I have really cared about this man for years and just recently he has told me he has felt the same. It has taken so long for him to tell me as he was my tutor in College and he waited till I had finished studying before admitting his feelings. I have had long relationships in the past but I have never felt this way about anyone before. He is 46 and I am 24, that does not matter to me as you cannot help who you fall for. One problem is that he has a girlfriend (yes this sounds like one big cliche, but my feelings are real), they are having problems and he doesnt think it is fair to just leave her like that as they are living together. He is very enigmatic and I have no way of getting intouch with him, he can only get intouch with me, which means I don't hear from him in weeks. I understand though as he has alot of responsibilities to deal with i.e. 2 kids. Does anyone think there is a future? We get on so well.
2006-08-04 04:32:40 · 23 answers · asked by Lilley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know,, your feelings may be real, even putting the obvious 'age dif' to one side,, he has over stepped the mark being your college tutor, he should know better you say he has kept his feelings to himself but i wonder if he has really, otherwise why would you have started havin feelings for him in 1st place!! he has a girlfriend ,, dont go down that path you will regret it,, he obvioulsy has abused his authority and its seems obviouse to me he has used the situation to his own gain,,, do you have a future with him,, hell no!! otherwise if he loved you why wouldnt you be able to contact him, he has you at his beck and call,,, your 24 with your whole life a head of you,, change your no,, and get your own life,, minus him in it!!
2006-08-04 12:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by linda r 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the very 1st thing u can do is find YOUR OWN MAN!!! that's really nice that u have feelings for him and all but u need to fall back and accept the situation for what it is, u will be the side chick if u allow urself to be.. he's either gonna leave the girl or he's not.. he shouldn't care about her feelings even if they r living together if he really wants to be with u..
why is it that girls like u don't understand anything when it comes to relationships?? why would u wanna be 2nd to another woman?? why would u wanna sit around and wait until he can sneak away from his GIRLFRIEND to call u?? Why r u given him a choice to choose between u and his girlfriend?? what r u gonna do just wait around until HE DECIDES that he no longer wants her?? Ur one of the reasons why men cheat, and he will cheat on u to.. Why do u want a man who is cheating?? What does that say about his character?? what does that say about him as a so called "MAN"??
U r like the perfect Mistress!!
ur still young and dum and u need to find someone who is single that actually wants u!!
2006-08-04 04:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, run for the hills girl. You have to remember you are 24 he is 46 old enough to be your dad.You are not the only one he is doing this with for sure. What about the girlfriend, how do you think she would feel? He isn't true to her, and won't be true to you either.
Kind in the same thing, the woman is older than me and him. I have been staying with him for 2 months now, found out he'd been sneaking around with her. Life's too short to waste on a man like that. Find someone closer to your own age, in 20 years you won't want to have to help him in his wheelchair......
2006-08-04 04:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by hsoftailbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a future just not at the moment. If he can't get rid of his gf yet, don't wait around for it to happen. If his feelings where as true as he says they are,then he would eventually get rid of his gf and I'm saying a year from now..but a few months from now,when he knows she can leave.
But as for your relationship,if he is busy then his life will crowd out your relationship,and you shouldn't settle for being almost the last priority in your life. Your young, live first.
2006-08-04 04:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER get involved with someone who is already in a relationship - the chances are he will not leave her to be with you and if by some miracle he did - would you trust him not to do the same to you in time to come?
As for one way communication?? No way! Your sat there waiting for his call but you cant get in touch with him? Its a one sided relationship - you doing all the giving and him doing all the taking (and twice over - aint he the lucky one!!)
I know I wouldnt!
2006-08-04 04:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you do not have a future. For one he is a liar. I assume he has not told his girlfriend about you. Two, he is selfish. You can't get in touch with him. Another words he sees and talks to you when it's convenient for HIM! Your feelings may be real but his are not . He doesn't give any thought to your feelings.
Sounds like he gives a lot of lip service. Actions speak louder than words. Please remember that!!!!!
2006-08-04 04:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Gwen P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does it feel to be the other woman? The one that isn't important enough to him to be with? The one he keeps on the side and out of his everyday life?
He is using you. Fine a little self pride, a little integrity, a little intelligence and leave the guy alone before he hurts you.
2006-08-04 04:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by ~Gate~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is keep the relationship you have. If things really aren't going good with his girlfriend, and you've stuck by him, there may be a future for you. Can't count how many times I've fallen for a guy whose already taken. I know how you feel. Only time will tell.
FOR THE GIRL ABOVE ME, YOU KNOW ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ABOUT LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-04 04:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by Elaina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be a future as soon as he settles his relationship with his girlfriend. When he is free, yes, there can be a future. Don't put yourself in the position of a double-take, though, it will crush your self-confidence, eventually. I hope his girlfriend finds somebody too, and you can all settle happily :) Good luck!
2006-08-04 04:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to tell.
You are not on an equal footing. He obviously places some value on his current relationship because you are not allowed to get near that.
He is probably very flattered by your attentions. More than you probably think.
I would say be very careful, and don't expect too much.
2006-08-04 04:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by JeffE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋