Okay. My son is 14 months old... I only have one. After my son was born I had heart failure... I'm too young to get fixed and my medical problem will not get it done. I had a near death experience and I was on b.control... It didn't work.... if I have another child I will pretty much will not be here to take care of my first child or let alone see my second one be born... should I have an abortion??? What would you do....
2006-08-04 04:30:07 · 57 answers · asked by Ann M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
This is one that you need to leave in God's hands... You have alot of what if's going on here... I have to say that you need to talk to you gynecologist about getting your tubs tied... If your health is that bad then the abortion is not going to be good for your your situation.. If you can go through and abortion then you can go through carrying and a C section to have another child. If you are not pregnant and your health is that bad then see about having your tubes tied... I would rather take the chance myself of dieing than to kill a baby that I was carrying.. Talk to your doctors.. and talk with the child's father.. then make your decision yourself... but from the sound of it you are only putting a band aid on the problem... Are you going to continue to get abortions every time you get pregnant... have this baby if you are pregnant then get your tubs tied. That is if your health is really that bad...
2006-08-04 04:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I truly think that I'd have the abortion. Your 14 month old son needs his Mommy in his life. It sounds like it's way too risky for you to carry another baby. I'd just find out first what risks there are to your particular situation in having the abortion. Could that cause heart failure again? Could you die from having the abortion? If these answers turn out to be "yes", and you have just as much of a chance dying from the abortion than you do having the child; then I'd keep the child. If the abortion is less dangerous for your heart, then I'd have it done. It's easy for others here to say, "Just don't kill the baby", but it's b/c they are not in your shoes and think for some reason that they could never make a mistake or have an accident happen to them. I have a friend who was on birth control, and just like you, she got pregnant!!! Turns out she was taking an antibiotic that interfered with her pills.
I'm very sorry that you are in this situation. This can not be easy for you. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
2006-08-04 06:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Marie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the people on here who say give baby up for adoption are obviously not reading your question. Second, I am a staunch opposer in abortion, however if there was a circumstance where it should be considered, in my opinion, this is one. You need to talk to your OB/GYN and if the only options are carring the baby and you dying or abortion, then you need to search your heart and decide if you have this child if leaving 2 orphans is a better personal decision than ending the life of a fetus. I have been through a situation where some would say abort, but chose not to, but this is a decision muct be made within your own heart and soul. If you choose not tho have this baby, please by all means discuss with your OB/GYN other birth control oprions so this decision does not arise again. Good luck.
2006-08-04 05:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Maechell D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ann, that's a very difficult question. We can give you ideas for options but only you can decide what to do. There is a lot of relevant information that you did not give in your question. How young are you? Are you still with the father of either child? How far along are you now? What are your beliefs about God?
It is generally accepted that if the mother's life is at risk, the dangerous pregnancy can be terminated.
I've read about mothers who willingly give their last breath to see their child brought into this world well and healthy. There is usually good spousal/family support involved in this scenario. Do you have a spouse or a family that will provide good, loving care for the children you would leave behind?
What does your faith have to say on the subject? Conservative Christians would tell you that abortion is immoral, no matter the circumstances. Moderate and liberal Christians are not likely to be so black-and-white about it.
No one should be telling you what to do in this circumstance. Those around you can advise you of your options and the consequences of those options. When the time comes, however, the choice is yours.
2006-08-04 04:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ldy_Kathryn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get an abortion -- it would be to "save the life of the mother" -- many religions, many "pro-lifers" allow this exception. All prochoicers do. You can look up surveys on abortion and see where the majority of people agree abortion should be allowed in such circumstances.
Then you are not too young to have tubal ligation if having another child will greatly endanger your health. This will give you 100% birth control, and may be reversible. Your homones will all stay the same, so you will avoid all problems you've had with birth control pills..
You should look on the internet for statistics on the percentage of successful reversals; it is pretty high considering that this is supposed to be a "permanent" birth control. Having only one child is difficult to accept, but the alternative, the risk, is too great.
2006-08-04 04:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by TxSup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats a tough one. Honestly honey it'sup to you. Can your doctor not give you a c-section before your actual due date? Maybe like a month or month and a half early? OR could that still effect you? This is a hard one, because an abortion could probably do the same thing as giving birth, and I know how it feels to want to be there for your children. With my 1st pregnancy I lost a lot of blood and was in the hospital for 3 wks, my daughter ws already a home with my hubby, and I'm 39 wks pregnant again. But doc said it shouldn't happen again. I'm doing it for the sake of my baby and family, lets just ope everything goes fine this time! Good Luck to you, and if you need some one to talk too contact me. God Bless you and whatever decision you decide to make.
2006-08-04 04:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by lillady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little unclear...are you pregnant with your second child now? If not, and your medical condition makes pregnancy definitely fatal for you, talk to your doctor, they shouldn't have a problem tying your tubes even at a young age if pregnancy is going to kill you. If that's not an option, you need to stop having sex. It will kill you. There are plenty of other fun ways to enjoy your lover without risking pregnancy.
If you are currently pregnant, seek out a high risk pregnancy specialist. You might be on bed rest for 9 months, or have to take medications, and life will probably be very inconvenient for you, but think about how much you love your first child! Wouldn't the inconvenience be preferable to killing your child??
I'm very sad that this decision is even an issue. Growing up without a mother would be terrible, but preferable to not having a chance to grow up at all.
2006-08-04 05:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is best in your heart. Did you know the consequences of being pregnant again? No one could actually tell you what to do in a matter like this.Do as much research as you can to see the risks that would be involved with abortion. I really think you should try to stay around for the child you now have, but God doesn't give us more than we can handle. Again, search your heart for the final decision. If you decide to abort, try other birth control methods, I recommend the IUD, thats what I'm about to get. God Bless you with your decision, I know its not an easy one.
2006-08-04 04:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Rhea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would not even come close to a question on abortion, as I am a guy and frankly it has nothing to do with me whatsoever. However, that all being said, in your condition I would suggest you have a very open and very frank discussion with your OB/GYN, if it is an almost certainty that you will not survive then you have to ask yourself one simple question: Is my life and the life of my existing child worth my convictions? If you find that you are willing to die for your beliefs, then by all means go forward, if however you find that your life is more important than your disagreement with abortion then you will have made your choice. I know this cannot be easy for you in any way, but I can only hope you find the answers you need, and it most likely won't be from here, but from within yourself.
Just my 2 cents worth
2006-08-04 04:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by capbarrow2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your only option is to have the abortion. I was going to suggest that you put the child up for adoption but seeing as you may not make it through the childbirth forget it. Look into a more effective birth control being that you are too young to have a tubal. If you still want another child in the future you can always adopt. Good luck.
2006-08-04 04:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you saying should you have had an abortion? or are you saying that you are now again pregnant and wonder if if you should have an abortion now?
either way i would not do it.
can you imagine how much that would haunt you. i could not do it personally. i would not be able to handle it, knowing that i killed a life. but that is just me.
if i were in your shoes, if anything adoption would be an option. and you know you don't have to have sex at all.
i mean seriously if you are that worried and know that your body cannot handle another pregnancy, i would get my self fixed. because that is what i did after my second child was born. i was 26.
2006-08-04 04:37:39 · answer #11 · answered by jenzen25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋