My boyfriend makes me so sick at times but then he makes up in some of the most amazin ways. He has cheated on me before and im pregnant. He wants to move me an him into our own place but I dont know if I should trust him to live with. What if he comes home the next day, hoes start callin. What decision should I make. I know he loves me an cares alot. But he is still young . I dont want anyone else . I LOVE HIM. BUT I LOVE MYSELF 2. HELP...
2006-08-04 04:16:07 · 51 answers · asked by BLACK BEAUTY(GURL) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
leave him and have an abortion.
2006-08-04 04:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Pavic♫ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should trust him if he is worthy and man enough to father your child.
Having flings is one thing but when it goes down to responsibilty, there you should mirror if him in the family picture would give you security or just add an extra burden.You carry the answer to your question just that now you have to also to take into consideration your baby and his future,with or without his dad in it.Basically,it will all depend on what you think would be best for you and your baby now and in the near future.You know him much,much better than anyone else so follow your heart and make up your mind.It's really your call to answer you know so be very brave.Reflect on his efforts & behaviors yesterday and today and if you can see yourself growing old with him in the future. Pull yourself together if he's not the one,not good enough,or just not capable.You can't love yourself more by doing such act as letting him go no matter how it hurts you...and your baby.Give yourself and your baby that favor and you'll both be happy in the long run.You're not alone anymore,you have too many options to consider like to keep the baby,terminate the fetus,or give him up to adoption centers,it's really all up to you & his worth to you.Just don't deny your baby the happiness he deserves by dragging him down to heartaches looking up to his dad who doesn't show any respect to his wife...his own mother--that wouldn't be fair to any of you.
Think about it.
2006-08-04 05:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by cascadingrainbows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. He may make you feel great, but he is not faitfhul. You may want him more than anything in the world, but he will break your heart, if you trust him. Unless he shows amazing signs of change, he will remain a cheater, so respect yourself, and find someone else, their are people out their who will be 100 percent commited to you. You only deserve the best, don't get deceived that you can change a man, you will find out the hard way if you do. Their are other people in the World that can make you feel just as good, if not better, and treat you like you should. I know woman don't go by their head to often, but I usually don't either, just believe that there is something greater.
2006-08-04 04:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by ۞ JønaŦhan ۞ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always put yourself first, then him. For what you've said, it seems you have many doubts about moving in with him, so... don't do it. When the time comes you'll be sure of your decision, never in doubt.
Plus when you really love someone you don't cheat on them. When you cheat is either because you can or because you r not satisfied in the relationship. In this case I think it's because he believes he can since he has done it in the past and u forgave him. That give off the impression that u will always tolerate him cheating.
2006-08-04 04:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by oxalisb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he cheated once he will again. I fyou stay in that relationship the only thing you are going to get is hurt worse. My best friend was preganant and living with her man. He cheated and then right before the baby was due kicked her out and has not seen the baby till this day. So think about things real hard.
2006-08-04 04:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Widowed dad in michigan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point that child is your first priority. If you can support yourself and live on your own, you should do that. If you are living at home with your parents and they are willing to help you, then you need to stay there. From what you have said, unfortunately, it doesn't sound like this is a relationship that will last forever. Make sure you and the baby are taken care of, he has already proven that you CANNOT trust him.
2006-08-04 04:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweety... your man is trying to have his cake and eat it too.. once a person cheats on you that person will always cheat on you... I would not move in with him and I would go to the child support office and see about getting child support from him for his child... He is trying to get out of paying child support... i like to know when you girls are going to figure out that getting pregnant is the last thing you want to do with someone who you are not married too... I think it is the most selfish thing that a woman can do to her child... the child ends up without a major support system in his or her life and feeling that it has to choose one or the other parent until he or she is 18 years of age...that is if the girl will allow the child to have a relationship with the father...
and don't tell me it was a mistake because you know if you are protected or not as far as pregnancy goes... If you do decide to keep this guy then marry him before you move in with him.. If he doesn't want to get married then drop him because he will never marry you and you will end up alone when he leaves you for the woman that he will eventually fall in love with...... All I can say poor baby.. meaning the child that you are carrying... not you. just plum stupid on your part for getting pregnant with out being married... Just plum stupid... Oh and as far as loving yourself... If you loved this child you would have never gotten pregnant in the frist place until you knew that you could provide the child with a loving two parent family. Just very stupid on your part...
2006-08-04 04:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a situation just like that not too long ago, my ex fiance and i lived together for three years, and even though it was the best three years of my life, it was also the worst. he was verbally abusive and he always accused me of cheating. when he was the one cheating one me. my advice to you...tell him you are not ready to live with him yet and see how things go, when this baby comes and you see how he acts towards both of you then i would start thinking about it the last thing you want to do is bring a baby into a negative situation that you can't get yourself out of. i wish i had thought about things before i did it. i wouldn't be struggling so much now. good luck with your decision.
2006-08-04 04:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I have been there so my advice to you would be, move in with him, and like I tell my friends, study him girl watch all his lil moves just so you know that if you find out that he does cheat again you could have that in your mind that you tried and it failed, plus another thing if he is fooling around you need to make sure that u use protection b-cuz if he gets v.d he can pass it to you and it can harm you unborn, it can happen that's reality, men cheat with yucky skanks then the guy passes on his v.d to his poor girlfriend those poor things, take it or leave it but trust me I know what im talkin bout.
2006-08-04 04:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by ))-->rOXY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my sister 8 years ago!
She graduated, got a job, found out she was pregnant, moved in with my Mom, had baby.
He graduated, went to college, visited occasionally, came to the hospital, signed the b.c. & went back to school.
She is raising a 2 yr old alone
He is graduating from school
He gets a good job & buys a house (older fixxer) new sport bike, new car then asks her & the baby to move in
She quits her job, gets a new one, drowning in credit cards from raising their son alone for 2 + years.
He gets caught cheating
She forgives him
He's nice for a while, Helps pay down her debt
She's happier & the son is doing well
He gets caught again
She throws a fit & the fights get louder & physical but she forgives again
Repeat Above 2 times more with esculating fights & hitting
Present-Live in seperate rooms of his house
Both work at good jobs
Both dating others
Neither tells the other about the "secret lover"
Head games & Bull
Welcome to your life with your baby daddy
2006-08-04 04:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child should always come first, even before you. Do you think he'll make a good father and actually stay in his/her life? After the child should always come yourself. I think you both need to have a long conversation, like adults. Calmly take turns to express your concerns and terms of action your both going to take. A relationship can never be one sided, if it is then there is no relationship. Try and reach a middle ground.
2006-08-04 04:21:03 · answer #11 · answered by ADR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋