my boss and I were having a conversation about in laws.She is married.I am divorced.She says that seeing and/or talking to her parents or siblings about once every two weeks is plenty.I can't imagine not talking with my mother or sister at least once a day.I live in a city neighboring my hometown,about 25 miles away,and I only visit about once a month,but I like to hear my mom and sister's voice just to know that they are doing okay. Is this abnormal? Do you have to cut yourself off from your family in order to have a successful relationship? How do you maintain a happy medium? I want to marry again one day and I would like to know how others feel about this. I know that when you commit to someone, you begin a life with them but does that mean that you withdraw from your family and treat them like acquaintances? Is my perspective too clingy or do others share my view of the importance of preserving family connections? Keep it real with me, PLEASE.
2006-08-04 05:54:50 · 5 answers · asked by intentionalmasterpiece 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you're with someone and they tell you to not be in contact with your family as much.... Then get rid of him!!
If he loves you... and talking to your family on a daily basis make you happy then there will not be a problem with it. It's all about the happiness!!!
2006-08-04 06:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by drifet_18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister and I are 6 years apart and were never that close. She had a baby about a year and a half ago, and now we talk at LEAST once a week. I spend time with her and her family at least once a month if not more. My mom I talk to every two or three weeks. She stops in occasionally. Family is everything, they are your rock when things get you down. Friends and husbands may come and go, but you will always have family.
Oh - by the way - I talk to my mother in law at least once a week as well.
2006-08-04 13:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by shafermeyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not get to see them as often, but no you are not adnormal for wanting to see them often. I just moved in w my bf and i know what you mean. I want to see my family all the time, but I usually only see them once a week. I know that some people break away because they do not get along with their parents, but that is different than if you do get along with them.
Now it may get a little annoying to your significant other if you are never at home because you have to go see your mom every night, but once or twice a week should not be a problem. Just try to make sure to fit in time for everybody in your life and do not leave your significant other out. They do not like that.
2006-08-04 13:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ sweet-n-low ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well analize the why of your need to talk to your mom and sis everyday. There might be the possibility that u have a co-dependency with them and if this is true then no relationship will work unless you stop being co-dependant on your family.
On the other hand if it's because your family is one who are very close, then it is ok to be as u r with them as long as you don't neglect your partner or family (the one you formed when got married to)
2006-08-04 13:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by oxalisb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is the one true consistant thing that will remain in all our lives hopefully. If you in the future met a mate then you'll have to explain to her the importance of family to you. And hopefully she will connect with your mom and sister also and want to remain in close touch with them. But on the same hand you'll also have to get along with and make a decision on how often you contact her family. Whatever and whenever the time comes for you to settle with a woman hopefully by then you two will have communicated to each other how you feel about staying in close contact with all family members. You have nothing to be ashamed of by wanting to remain close to both your mom and sister and I am sure that they both appreciate your committment to them.
2006-08-04 13:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋