my in-laws they r really troubling me a lot ..they behave very good in front of my hubby the movement he goes to office they behave very bad..they compare me with their elder sons wife ..as she is a lawyer.they tell me my elder son got so much money from his in-laws and what did u r parents give us...my parents ver ready to give them as much money they wanted but my hubby did not take it as he wants to stand on his own..t my in-laws r really color changing people.....they keep on change there colors.....when i told this to my hubby ..he told not to worry about this ...but now-a-days they r corrupting my hubbies mind also ..my mother-in-law she never talk to me properly..she want her son to be her side and in the morning when i give breakfast for my hubby she removes that one and get a new plate .she is really a..my father-in-law he always tell my hubby that ur wife we dont like her we dont want her to cook food.my sis-in-law she behaves with me asif iam servant ..
2006-08-04 05:32:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take your Mom in law aside and lay down the law. She is a guest in your home and should act like one. Explain that Sonny boy is your husband first and her son second. If she does not like this, she can get the hell out!
2006-08-04 05:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The in laws must go. Put your foot down and tell your husband that you can no longer live in such an abusive and disrespectful environment. You should not have to be belittled in your own home. You are the queen of that castle and your husband is king. If the townspeople (in-laws) don't like the way the kingdom is ran, they need to get the heck out of Dodge. Give a certain time limit (maybe 30-45 days) to get their own spot. It is not your responsibility to provide a home for them. They obviously don't appreciate your hospitality. If your husband won't stand behind you in this, he's the main problem. As husband and wife, you must be a unit. Nothing should penetrate your bond. Talk to him in bed one night or go out. Don't do it in their presence. State your case and offer explanations for your feelings. Be direct and truthful. Hopefully, your husband will see things your way and you can clean house.
2006-08-04 05:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I'm very sorry to hear this, unfortunately, no matter age sex or nationality people have been having trouble with there in-laws since the beginning of time. I'm not sure what nationality you are, or what is the proper protocol for dealing with your family, but you need to stand up for yourself and show them you have a back bone, and will not take this, then you need to set your husband aside, and tell him how this is affecting you, and your marriage, and force him to do something about it. Either that or you can just ignore it, smile, and let it roll off your shoulders..the less you let things bother you the better off you will be, and sooner or later they will realize this and start behaving themselves.
2006-08-04 05:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by MyDreams2Be 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phuck them all. It's your house, do as you will.
Tell your husband he needs to handle it as it is his parents causing the problem
You're a grown azz women and that is YOUR house. I'm not saying to be disrecpectful but you should get everyone together, let them know that YOU alone are queen of the castle and things will march to the beat of your drum or there will be hell to pay.
People will only get away with what YOU allow. And if you keep your mouth shut just to keep everyone happy, YOU are the only one that will suffer.
I will guess you are from Indian or of Middle Eastern decent. I lived there for a while and even married an Egyptian.
I watched his older sister wait on her brothers hand and foot. Even washed their clothes. I know that a lot of it is cultural. But YOU have to stand up for yourself.
And honey, if he does not stand up for you then maybe he is not the one for you. Marriage is not about stress - compromise and balance yes, but if it is causing more stress than happiness you have some tough decisions to make.
Let me know how it goes
Diva
2006-08-04 05:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by black_bi_diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o man sounds like you are getting verbally abused all over the place! what i would do is make everyone sit down (and i mean everyone...your hubby, parents, hubbys bro and wife) and have a "meeting". tell them how you feel and tell you hubby those things that his parents do when hes gone - right in front of the parents face....and if they deny it... plan #2 - walk around (but conceal) a tape recorder and try to keep it hidden and record as much as you can (what his parents say to you), and when you have enough recordings , play it to your hubby. it will make him realize how harsh they really are. right now he thinks they aren't harsh, and he has lived w/ them all his life, its kind of hard for him to believe the things you are telling them.... well that was my idea....hope it helps! take care and God bless!
2006-08-04 05:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by chi_twnchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the U.S. you just get rid of the in-laws and the husband if you have to. You can also buy a camera and/or tape recorder. That way you will have proof to show your husband. Remember that you deserve the best and if you can't get it you might be able to get it else where. Not knowing where you live it limits the type of response that I can suggest.
2006-08-04 05:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if your husband really loves you then he would stand up for you. if he refused money from your parents so he could stand on his own, then he should stand up for you. sit down and talk with him he should listen to you, where do you live anyway? whether your a lawyer or a house wife all that should matter is your husband loves you, maybe your inlaws are jealous, and the mom needs to grow up and the sister in law sounds jealous of you.! good luck
2006-08-04 05:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by butterflygyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this is a custom in some cultures. I won't tell you to get a divorce, that is up to you. If this was happening to me, I would surround myself with my own family and friends as a buffer. They surely wont insult you in front of others. Then maybe they will see your value through the eyes of others and learn to respect you.
2006-08-04 05:36:56 · answer #8 · answered by jr90292 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just curious - where do you live? I mean are you oppressed from speaking your mind? I wouldn't take that crap. My in-laws...OMG....if I had to live with them, I'd be a raving nutcase so I know how you feel. See if you can talk to your mother-in-law and tell her how you feel and how she's making you feel. She should NOT be interfering like that. It is wrong on SO many levels.
2006-08-04 05:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your hubby that you guys move out in a month or you are leaving... Then stick to what you tell him... Your hubby is a grown man and he needs to act grown... and acting grown would be to move you and him into your own place... NOT STAY WITH MOM AND DAD OR MOM AND DAD STAY WITH YOU...
I have to say these mommy boys really make me sick...
2006-08-04 05:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋