2006-08-04 05:25:07 · 77 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's up to her
2006-08-04 05:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by Flower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she should not have an abortion because the baby is not the one that caused her the pain that she is in right now and yes she may hate her baby right now but later on she might look back and think what did I do I feel as if she should have the baby and if the pain of keeping it is to much for her then there are many families out there who would love to have a child she should not punish the baby for the doings of a horrible person
2006-08-04 05:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how the girl feels. Abortion is never right because it is murder, but I couldn't imagine going through that and then having a child. She really needs to seek professional help....a psychiatrist would really be able to talk her through some things that she needs to hear. That baby is still her child, regardless as to what happened to get it here and for most women, they just couldn't stand the thought of harming their own child. Many females that are victims of rape, get pregnant and have the child. They raise the baby just as the would a planned pregnancy because it is still theirs and it is in no way the babies fault, it shouldn't be punished by not even getting a chance to live due to the unfortunate circumstances. This is definitely no easy situation and something that time will ease but never heal. I'm sorry for your friend and I wish her all the best and that she gives that baby a chance to live....abortion is wrong...
2006-08-04 05:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nathan_jordiesmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Abortion is MURDER!!!!!!!!!!!!! That baby did not do anything. She could put the baby up for adoption. I am extremely sorry to hear that she was raped, and I will pray.
Two horrible acts would not make anything right. Then if she did get an abortion not only would she have to suffer from that but also the fact that she murdered a baby!
2006-08-04 05:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no right and wrong answer to this question, I have known a girl that was in the same situation, she had an abortion but regretted it ever since but on the other hand she says she wouldn't have been able to cope with the baby as every time she looked at it she would see the evil excuse for a man who raped her, we have to remember this is an innocent life and it did not ask to be conceived, your friend needs all the support she can get do not try and talk her into making a decision just listen to her and give her a shoulder to cry on, if you need advice please email me.
p.s and to those who say abortion is murder open your eyes this is reality never judge someone until you have been in that situation and I pray that your never in that situation.
2006-08-04 05:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she report it? When you report it they take a rape kit and give her the morning after pill, which cuts all posibilities for being pregnant. But that is only effective 24-48 hours after the rape. i think she should decided what she wants. if she keeps the child she will be remainded for the rest of her life of this incident. If it was me I would get an abortion.
As long as she is not in the fourht month or further this is not a baby but a cell from her body. Its hot a human being and it does not feel. Don't call it a baby because it isn't yet one.
2006-08-04 05:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Please don't advise abortion. The baby didn't choose it's father. Your friends girlfried could really regret that decision, and even harm her own body in the process. It will be hard work, but she can carry the baby to term, and give it a chance at life and a loving home. In most adoption situations, the future parents pay for the medical expenses so your friend wouldn't have to worry about that.
Most of all, just let the woman know you are available for her to talk to, to cry on, or to help her when times get REALLY tough.
2006-08-04 05:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its too bad this girl didn't report the rape right after it happened. There is medication that can be taken right away to make sure that a pregnancy doesn't happen. Which would have been especially good in this case.
It will totally be up to the girl as to weather or not she has the baby or if she keeps it for that matter. No one else has the right to judge or push their beliefs on to her. She has a lot of healing and mending to do regarding this whole thing. Make sure she has people who support her around her and let her make the final decision.
Best of luck to everyone.
2006-08-04 05:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way. Its not the baby's fault if she doesn't want it teel her to give it up for adoption. The baby is not responsible for the father's actions. She can always just finda loving family for it. I understand what she is going through but the baby doesn't deserve to lose its life becuase of someone else's mistake. I suggest she waits and really thinks about it before she makes any spur of the moment decisions. There is a life in her now and she can keeep it or find a home for him/her after they're born. Its not the baby's fault. It is a baby even though its not outside of the womb. it can hear her voice and heart beat and it moves. Tell her to thinka bout. Go to counseling so she can have someone to talk to. That is another that stops beating if she does. Tell her to go the following link, its awful but this is what is done to the human life!
2006-08-04 05:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard question. Should she keep a daily reminder of the rape or should she not "punish" the child for the crimes of the father? If she can't accept the idea of abortion, then maybe adoption is the best for her. She is going to have to live with her choice. I think the best thing you or anyone else can do is offer your unconditional support.
Personally, I don't know what I would do.
2006-08-04 05:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by laneydoll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very sticky situation, because if the baby looks like the father she might think of that terrible event. She may then start to resent that child and distance herself from it. I personally am against abortion, but i'm not going to go preaching to you that abortion is wrong, because that is up to the woman.
But if she dosen't want an abortion, then there is always adoption
2006-08-04 05:38:09 · answer #11 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋