What is the difference between a couple cohabiting vs. a couple marrying each other and then living together...is there a huge difference? I hear many couples live together for years, but once they get married things go downhill...? What changes between living together before marriage and living together after marriage?
2006-08-04 03:59:56 · 21 answers · asked by monavyas15 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, i wish i know the real truth, this is what i think. it has to do with fully committed once you're now married. living together has a window of freedom to some degree. not only guys but girls too. to make it work, both must have the mind set that things will not change by a piece of paper that says so. i lived with my gf for 7 years before we tied the knot. and things hasn't changed since we met.
2006-08-04 04:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't religious, there really isn't much of a difference.
Generally, people marry because they feel committed to each
other (though not always). Therefore, married people MIGHT
feel more committed to the process ... but again, not always.
I certainly know of people who at this point are married by
common law (after 7 years, if you live together, you are
married whether you signed a license or not!) who are more
committed to each other than a lot of married couples I see.
And of course, the biggest thing the both agree on is the
desire to NEVER get married.
Granted, they are the exception, not the rule.
Again, its harder to go your separate ways if you are married
but the issue has to do with your level of commitment to
each other before hand - not whether or not you have a
marriage certificate. If you aren't committed, the marriage
won't last and if you are committed, then the relationship
will last without a marriage.
The real non religious events that come after cohabitation
are mortgage and children, not marriage. Other close
seconds are ill parents coming to live with you and
one person supporting the other one through job loss, etc.
2006-08-04 11:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a symbolic and legal ritual. If a couple is in love and is meant to be togother not much should change after then get married. Unless of course the womanis obssessed with Marriage and thinks the only reason they are not married is because the guy can not committ. In this case things would probably be better after marriage. But in reality there is almost no difference between being married and living together.
2006-08-04 11:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I can answer this with a short answer....When your just living together, the door is always open to just pack it up and go your separate ways, no hassles and your still an independent person. Marriage is different because you have to be responsible for your whereabouts, you can't make a big decision without consulting the other, and don't even flirt when the other is near. Your more controlled on your actions when your married than when your just living together. This rule is not always true, but it is the majority. Hope that helps. ;)
2006-08-04 11:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by jkcmr2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a legal bond for better or worse in sickness and in health. Cohabiting is two people who wish to be together because the want to be. When the cohabitating couple decide to marry that freedom is lost. And it becomes a legal bond. End of story. Sad but true.
2006-08-04 11:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by lordcomplexity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Chivalry says, "The taboo used to be living together first, but, modern day cohabitation gives a couple insight, and show them what their partner is like before getting married. It gives a couple a sense of what to expect during marriage, and it helps make the decision easier."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-04 11:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion, I'd say that the flame dies instantly when you attain something you can't have. What I mean by this is that most people look at marriage as the one time, no turning back, last chance deal to make with a partner, and then once that decision is made, nothing is left. Think about it. The only thing you have to look forward to after that is anniversaries, and aren't those just cheap little excuses to feel guilty for forgetting an occasion...
2006-08-04 11:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my experience we lived together nefore we got married and got most of the really bad fighting out of the way before the wedding. SO in my opinion, I would say it is a great test as to whether or not you can live togtether. After we got married nothing really changed except we already had a head start on staying out of each others way when needed.
However, I could totally see people getting TOO comfortable with each other and start taking liberties that aren't appreciated.
2006-08-04 11:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by ruckusssss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
also i heard marriage finishes somethings but i spend with my wife 3 years living together and 3 years marriage. i feel myself married for 6 years and no problem for us when married, still goes on. every couples must live together few years before marriage.
2006-08-04 11:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by HOTTürk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only difference that i can see is that after you get married either you or your loved one starts to realize that you no longer are just living together anymore. In my opinion the only real difference is that after you get married you now acquire all of the debts of loved one.
2006-08-04 11:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by csandre2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋