On the two occasions he has had them he hasn't brought them back on the day he should have, is abusive on the phone and this time he seems to have left his new girlfriend to look after them!
2006-08-04 03:49:10 · 26 answers · asked by Jennifer C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You could go to the court and bring poof that he is doing this to u and then you could get full cusdoy
2006-08-04 03:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea to keep the kids from him unless he's physically abusing them. Your best bet is to allow them time with him and let go of the hard feelings you have about him. If your children grow up knowing of the tension between the two of you it could make them feel a lot of pressure and insecurity. You would be setting a better example by trying to get along and letting go of the the little details that drive you nuts. Not coming home on time is very inconsiderate to you. Having to wrap your whole schedule around his can be very aggravating but if you be the bigger person and let those things go it will pay off. I went through the same thing but I didn't want the kids to have any hate in their heart for their father or anybody else so I sucked it up and dealt with it. Your kids will be a lot better off if you set a good example to be flexible and forgiving. When they're older they'll decide how much the relationship with their father is worth to them and if you handle these things with grace they will always respect you for it.
2006-08-04 04:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost you should ask your kids how they feel about going with their dad and then you should get over this little abusive **** on the phone because he is probably just standing up to you and letting you know that you do not run his life anymore and then you should not be bitchin because he left his g/f to take care of them you should just be thankful he is taking care of them i am sorry it is women like you that should not have custody of their kids becasue i can just imagine you putting a bunch of bullshit in your kids heads about their dad and maybe you should find something or someone to make you happy when they r with their dad so you don't have to worry about them the only reason a father should have his rights taken away is if he does something to the children but just pissing you off and not giving you what you want then that is no reason to take the children away from their father b/c that is what you r trying to do. and i can tell by the way you r writing that you probably r not even divoreced so legally he has just as many rights as you do and if you do have a court order then you could do some thing about it!!!!!!!!! sorry but that is just how it is.
2006-08-04 04:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by wandamejia1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you get him to go to a solicitor with you that does mediation, he seems very angry about something and is hurting you by not opening up, yes I know you are separated but his thoughtlessness is not doing him any favours and mediation is better than a judge in court telling him no access till he gets a grip on life, explain to him that you are not happy with the stress he is causing to both you and the children and unless he agrees to sort this out in a adult fashion and stops acting like the age his children are then you will have to go to the court and do it the grown up way, good luck hope you get it sorted.
2006-08-04 04:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be with the kids if he wants to see them. He has a legal right to access unless he is an axe murder e.t.c, but a mediator to sort out the details/visits would probably be good if he is being abusive to you. Contact your lawyer again and see if you can re-facilitate an agreement. The courts may be interested in reviewing his contact in the light of this new information.
2006-08-04 03:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by fizzycrystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they only your children then, or is he their father too?? A father feels for his children as much as a mother feels for them. Why do you think you have the right to stop your children having their fathers company?
As I'm getting annoyed I'll stop answering. Too many women think that a child belongs solely to them, they think of themselves and not whats best for the children. It makes me sick
4 Aug. 20.31
After knowing a little more about your situation, it is apparent to me that my first answer to you above is wrong. In your situation I would stop my children seeing their father because a parent that is not constant could damage the children mentally. I hope you can get it sorted out. Maybe you should see a solicitor for advice.
I wish you all the best. and publicly apologise to you for being so severe at the start.
2006-08-04 04:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you remember when you were married together? did you mind them being with their father then? even if their father brought them home 8:30 if he was supposed to bring them at 8:00. So what? For god's sake what is wrong with some of us adults? Do we understand children's needs as well or we just wanna be spitefull and take things out on one another at the expenses of little innocent one's who dont understand grown up psychological games yet. Talk to the guy like you would when you had were making the babies and tell him how you like things to be but for children dont go over the top even if he brought them little bit or even a day late (if that doesnt upset your plans but dont be too fussy and nit picking). If he is abusive towards you is not childrens' fault. He is a nutter but why you wanna bring yourself to his level. He wants you to get upset, he wants you to react and I gotta feeling that he still got some feelings for you and that is why its important to get reaction from you but he doesnt know how to get good and positive reactions from you and that is why he is where he is now. Dont let children suffer because of his stupidities (that is if they love and enjoy to be with their dad). as it might fire back and children resent you when they are grown up thinking you were the reason they didnt have good relationship with their dad. Good luck
2006-08-04 04:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by one_faithful_mo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are his children then he should have access to them.
However, if he is using them against you, then that is "abuse".
His new-girlfriend should be checked-out for her suitability to look after the children, if he is leaving them with her.
Get the solicitor and the court to make a firm ruling either for or against him.
Record the tirade of abuse over the phone this should provide you with evidence to his suitability. Do not tell him you are recording, though.
Regards Biggles
2006-08-04 03:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if 1. he is not abusive towards the children and
2. if he is responsible for their welfare when they are with him.
Its all good for people to call you evil for denying him access, but frankly they are your children. Question should be what is best for them? If he can't handle them responsibly, get a court order denying him access. Its better to have children with no Dad than children who are psychologically disturbed.
2006-08-04 04:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ms S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-01 02:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by emogene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEW LAW States about children born after 2003 or summink
gives more rights to fathers, but if your kids were born before
3-4 years ago.. unless you have LEGAL agreement
you can deny access....
2006-08-04 03:53:09 · answer #11 · answered by Banderes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋