2006-08-04 05:02:56 · 20 answers · asked by z woman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because if she is anything like my mother used to be she is nagging and talks way too much. When you just want to chill and watch some tv. My older sister learned how to just ignore her but i never caught on to that skill.
2006-08-04 05:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by KingstonGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give any information on why you hate her..But let me tell you , you might want to try working on that...You only have one mom and yes she has probably made mistakes but hey so will you ...One day you are going to need your mom and she won't be there because you didn't take the time to work things out...She's not just your mom but she can be your best freind too. Whatever is wrong get past it and allow your mom into your life.....In other words grow up !!!!!
2006-08-04 05:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had a talk with your mother about how you feel about her and why? Moms can be over protective especially of their daughters which in turn makes her seem too controlling. Remember your parents will be the only ones in your life who will love you unconditionally.
2006-08-04 05:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably between 13-18 yrs old. Cheer up! Lot's of girls your age don't get along with their moms. You'll be amazed at how much you will like her later on.
2006-08-04 05:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not agree with some of the things she does. More then likely she's just looking out for your best interest. Don't hold any grudges against her or anyone. It will just drag you down.
2006-08-04 05:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by lovebnjenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i totally understand... my take on it is that parents (esp asian parents!!) are so busy trying to push and force you to be their idea of a "good person", that when we don't understand or want the same thing because we are young, immature, or just have different dreams, they try to SQUASH it out of you!! and it's all done out of love, really, but it feels like hate, disappointment, and turns into frustration and hate. i think parents *should* do the exact opposite of what they want to do; they want to force u to do what they want when ur younger, which is fairly normal, but when u grow older and start developing ur own mind, they start getting threatened and scared that u'll "run off" or "go the wrong path" that they squeeze tighter and tighter..which I think makes kids WANT to be bad, want to rebel, and want to do the exact opposite. which then strains the relationship and "proves" to the parents that we are indeed bad and need More discipline..so the cycle goes on. i think parents have to keep in mind that kids, esp young adults 13+, are going to start to have to think for themselves, will be in situations where they can't always be around supervision. therefore, they must learn to supervise themselves! and to do that, u have to give them some sort of freedom to make mistakes, and Learn from them..
i have a journal, and i used to write the Meanest things about my mom when i "hated" her... =T she really made me so angry and frustrated and sad.... it's sad to go back and read it.... but one thing i did was write a list i that i would NEVER do to MY KIDS... and i have like almost 100 things on the list!!! it's gonna be really hard, but if i want to be the kind of parent i want to be, which is understanding and remember what it's like to be young, i have to constantly remind myself to let the kids talk to me, explain how they think and feel, and let them make mistakes and learn what it's like in the real world, because it's inevitable they are going to leave the nest.... trying to force them to stay home is only going to force them to leave.... my relationship w/ my mom is better now, but it took a LONG time, and even now there's a lot of bickering cuz she's so strict, and i'm 26!! (i HATE living at home! haha.. and i have an aunt that lives w/ us that's worse than my mom!)... but u have to be patient, and understand too that a lot of things she's telling u is because of her experiences. don't discount her, but try to communicate w/ her that u are responsible, but u need to live and learn at ur own pace and in ur own way *so that* u can kearn to choose the right thing on your own.
2006-08-04 05:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's how you were raised! too bad tho that your mom didn't raise you to love, respect and honor her!
when it's your turn, you can do better with your kids and hopefully have a loving, respectful relationship with them. it's always up to the parent to set the behaviors in their own family. sorry yours are so low.......oh well..........
2006-08-04 05:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personality conflicts, most likely, or that one or both of you never learned how to deal with problems. talk to a counselor or a therapist to help you work it out.
2006-08-04 05:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Deek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you're a teen. It's normal. It'll pass.
2006-08-04 05:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be too controlling. Go for compromises with her. Prove to her that you can be trusted. Dont ever lie to her.
2006-08-04 05:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋